Is there anyone else out there who lost their parents at a young age? I'm 19. My mom died in October of last year during my first year of college. Just looking for some support. Thanks!

:angel: I thought I was young when I lost my parents but I see there are younger and I really do feel for you....I am 39. I lost my mom at 35 and my dad at 39 (1 month ago). I wish there was something I could do for you.....my heart goes out to you

Hi,
I'm 24 and lost my dad to cancer about 6 months ago. It worries me that he will never be at my wedding, never meet my children (assuming I have kids), and the list goes on and on. So yea, being young I still wanna call my dad up to ask him q's and get his advice, or just share good news, and that hurts deeply.

I'm 27 and I lost my dad just 2 months ago. Due to various circumstances, I was still living with him and my mom. Still, every day at about 12:45 I expect him to call to tell me when he'll get home that day, then every day at 4, I "hear" his car drive up. I still catch myself just short of saying "oh, remind me to ask my dad when he gets home."

Hello,

I was 26 when I lost my mom and I thought that that was young age. That was 20 years ago. I still miss her so much but I can say that in my experience, in time I have been able to focus on all of the wonderful times and the positive things. Talking about her becomes something that makes me happy You will always miss her but in time you will be able to think of her in a way that makes you smile. I know the pain you are in right now and I am so sorry for your loss. Losing your mom is such an unbelievably painful thing. I pray that you have someone close to you in your family that you can talk to. If you need to vent or just need some support, these boards are great. I will be praying for you. Bern

Hi. I'm 14, and I lost my dad to emphysema in 02. I used to think I was over being sad, but I still cry every so often. I remember seeing a home video of when I was 2 years old, and my dad said 'She'll be in high school pretty soon!' and I'm going into high school this year. He also used to say he might surprises everybody and live to be over 80. He dide when he was 52.

I too lost my mom at a young age, right after I turned 20. It was really horrible (cancer) so I turned to the Lord and He helped make good come out of it. (I know that's the last thing anyone wants to hear). But, I still miss her of course, her 9 year anniversay was July 3rd. It's hard to be young and without a parent because when you meet people later, sometimes they don't believe you that you lost a parent or they say cruel things or they just get all quiet and treat you like your different. I worked in a restaurant too and every Mother's Day was/is very hard. I had to wait on all these customers who had their moms! Why didn't I? They were out with their moms and all I could do was bring flowers to a grave. Also co-workers and friends talk about their moms and it's still sometimes like a dagger in my heart. Why is MY mom gone? I would even find myself angry with my closest friends at times like when they complain about their mom or just talk about their mom, I think "when I was your age MY mom was already dead! Why do you get your mom?!!" It just doesn't seem fair. But, you are not alone, and instead of crying to God, "why????" I can say, "thank you God! Thank You for giving me such a wonderful mom for 20 years!!!! Is having her for my mom worth the pain? Absolutley! If I could trade in my mom for a different one that would live longer, would I? No way!!! I was blessed to have such a wonderful mother for 20 years and her painful death was worth going through to have her be my mom!

Hi, I can relate with you all. I lost my dad a month before I turned 17 to cancer. Now I am 25 and things have gotten easier for me to deal with, but for a long time, all I could remember where the times when he was sick and becoming worse and worse. That wasn't my dad at all. Now I think of all the great times we had. I was daddy's little girl and did everything with him. I will always miss him, but his memory (good ones) will always remain in my heart.

Kaia

To all here posting,

“Young people losing parents”. I can’t imagine some of you at the ages you are. Alsaser makes so many good points. They were our parents and we would have never traded them for another. For some reason it is not understandable why they were taken from us too soon. Yet I find comfort and pride in knowing they we were allowed to share a piece of their lives and hearts with us if even for a short time. They helped form us and make us who we are too. We have been truly blessed in this.

As for what age is considered too young. I was 41 when losing my grandmother mother and father all in one year last year. It knocked me completely off my feet. Some say they and I were both too young too. How can we put an age on this for anyone? Life is so short. We are all children no matter what age. Now I cherish life and won’t take it or anyone for granted from this time forward. Too young for me are those who are babies. Those who will never remember. That to me is too young. All of us here feel and hurt more then they ever will from this, but that’s because you received a piece of them and their hearts and memories. We have been blessed with the gift of them touching our very lives and they are still there even in our hearts.

