Ok. I know it sounds strange but I'm in love with a girl that I've never once seen in person or met before. I think about her always, and I can't even go on a vacation into the wilderness without wishing she was there and how perfect it would be with her. The thing is she isn't a movie star or celebrity either. I know this has to do with depression-having healthy obsessions, but that is the irony of life. I would do anything to just see her or meet her and somehow that would ease my mind and pain. She just seems like the special one for me, but is so far away from my life and reality. All I know is that I only have one chance and only will live one life and so I wonder what I have to lose? Any thoughts out there on coping with this? Thank you so much.

Ok. I know it sounds strange but I'm in love with a girl that I've never once seen in person or met before. I think about her always, and I can't even go on a vacation into the wilderness without wishing she was there and how perfect it would be with her. The thing is she isn't a movie star or celebrity either. I know this has to do with depression-having healthy obsessions, but that is the irony of life. I would do anything to just see her or meet her and somehow that would ease my mind and pain. She just seems like the special one for me, but is so far away from my life and reality. All I know is that I only have one chance and only will live one life and so I wonder what I have to lose? Any thoughts out there on coping with this? Thank you so much.

How do you know (of) her? Is there a reason you can't meet?

I know how to meet her and what city she lives in, but I am afraid to meet her. What would I say or do? I can't just walk up to her house or apartment and say," I am deeply in love with you and would do anything for you." I would probably be way to nervous. What if she is already married? The thing about her is that she is like my IDEAL everything that I want in a young woman. What would you do? The other thing is she might think I'm completly crazy, even though I'm not like that.

I had a friend in school that I wasted alot of years pondering over....He was my every thought....every song came on it was about him....every guy I met didn't come close to being him..This started when I was 17. Finally when I was about 26 I had a chance to physically be with him and you know what?? It was every thing I wanted and more...so him and I have been friends ever since but I still was not the one HE wanted. It sounds so cliche to say it but If you love it set it free. I had to live for today and do alot of soul searching to realize that in this life I was never going to be the one he wanted. He is now married and so am I still think about him. I almost wish I never met him so he wouldn't be in my thoughts. Be careful what you wish for because you may get it and be heart broke only to find out your not what SHE wants. Is this girl your age? How old are you? How did you come to find out about this girl? Is she seriously out of your league?

I love a girl, that actually loves me. And I can never be with her, because at some point of my life I stopped loving me. She will always be in your thoughts, but only time can make her a distant memory.

But how do you know OF her? Did you meet her on-line? Is she someone you work with? How did you first become aware of her existence? How do you know she is your ideal if you have so little info about her that you don't know if she is already married?

Hi! You have placed this girl in an unreachable position.. She is not perfect - She is just a girl. You have no way of knowing yet, if she's the "right" girl for you. Try to find casual way to meet her, and don't come on to strong. You don't want to tell a girl, that you have never, that your "in love with her" (not that you would).

Once you meet her, you may find out that she is not the girl of your dreams. But, who knows - she may be the love of your life. If you keep in mind that she is - just a girl - as imperfect as we all are, you may find it easier to approach her.

Good Luck - I hope it turns out well. Let us know...

Cheers! Melissia