I have this friend who's father has a bad temper- he has never hit her, of the brother or they mother, but he gets in these weird moods.
yesterday, several things happen the 3 of them came back from the cinema after seeing a movie, they think the father didn't want them to because he was worried about the weather,(this happen yesterday ( Sunday) but it seem to be clearing up, my friend, her mom and brother went any way and the mother did something to make the father mad, then the sister forgot to let the dog back in after letting him out to relive himself, dad got mad, he got real made when he saw the dog Buddy outside barking, my friend said she was confused she was sure Buddy was in the house and the father started screaming that he was outside, she was trying to explain she thought Buddy was in and perhaps that was a stray which turned out to be Buddy their dog. She said he was furious! She told him don't yell daddy, I'll let Buddy in, he wanted to make sure the door to where they put him in was not unlocked, he started screaming this at her. She called last night in tears.
She is quite younger and at the age where she can leave next year and get her own apartment. Question: Is the father lost his parent's both almost over thirty years ago, they had their children at a later years the ones I am speaking about, and this year this man lost both bothers 2 mo apart. Could this anger be coming out because of the lost and lonely feeling of his parent's and 2 brothers? 1 he was really close to and the other he strayed from but still I think loved him even if he claims he so angry he hates him.
I hope I wasn't to cofusing with this post. If you have any questions please ask... I will try to clarify what I was saying...
I was just wondering, if it was because of so many losses is he really feeling the hurt, anger, fear of no family? He has some but he is not close to any of them... I feel so sorry for her, her brother and mom, the dad started asking if she ever started on her sewing lessons yet? She said not since she has been sick with a cold and he started was it 10 mo she kept saying no, I don't remember the date, before I was sick and kept asking was it 10 mo ago, she wanted to scream but she didn't dare say anything. The father yelled at his son and yelled . He was a real terror this morning.... He started last night and until this morning, she said he went to bed the father sulking.
My friend and I appreciate your help greatly..
thank you all... My friend hates to leave her mom and brother, the brother is 2 years older then she. I hope that's o.k. to say that. I am just trying to help you all understabd the situation...

Kat1966

Hi,
Losing someone really close to you is really hard, When my Dad died I had a knot in my stomach for three month's. You don't handle thing's like you normally would because your emotionally stressed out. I did not take my emotion's out on my family because I didn't want them to suffer because I was hurting so bad inside. Someone needs to talk to him and make him realize that he is hurting his family.Maybe he dose not realize the stress he is creating.He seem's like the type who would not go to any form of counceling, I know it take's time to find the strenth inside to heal, holidays are very hard, Did he have a really bad temper before the lose of his two brother? What dose your friends Mom think of all of this? She needs to step in.
Karen W.