God Bless you all at this very difficult time.

JohnD

saraw08,

I lost my dad without warning at 21. That was a few years ago, but it has certainly shaped my life and continues to do so. Its very difficult to let people get close to me. At times I push them away out of fear, knowing they can die at any time. My dad was my favorite person in the world! I mean that honestly, it is not glorified in retrospect. I used to pray that if God took one person from me, it was NOT my dad (I have also had all of my grandparents and a few cousins pass, so the reality of death has always been in my thoughts). Life does go on though, and we must too, as it is what they'd want us to do.

I don't know what your specific situation is, but you can see that there are many of us in a similar, if not the same, boat. Feel free to open up & talk to gain some support.

amaranthine

I lost my mother when I was 13 to suicide. I was an only child and she was a single mother so it was quite hard on me. I have only recently been able to forgive her and understand why she did it. She didn't leave a note. My life completely changed that day and got turned upsidedown. I went from being a shy, quiet, straight A student to a very angry, agressive wildchild. I got into drugs and alcohol to try and numb the pain I felt which was very silly of me considering it only caused more problems for me.

I'm now 26 and I have finally gotten over the anger and resentment and I can now begin to live my life again. I also see it as a positive considering I might not have the beautiful daughter I have today had circumstances been different. I still get sad about what happened and I miss her terribly, especially when my daughter asks about my mom and where she is etc.

My heart goes out to all of you who have lost a parent before their natural time to go. Just remember that there is no specific time that you should be over the grief..it all depends on the person. I can remember people telling me that I should be over it by now etc....it only made me feel worse.

A.

I really feel for your grief.... I am 32 and i loss my mother when i was 6 weeks old...she was 26. I never knew her , so in a way my loss is incomparable to yours. However the bond between our parents is unconditionally deep. There is not a day that i do not think about her.....that i smile for her...that i cry for her.....

but what keeps me strong is she found comfort in pain...she is at rest and she left a wonderful gift of life, whom is me.

6 months ago a very dear friend decided it was time to leave this madness we call life...he was also 26 but took the decision of death into his own hands, which some said was selfish in comparision to those who have no choice. This incident did make me revisit my grief once more for my mother at the same time as grieving for my friend.

Cry when you need to, smile without guilt, embrace their spirit when you need...call out their name when you feel alone...Grief will never leave you ever....but you should address it...dont be scared of it...dont hide it because there will be people around who can relate....

Take care and please find strength amongst your tearsx

My Dad died when I was 22 years old. I am 37 now and I still miss him like crazy. My Dad was older then Mom amd I feel bad because she has no one to grow old with and go on vacations like married couples do when they are retired. I know she misses him alot too. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of my Dad. I also lost my Grandma at the age of 13 Years Old. She was the only Grandma I knew and that was living when I was born. I know God has plans for everyone but why does he take them when we are so young? :angel:

hi

Unlike the rest of you I have not lost anyone but am preparing to lose my Dad to cancer. Unfortunately he is unable to beat it like he has been before. I am just 17 and my brother is 11. My Dad really wants me to go to university and is so proud that it is what i want but knowing that he wont see me go or see me graduate really hurts. Like some have said before me i would love my Dad to walk me down the aisle and see my children. Its not going to happen and we all have to live with that.

I really hope that I can be there for some of you but also that some of you can really be there for me cos i need some help to deal with this, it is so hard.

Take care and I hope and pray that you will be blessed with strength and know that your parents are looking over you and still loving you.

xxx

Spag

My God I know how hard it can be. I have lost Grandmother Mom and dad all in the last year. I don’t think there is a way to fully feel right about it. The best feeling I do have that allows me to accept it more easily is the pride. Proud that they were there to raise us, teach us their morals, and give us their heart pride and love as your dad has done with you. He will be there always and for everything. He lives forever in your heart and your soul. I have said this to others before. You’re a reflection of what’s best in both of your parents.

