i have a supervisor at work that is always on my back and for months i have been just smiling and taking it. well i have had it and despite my better judgement about my reputation getting trashed and looking bad professionally in front of higher ups i lost it today and got mad. i know i shouldn't have done this and she seems to pick on everybody an equal amount. noone likes her, it's not just me. i swear today she made me so mad i was at my wits end and even had the sudden urge to just walk out, just to stand up for my rights, i wanted to come home and call headquarters and complain, but i knew it wouldn't do much good except now i would be worse off without a job and all my bills due. i don't know why i take things people do so hard. do you think this could be due to the depression or am i just an unprofessional loser and just need to grow up. she knew i was mad but just kept right on being her annoying self.

It's a personality thing, which may be related to depression. Some people will address things right then and there if they don't like something that's happening. I just take it again and again. I'll complain about it, but I don't really do anything about it. Then again, everyone ignores everything I say anyway, so I don't know what I could do about it. Upper management couldn't care less. HR? Maybe. If you just keep taking it and let it build, eventually you're going to blow up. It's not your fault, and it's something perhaps you could work on, although if you're like me, you may have found it easier to just bite your tongue rather than get into a confrontation. People walk all over me, and I either take it, go behind their backs, or play their same game (ignore them, letting them fall on their faces). More and more lately I've considered just quitting, regardless of the consequences. I don't even care any more. Though I've only had one nightmare that I recall, I've lost plenty of sleep, and it's constantly on my mind. Too many people have pushed me too far that I can snap at any time. I probably won't snap on the people who have been good to me for the most part, but anyone who's caused me grief is fair game.

wow im so far past snapping that i find myself getting really mad at silly things that people that i don't even dislike do and i'm starting to get paranoid which i hate. my job place is sooo serious. i guess when you have managers who run around threatening to fire everyone you would get a little paranoid and realize that maybe you shouldn't say what your actually thinking? i just had it today. i hate working with this lady. she is always saying she is having personal problems(wow like the rest of us are not) but at least i know better than to bring it to work with me and clobber others with it! i'm the person, if i say something to somebody and it upsets them i can't just go "oh who cares, they deserved it" i feel awful and my conscience bothers me for days. yes, i could complain to district, but then how would i look when executive walks in trailing two other people behind her wanting to know what is going on. i would look like an *** they would be like"thats all" and axe me for being such a whimp. it is just infuriating. and you don't want to let anybody see you sweat. :nono: (they almost saw me cry today) what a baby :rolleyes:

Where I work they can't threaten to fire anyone because most people get fed up with it so fast that they leave within a few months. My department used to be the one exception, but we're joining in thanks to the other departments causing unnecessary stress.

One person where I work cried, and they made a bunch of changes to make her happier. I used to cry all the time, but then I took meds, so now I can't cry any more. I'd probably be better off if I did cry, though. Then someone might actually give a damn. Of course, this wouldn't work in all job environments.

i have a supervisor at work that is always on my back and for months i have been just smiling and taking it. well i have had it and despite my better judgement about my reputation getting trashed and looking bad professionally in front of higher ups i lost it today and got mad. i know i shouldn't have done this and she seems to pick on everybody an equal amount. noone likes her, it's not just me. i swear today she made me so mad i was at my wits end and even had the sudden urge to just walk out, just to stand up for my rights, i wanted to come home and call headquarters and complain, but i knew it wouldn't do much good except now i would be worse off without a job and all my bills due. i don't know why i take things people do so hard. do you think this could be due to the depression or am i just an unprofessional loser and just need to grow up. she knew i was mad but just kept right on being her annoying self.

My son also can't seem to find a job where the supervisor or boss isn't a big ol' a-hole. They don't get it, that some things do take time. A job rushed is half-quality. They want it done yesterday.

My son is writing programs for his job while he gets through school (he wants degree in computer programming) and the boss expects it to be finished like yesterday!

My son gets annoyed but he realizes as long as he does his work while he's there, they can't say anything. He tells the boss it will be finished when it's finished and that's all. Everyone else that the boss yells at seems to get mad, end up in a fight with him and end up fired or quit! My son keeps his cool luckily but it does annoy him.

I think when bosses push too hard it can have opposite effects; in my son's case, he's decided to take his time writing the programs on purpose, just to screw them over. Since they don't know a thing about programming, they have no idea how long it really takes.

Now, before the boss started his nonsense on him, he was trying alot harder to get the writing done faster...

So the boss screwed himself by acting the way he did. So I wonder how many other employees in other places start not caring about their jobs or productivity for the same reasons?

