liza, this is mostly for you since you asked, but i didn't want to keep posting on the other thread with a whole different topic.

my friend is not so good... after a big blowup a couple weeks ago, my other friend talked to her and she had a reason for EVERYTHING. it was like she was prepared for the conversation. she claims she's healthy and wants us to "believe" her. she's continuted to lose weight and is now at the point of looking "sick". she just doesn't look well. i told her i am always here to support her but that i am still concerned and i can't believe that she's healthy. she has developed this new attitude too, where she thinks she is superior to everybody because she has this new "healthy" lifestyle. she's doing crazy things like taking my other friend shopping for bathing suits and only making her try them on. it's so frustrating to sit and watch and not be able to do anything.

liza, i hope you're doing alright... i think i read a post of yours and you didn't sound all that happy. take care and thanks for asking about my friend. you guys are all so great on here.

Thanks for the update, and im sorry to hear that you still havent gotten a break through. Its just so interesting to talk to you because I feel like i am talking to my freinds about it. I too have told them that i am healthy and not to worry, but its so obvious, i just cant bring myself to tell them. I really dont see how i have any freinds right now. I know for a fact i couldnt be freinds with someone like me. I actually have told my family and doctor about almost everything and am getting medical help now which is good. Im just still having a hard time with the disorder. It is a day to day struggle, some good some REALLLLLLY bad. Today was actually alot better. I hate to tell you that theres not much you can do, but theres really not. She has to come to the realization herself of what she is doing. She might still be in denial about her problem and think that she is just dieting and that everyone else is jealous or overreacting. It took me awhile to get past that stage. Hang in there, i know this is difficult for you. Keep me updated and if you need any advise or support, we are all here for u!
liza

Hi liza!

Thanks for the reply... I like talking to you too because I get a better idea of what my friend is going through. I think her exact words were "you're blowing this way over the top", so when you say that you thought your friends were overreacting, etc, it's the same thing. And when you say that you can't believe you actually have friends still... that hits home too because it's becoming extremely hard for me to still be her friend. It's hard to constantly be nice to someone who is rude, acts like she's better than you, lies to you, and is no longer willing to talk about her life with you. I almost feel silly to keep trying and to tell you the honest truth, I am starting to give up... I just feel like I need to give her some space otherwise we really will drift apart because it's hard to be around her. In the end, I will always be there for her, and I would do anything for her, but how far do you go for someone who treats you so poorly? She is a completely different person now. I am just trying to accept that this really isn't her... my friends and I are hanging in there for now.

Anyway, thanks again. You are an incredible person for seeking the medical help you need and for opening up to your family about your eating disorder. I thought my friend was a strong person, so you must be very strong. Take care!

happyhelper

Thanks so much for the encouraging words. It is really tough right now but i know that its onlly for the better that they know. I wish ur friend would open up to someone. Its a shame that it seems like shes losing such a good friend like urself but like i said, theres not a whole lot you can do. Your right though, im glad u realize this really isnt her. I wish i couldl give you more advise but its just so hard because until she realizes her problem she cant be helped. Keep in touch happyhelper and take care as well!
liza