God Bless and prayers to you and your family at this extremely difficult time.

Sincerely
John

Well, I was 11. My mom died of cancer in 1969...Now you know how old I am....lol...I had an older sister who took care of me. I don't know what I would have done without her. We're still very close....have a lot of memories to share...good and bad...I can remember when my son turned 11, I thought, how in the world can an 11 yr old survive without their mom?? but I did. I still miss her alot...I have 3 sisters, I'm the youngest, and we all lost mom too early. But we made it and every does...it's just the hardest thing I've ever been through..

Thank you John.
Your message was lovely.

Im sorry to hear what you have been through it must have been very hard.

I have had some really bad day but i am trying to remain positive and be grateful for the time I have had with my Dad and for being blessed with such an amazing Dad.

Take care and all the best.

Xxx

Woah I haven't checked this thread in quite some time (lack of internet access at home). I read through all these posts and wow... I just don't feel so alone. Thank you all so much. There are times when I feel alone because none of my firends can really identify with me.

Spag- I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I was faced with the same thing with my mom. She took a turn for the worst in August as I was about to leave for University. You sound incredibly mature for your age (situations like these tend to bring out the maturity in us young'ns). Enjoy the time you have with your father and please keep us posted. You are in my prayers.

I lost my dad when I was 38 and my mom when I was 39. It was a 13 month period. Less than 5 months after that, my mom's youngest sister and my dad's only sister died, too. It's only been 2 years, and my pain hasn't gone away yet. I'm an only child, never married or have kids. I'm 10 hours away from my nearest family, and things get lonlier every day.

The hardest part is having either a problem or good news and I think to myself that I need to call my dad and talk about it. One time I went as far as to pick up the telephone, but reality hit me pretty quickly. Sometimes it's hard to get out of bed each day.

wb

I'm 18 and my mum died from cancer when i was 11, my Dad then died suddenly last year when i was 17. I wish there were some nice words i could tell you that would help take the pain away but unfortunatly theres not. All I can say is the old cliche about time being the best healer. This may not be true in the early stages and certanley losing both your parents takes a long time to come to terms with. Its been a year since my Dad went and i still can't get my head around it and fully accept that he's not here anymore all i can hope is that in time it will get easier. I wish you all the best take care

this dosent really relate to me but,my step dad died and his daughter,my wee sister is only 7 years old .Its onyl been 8 months since he died.But he died in another country on holiday and she never got to say goodbye or anything.

My mom also died when I was 19. It was the worst thing I've ever been through. She was not sick; she died very suddenly of a brain anneurism....one second she was alive, the next she was gone.
That was five years ago and now I am able to talk about it, and her, more. The pain never goes away, but I find ways to deal with it. I find little ways to honor her memory like buying flowers on her birthday and mother's day helps me with the grieving process. It also helps to talk about it. Are you talking to people about your mother's death? How did she die? I'm so sorry.

I lost my dad when I was 18.

Hi,
I work with someone who's Mom had died last spring, his Mom was 0nly 45 years old. My friend is 24 years old and his brother is 19. About a week before Thanksgiving I had notice a change in my friends behavior, he was so tempermental and just wanted to be left alone. I knew in my heart what the problem was. This is the first Thanksgiving without his Mom. I just let him have his space. Just last week he came up to me and just stated talking about his Mom, He misses her so much, My friend has a little girl, he has joint custody of his little girl. He said it's so sad that she doesnt have her grandma any more. He told his Dad and brother that they have to put up the Christmas tree for his little girl for when she comes over. That little girl is going to bring some joy to there Christmas-she has a big job ahead of her and she doesn't even realize it. My friend had told me that right now he cannot handle any stress and he is having a hard time working, WE work in a store so you have to deal with customer all the time. My heart goes out to him and all I can do is support him and be a good listener. What kind of feelings are you going threw? My Freiend says life is so unfair.
Karen W.

I am so sad to hear about everyone's loss but it makes me feel not so all alone in this respect.