I've read that the better/more understanding the boss=the harder and more productive workers who care about their jobs.

jennita,

the thing that is hard for me is that there is no recourse i can take. i have been taking her treatment for months now. and i look around, it doesn't seem like anybody else is getting it the same way i am, my coworkers even tell me "why do you let her do that to you?" i am a doormat in front of my coworkers, and because of this lady i now look like a pushover. it is all because i am depressed! but i can't even tell anybody "hey i can stand up for myself, i'm not the spineless loser i seem to be, i'm just depressed" because i don't know how they would react to me after that. so basically i just have to keep on going in and having an argument(?) with her, and others have complained about this lady. beause she is higher up on the todum(sp) pole, nobody takes it seriously. it is to the point where i am about to crack. and the other day i did. now regret it. she is evil, she goes right behind your back and complains about you, if you do not take her crapola. most of us have been there longer than her, and she resents this. i feel like i do not want to do my job when she is over us for the shift because i can not keep my self respect when she is in my face telling me these ridiculous things and barking her orders. i am at my wits end really. nowhere to vent except this board!

i have a supervisor at work that is always on my back and for months i have been just smiling and taking it. well i have had it and despite my better judgement about my reputation getting trashed and looking bad professionally in front of higher ups i lost it today and got mad. i know i shouldn't have done this and she seems to pick on everybody an equal amount. noone likes her, it's not just me. i swear today she made me so mad i was at my wits end and even had the sudden urge to just walk out, just to stand up for my rights, i wanted to come home and call headquarters and complain, but i knew it wouldn't do much good except now i would be worse off without a job and all my bills due. i don't know why i take things people do so hard. do you think this could be due to the depression or am i just an unprofessional loser and just need to grow up. she knew i was mad but just kept right on being her annoying self.

You didn't really explain HOW you got mad....!!! Did you just snap at her? Did you yell? Call her names?

Years ago I was going through a very bad time - depression, family problems, you name it. I had a new job and my supervisor didn't like my work, or me. He never said anything, just copped an attitude. Finally I'd had it. I went into his office, closed the door and confronted him about it. I didn't yell, scream, or call him names (I did cry a little bit) but I told him I didn't deserve that treatment. He was pi**ed at me and said I wasn't doing a good job. I said Well, why don't you tell me, then? He said Well, I keep forgetting to. (Right.) Any, we fought and bickered and I told him some of what was going on with me and that I was doing everything in my power to change things, but it would take time. I think he saw that I was in a serious crisis, wasn't looking for any pity or special treatment, and we worked out a few changes that helped us work better together. After that, we were both happy and actually became friends. Of course, we were both sane people to begin with - we just needed to develop some better coping skills. When you are dealing with a wacko boss it's a different story.

I had a wacko boss, too, who stabbed me so hard in the back once that I almost walked out and never came back. Instead, I asked the Human Resources Manager to sit in while I talked to him. I chewed his sorry a** off. I had no respect for him and got that point across pretty strongly. He apologized and I wasn't fired, but HE was fired a few months later.

No matter what's wrong with you, you don't deserve that kind of treatment from a boss, even if they treat everyone "the same". That is like water torture when it goes on day after day. It demeans and degrades you. Why should you put up with it?? They're in a position of power and they can treat you in a way that you can't treat them.

It's best to confront a boss one on one, face to face, in private (unless you're dealing with a pathological liar or sexual harasser - in that case, get an HR person to sit in with you). Be calm but firm with them. Don't chew them out in front of the entire office - give them the respect that you would have them give you. And be prepared to be fired - it might happen. But don't put up with abuse!

I've been in the work force for 25 years and have had to learn to be tough. You don't have to raise a fuss - just let people know where you're coming from.

i would rather not say what i said or did.

for the most part this is the best working enviroment i have ever been in, it is just this one lady that is always making life misreable for everybody, and at the same time that i did not swallow her order she repeated herself in a nastier way i still blew her off in a huff.....

i like to keep the air clear between me and my coworkers or boss, i just had enough. i felt good about it after the fact. although she followed me all shift and still trying to give me the same treatment.

i have a new opportunity for a better paying job....i am going to go for it, and pray i get it. i am tired of the same enviroment day after day.

jennita,

the thing that is hard for me is that there is no recourse i can take. i have been taking her treatment for months now. and i look around, it doesn't seem like anybody else is getting it the same way i am, my coworkers even tell me "why do you let her do that to you?" i am a doormat in front of my coworkers, and because of this lady i now look like a pushover. it is all because i am depressed! but i can't even tell anybody "hey i can stand up for myself, i'm not the spineless loser i seem to be, i'm just depressed" because i don't know how they would react to me after that. so basically i just have to keep on going in and having an argument(?) with her, and others have complained about this lady. beause she is higher up on the todum(sp) pole, nobody takes it seriously. it is to the point where i am about to crack. and the other day i did. now regret it. she is evil, she goes right behind your back and complains about you, if you do not take her crapola. most of us have been there longer than her, and she resents this. i feel like i do not want to do my job when she is over us for the shift because i can not keep my self respect when she is in my face telling me these ridiculous things and barking her orders. i am at my wits end really. nowhere to vent except this board!

Very sorry it's so bad. Well, your idea of getting a new job sounds best. Good luck! :angel: