I'm very curious as to why people have eating disorders. I think sometimes they think they are fat or that they want to have control over their lives. Am I right?

In some cases yes but in others it is because of other underlining problems. Not all people who suffer from Ed think that they are fat. Not all people who have Ed's want to have Ed.That is why it is called an disorder. Alot of people who suffer from Ed have had tramatic experiances and that experiance has caused an ED. Each person is different. I cant speak for all but in my case it has nothing to do with thinking I am fat.
Jamie

I'm very curious as to why people have eating disorders. I think sometimes they think they are fat or that they want to have control over their lives. Am I right?


With me, I grew up seeing my mother always diet and be preoccupied with her weight. Your parents are supposed to be your role models, and when their not happy with themselves it's really easy to look at yourself and think, 'Well, what's wrong with me? Am I okay?' Also, I was sexually abused and that tends to give one a really poor self image of themselves and their bodies. BTW, I was never fat growing up although I ate alot. Actually I was underweight most of my childhood and some of my teen years.

i was fat when i was little (no lie), and i would eat and watch tv and o yah living the life as a lazy obese kid with not a care in the world! haha, but then, u kno...we grew up, all my friends were skinny minnies, i became jealous, ppl called me fat, so i dieted, then well..ended up bulimic. i have my WHOLLLEE life story sumewheres in these boards..

I have a problem my freind is bulimic shes always moody this has been going on for a while and if I say anything to her she gets angry and reminds me how i used to have anna i someone please help

:confused: My freind who also is my neighbor thinks her eating dissorder (bulimia) is perfectly fine we used to be best freinds now she doesnt hardly talk to me she needs help before its too late but i dont know how to help her I dont care if she hates me for the rest of my life for helping her i just need to know how to help her ~Thank you peps~ :angel:

thats bad...and yah, when i was at my worst for my bulimia, i quit being sociable with my friends...i would lock myself in my house and just talk to them on the computer. i never really wanted to do netthing...Or i love vball but i would DREAD every practise and game. luckily im better tho.:)

Im glad your better. I fill like its my fault shes suffering through this Because like I said I used to have anna and she constantly brings that up if i say something to her about getting help. Im so scared about my freind she keeps losing more and more weight shes lost like forty pounds she wont talk to anyone anymore im really trying to stick with her though this but im worried im going to loos her I have already lost two freinds this year I dont want to loos her too I would be devastated.if you have any ideas on how I can help her please please tell me.

~Thank you~ and a special thank you too SammyT for replying

I honestly don't know why I ended up with Bulimia. I come from a good home, went to church, parents are still married. I was a think kid who could eat a lot because I was very active(grew up on a farm.) It really all started when I got my first serious boyfriend. I was 16 years old. He was tall and very thin, like 6' and 128 pounds. I was 5'5" and 135 and thought I should be thinner than him. So, I started dieting... and starving myself.

Well, the body can only take so much starvation before it revolts and soon I started eating and couldn't stop, so I started purging and abusing laxitives. AHHHH. it was really horrible. My ED consumed all of high school and college and I even was discharged from the military because of it- I had full blown bulimia, binging and purging several times a day. And I was the heaviest I had ever been- 150ish. My face was bloated, sores on my mouth. I was a MESS. I was miserable. I wanted to quit my ED so badly. But its a horrible addiction.

So soon I started drinking. A LOT. A real Lot. I ended up in rehab for alcohol abuse. Then I found out I was pregant. ( I was married at this point so it was good news) I quit drinking, I quit binging. Being pregnant gave me a reason to treat myself well. I was the happiest I had been ever. That was 3 years ago and since then I had 2 minor flare ups- after the birth of baby#1 and baby #2. I consider myself recovered.

Bulimia just doesn't have it's claws in my brain like it did before. Now its like I am able to step back and see the whole picture. Plus, being a mom of 2 small kids I don't have the TIME to binge, or to recover from a binge. I can't afford the mood swings it brings or the depression. I know that to feel good and to be a good mom and wife I have to treat myself well. Its been a long road but I believe everything happens for a reason. I can only hope to be a good role model for my kids.

By the way, along those years I went to probably 5 different dr's, therapists, etc. and they didn't help AT ALL. I recover I had to get it right in my head that I WANTED and NEEDED to recover.
hope this helps someone know that recovery IS POSSIBLE.