I just lost my father two weeks ago to cancer and I am 26 years old. I never thought I would have to go through something like this at my age. I have good days and bad days. I am still having trouble sleeping.

I just feel sad that he's gone, and that he won't get to share in my life from this point on. At least I had a chance to tell him I loved him one last time and I knew that he was proud of me and of what I have done with my life so far. It's still not entirely real to me that he's really gone, but I guess I will come to grips with that as time goes on.

All the best to you all.

-WC

I'm glad that I came upon this site. I lost my dad 3 weeks ago to Pulmonary Fibrosis. It was so sudden and unexpected. I am still in shock and so is my mom. Every once in a while I realize how great a loss this is and I feel like throwing up. I can't control when I am going to cry and I started having nightmares about his death.
I really feel for everyone who has posted. It is such a hard thing to lose a parent at any age.

I lost my dad to cancer about 8 months ago, when I was 1*. This is the first Christmas I will have spent without him, so i've been really sad and emotional lately. I'm so unsure of what to believe in right now. I just don't understand how it could possibly have been right for me to lose him. Plus, my mom just started dating again and it's been really difficult seeing her with someone other than my dad. I know she's lonely, so i dont want to say anything to her, but the last thing i want right now is a whole new family. Does anyone have any advice?

I was 25 when my father passed away of cancer :( I found it somewhat scary to have to face the world without my daddy who I relied on for his unconditional love and support in all decisions I made in life. My dad used to travel for business alot when I was a kid and there are honestly times I have myself convinced he is still on one of those trips and will be home soon. Its unreal how your life can change so drastically so quickly when you are so young :(

I lost my father suddenly from heart disease when I was 13. I am now 31 and it is still horrible. I was Daddy's little girl and he was most of my world. My Mother started dating 3 months after he passed and married 3 months after that. We have had a charade of a relationship as a result so I felt I lost both parents within 6 months of each other. (I have heard the "its the way she grieved" crap, whatever...I don't want to hear it from someone who hasn't lost a parent...not you guys, but I have had friends try to sell me that line and it really pissess me off, my mother abandoned me for her love life...end of story)

It also meant we didn't grieve as a family...actually, I hardly grieved at all because I was supposed to accept my Stepfather right away. I think I go through rough patches around the holidays and important days. The hardest thing is feeling like I have no memories of him, or that I can't remember what his voice sounded like. Hands down the hardest thing I have gone through...and I am terrified, TERRIFIED of losing anyone else.

My best therapy is laughter and hugs from my husband. It is still hard for me to talk about, I hate crying or getting emotional in front of others. I also feel like no one really understands...and I don't want to bother them.

I think it will always be hard for me. I really do...

I lost my father when I was 19 from Hep C. Its been almost 3 yrs now. He got it back in the 70s from a blood tranfusion and it came out in 2000. He lived for a couple yrs after he found out he had it. My father was my world. I had a daughter in 2001 and she was 18 mos when he passed away. She doesnt remember him but I do have a ton of pics around and I tell her about him every day.

Hi,
I lost my Dad at 11 from a major motorcycle accident which witnessed.Lost my mom 9 years later of Lupus her's was a slow death.I am 42 now , I only know it will get better and much much more of a lighter load to bear on your shoulders .
Hang in there.
P.s I'm very sorry for your all of your losses!

Hello... I as 24 when my dad died, and like you I wonder about my wedding day and my children. I told my mom that I feel like a butter fly trying to fly with only one wing... her being my other wing. I am sorry all of you have had this pain, my heart is with you~

Hello.

I literally just found this forum online, and as soon as I read the subject I registered immediately.

I am 23 and I lost my mom 5 years ago in a car crash. Recently I have been having a really hard time talking to people about my thoughts and feelings, and it's driving me crazy. So often I feel completely separated from everyone around me, particularly when I am around young people, because part of me feels so old and removed from their experiences. Does anyone else have this experience?

The question I always have is, why am I so afraid to tell people that my mom's death is on my mind all the time? Is my fear more about their reactions, or my own?

I know exactly what you mean. I felt so separated from my friends after my dad died that I completley went into denial, and now, nearly a year later, it's difficult to bring it up. But i feel like i really need to talk to someone about how i'm doing, cause i'm not even close to being done with grief. I'm hesitant to talk to my friends about it because they can't relate and probably dont want to listen to my weepy stories all day long, you know? It's like i'm wasting my youth, thinking constantly about my dad and wondering if i'll ever be completley ok. i'm very slowly beginning to open up to my closest friends though, and they really try their best to sympathize with me

I found this site cuz i'm kinda feeling sorry for myself right now and it's comforting to find others around my age who have had similar experiences. I'm 26 and i've been losing my mom to cancer for a year and a half. She was given a 1.5-2 year prognosis and she is still in decent health but it's so hard to try to do anything with my life because i feel so guilty if i don't spend as much time as i can with her and try to be the perfect daughter. I've lost grandparents and friends to cancer and i've seen them on their deathbeads and i know soon enough it'll be my mom lying there struggling to breath and the thought makes me so sick to my stomache. It's hard because i look at her now and it's so easy to pretend she's not sick and it's so hard just waiting for it to happen, especially because i'm holding it all in and trying to live my life as normal as possible but the waiting is so hard. People treat it like i'm lucky to have her still, which i know i am because i can say goodbye and make everything right but at the same time just knowing that the worse is yet to come is driving me crazy!

Hi,
I lost my Dad at 11 from a major motorcycle accident which I unfortunately witnessed.Lost my mom 9 years later of Lupus her death was a slow very different from my Dad's.I am [INDENT]
now 42 , I only know it will get better and much much more of a lighter load to bear on your shoulders .
Hang in there.
P.s I'm very sorry for your all of your losses![/QUOTE]Any feed back would be nice thank's

Has anyone else witnessed there parents death?

I lost my mother when I was 18. I was a senior in highschool and she had been battling cancer (first lung, then brain, then ultimately pancreatic and liver) throughout most of my time in highschool. It was 5 years ago on Feb.18th. It is really hard, still. I miss her so much. I think about her every single day. It was so hard to watch her fight like a dog against such a horrible illness. I am ultimately relieved though that she is free from any pain and she is in a better place now. I was really close with her, that is why it is so hard. I sometimes feel like she was really the only person who understood me... It will get a little bit easier as time goes on. Sometimes it hits me harder than others. I feel her around me and know she is still in my life, even if she isn't alive anymore.

Yes, I understand. I lost my father at a young age, it's very difficult. Going through life without your parent or parents, especially when you're young.

I was very young having lost both my parents by the time I was 18.

My mother died of brain cancer the day after my 5th birthday. My dad who was my best friend in the whole world died when I was just 18.

Not only is it difficult to lose your prarents anytime but its even more difficult to lose them when you are at a young age and when you are not financially independent. My sister was even younger than me when this happened, she was just 15.

Its emotionally difficult and financially it was very hard. The first couple of years were difficult as I was still studying but even once I was working it was still hard. I bought a house and car all by myself. I have to rely on myself for everything. I cannot take any chances in life as I have no security net. But I'm happy I've been able to achieve everything I have.

I'm now 30 and making a good living and am doing ok, but I still miss my dad so much. I dream about him all the time. As for my mother, I feel like I never knew her.

In all though we are pretty messed up. Neither I nor my sisters have ever had relationships, I think we are all very afraid to get close to others and take chances. I'm very much afraid of hospitals and doctors, I feel like people go in and never come out. I guess I have a lot of scars from all this even though on the outside everything looks ok. Nothing can ever replace the love and comfort of having a parent around.

I guess the most important thing I can take away is that particularly in my dads case, we spent a lot of quality time together. We travelled the world he gave me everything he could. Some people have their parents around and will never experience what I had.

I lost my mum when I was 3 to breast cancer. I'm petrified of losing my dad or my brother.
It seems strange to use the word 'lost', its like we've only misplaced something.

I guess I should count myself lucky compared to some people, it must be alot worse for those who got to know their parents and then to lose them.
I can't imagine what it must be like for Will Reeves (Superman's son), he lost his grandmother, his dad and his mum in the space of 18 months and he is only 13 :eek:

I am now 48 and I was 11 when I lost my mom to cancer. Luckily I had a big sister (she was 22) and she and her husband raised me. and I must say, did an excellent job. It was very hard, but my sister and I talked a lot back then. Talking helps so much...we would talk and laugh about memories of my mom. then we
d cry a while...we had each other and learned to deal with it. Missed out on a lot of things my mom could have shared with me..the birth of my kids, my wedding....

I'm 24 and lost my mum suddenly 2 months ago. Its hard to get used to. I still go to ring her on my lunchbreak at work and want to tell her things. I just keep thinking about all of the things she is never going to see. Like her only daughter getting married and holding her grandchildren and getting old with the love of her life. Her death has made me realise that she and I were just beginning to get close after I had pushed her away through my teenage years and now I can never have what other women have with their mothers. I always wanted it but i never felt i could talk to her until the past year or so. and now i can never have that.

im a 1* year old student, still in school at the moment in scotland,
i lost my dad whn i was 10 years old, he died on the 23rd of december 2***.
now tht im 1* years old , i still find it very hard 2 accept tht he is gone.
at times i feel tht my life is crap 2 be honest, and at times i have felt suicidal at one point. though i know thts not the answer.
i jst find life very difficult after losing my dad. i have received councelling and i know tht it helps, though i jst cnt move on bcos of wt has happened.
ive missed out a lot through my childhood and still have, ill never gt the chance 2 see him or grow up with him and tht hurts me so bad.
ive lost my faith in god, or even if there is one. people tell me tht there is a reason tht my dad had 2 go. i dont think so... my dad meant everything 2 me. and now i feel tht my life has fallen apart at a very young age,
. As u know im finding it very hard growing up at the moment and trying 2 accept the loss of my dad. please help. my life without a parent is soo difficult.
can any1 gt bk 2 me. i would really appreciate it. thx.
u can contact me on my email address which is: REMOVED. :confused: :confused:




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I lost my mom when I was 8.....

I am 27 now, I lost my mom when I was 23. To top that off, my two step children 17 and 13, just lost their mother 2 months ago. I thought since it happened to me, it wouldn't happen to them, especially since they were there for me when my mother died. I wouldn't wish losing a mother at such young ages on anyone. It angered me a great deal to see them go through that. I have to say though, being there for them, and watching them in their unthinkably courageous ways has helped me to deal with death and the loss of my mother. Their stenghth is bewildering seeing that I fell apart, and am still broken from losing my mother. I have had a child since then, now two. It was then when I realized just how much I had lost when my mother died. When she died, along went a big part of the joy of having a child like, grandma always being there, seeing her so proud of my child, calling her every day about my pregnacy, and so many other things. I still do not no how to replace that or fill that void that plagues me every day. Yes, I said every day. I won't lie. Still, four years later and I am still left wondering, alone, lost. My advice to anyone is IT DOES GET EASIER WITH TIME. The hurt also eases, thank God, or else we would never get through it. It also helps to keep my mother alive in my daily activities, like how I do things, dinners I cook, pictures of her on my fridge, advice I still live by, talking about her, praying to her, and KEEPING IN TOUCH WITH ANYONE AND ANYTHING TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH HER. I only wish my heart would heal.

I lost my mom when I was twenty three. It was very sudden, but I believe no one can prepare. Your gratefulness of your twenty years is very inspiring. I am too greatful. That is what keeps me going! Anything that keeps you going is great to have! I wish for everyone that has lost their mom at a young age to have your spirit!! Cheers to you!!

hi saraw08, & everyone-

I lost my dad suddenly at a young age also- 21. I have grieved and dealt with the loss but it has caused my depression to become 100x worse, to the point where I can hardly get out of bed some mornings.

In the 5 years since he's passed I've lost many others too- at this point I have no grandparents, no siblings, just my mother and my husband. I do have aunts & uncles but we are not close. Luckily I still have very good friends, the closest of which I have known most of my life.

My dad was my #1 fan. He always believed in me. He wasn't perfect by any means, but my life is incomplete without him. The holidays and birthdays are especially hard. My wedding day and my graduation days were especially unbearable.

My heart goes out to everyone going through this :(

I have never tried to discuss this so here it goes. I never knew my dad because he passed away in 1968 when I was 18 months old. My mother and I moved from my hometown when I was 6 so that we could be near her sisters. My mother never re-married and I truely believe that she grieved every day of her life after my dad died. My mother passed away in 1989 after a year long battle with cancer, I was 23. That same year I met my wife and we were married in 1990. I really thought that things were going to get much better in my life but I was wrong. In 1991 I lost my Aunt Frances and in 1994 I lost my Aunt Honey, these were not just my mother's sisters, they were like second mother's to me. After all of this I thought surely this loss would stop but I could not have been more wrong. On March 3, 1996 our first little angel Paige was stillborn at full term. I cannot describe to you the loss I felt when I held my lifeless little girl in my arms. I could go on about this but it just makes me too sad, depressed, mad, angry, etc.. to talk about. Since then we have been blessed with two more sweet girls that I cherish with all of my heart. However, even at age 40, I still battle daily with the empty feeling of never knowing my dad, never having a true loving relationship with my mother and just generally feeling lonely, despite having my wife and kids. I could go on with this but I need to get back to work. Thanks for listening.

James

My nieces mother which was my sister lost her Mom to a Brain Anyerusm when she was 34 years old. My sister was only 55 when she dropped dead from the anyerusm. The sad part is for my niece is 75 days after she lost her Mom, her Dad had a major stroke and he died also. My niece was only 34 and lost both parents within 75 days of each other. Now that would be something hard to deal with and I know that mu neice made it thru this hard time because she was in church and that is what helped her alot. I feel so sorry for all of you thats lost a parent because I lost my Dad 2 years ago bout I was 48 and then 6 moths ago I lost my Mom. It is hard to deal with.

Is there anyone else out there who lost their parents at a young age? I'm 19. My mom died in October of last year during my first year of college. Just looking for some support. Thanks!

hi.. i lost my mother when i was 12 and just recently lost my father a few months ago (i'm now 22). i understand how hard it is, and how it is to be away from your surviving parent while you are at college. i don't know how much help i offer, but i'm here if you need any advice....

hi. i lost my mother when i was 12, and just recently lost my father a few months ago at 22. i think about not having my parents not being at my wedding all the time. and i think about not being able to give my kids grandparents. the loss of both of them (even though my mother's death was years ago) hits me hard and out of nowhere these days. i suppose it is because i will start my own family and will not have the support of my family... if anyone has any advice or words of wisdom to get through this, i would greatly appreciate it.

i lost my dad when i was 12 and my mum when i was 20 am now 25 i have a yunger brother hes 15 it dusnt get much easyer duz it i have a 2year old child and a loving partner i still feel alone tho

you are not the only one that was young when you lost a parent. i had just turned 21 when i lost my mom to cancer and it nearly did kill me because she was my mom and my very best friend we always did dtuff together and that was the haedsets when i had to do thingd buy my self and had to trust other people beside her. i learned that i had to go on with life but if you need to vent please use these boards and we will help as much as we can.

I'm 16 I just lost my mom in march...and my dad i havent talked to since i was 8 n he is in prison for the rest of his life. I wanted to reply to u because I'm in the same boat. Im so lost i dont know what to do.I cant talk to any one,because i have like no friends. So if u need someone to talk to im here,I know how u feel.

i;m 19 and i lost my mum to NSCLC which spreaded to the brain then the rest of her body. losing a parent is very hard for anyone, either they are step parents, foster parents and all the other i may have left out. parents are like guardian angels they always offer support and advice like a anchor. when a big storm comes then you are still left standing there becasue they're holding on to you. i guess when you loss a parent its not about age. it doesn't matter how old or how young you are, because that person that you lost - in my case, my mom, shes been in my heart since i could even think about 'that is my mum' . like when i cry and she walks into the room and picks me up everything is alright and something they do is comforting.