pjcat
06-02-2005, 11:38 PM
Hey all,
This seems like a decent place to get some advice about this topic, so here goes...Recently I got back together with an ex-girlfriend. She is a recovering alcoholic (at least according to the state :rolleyes: ) and has been clean that I know of since a month before we got back together (about 2 1/2 months ago). Anyway here is my question..
Next week me and my roommate are both graduating from college. Between us we have about a dozen parties to go too, and many of these parties are going to be with people who like a good drink. However I am worried about my girl. I dont know much about alcoholism, but I know there is always risk for relapse (which is something she really can't afford), so I'm worried about taking her to any of these. At the same time, there are people there that she really wants to see again but she might never get a chance to see them after next Thurs. She has told me that she will be able to control herself and not drink, and has proven this several times already. I obviously can't make her NOT GO, but at the same time I just wonder if it would be in her best interest not too. Some of the people that are going to be at these parties include some people she used to know who even amazed me how much they could drink (and I can hold my liquor :) ) And I'm worried that being around them might be too much for her and she might start again. Incidently, once she starts she can never stop (a problem I too once had) so just being a social drinker is probably out of the question.
Anyway my friends are all pretty divided on the issue, but I feel only a couple of them really understand addiction, so I'm not sure where to go. So I figured I would ask you people, since you were all pretty helpful on my last post on her :)
Anyway, thanks a lot, and sorry if this was kinda long.
This seems like a decent place to get some advice about this topic, so here goes...Recently I got back together with an ex-girlfriend. She is a recovering alcoholic (at least according to the state :rolleyes: ) and has been clean that I know of since a month before we got back together (about 2 1/2 months ago). Anyway here is my question..
Next week me and my roommate are both graduating from college. Between us we have about a dozen parties to go too, and many of these parties are going to be with people who like a good drink. However I am worried about my girl. I dont know much about alcoholism, but I know there is always risk for relapse (which is something she really can't afford), so I'm worried about taking her to any of these. At the same time, there are people there that she really wants to see again but she might never get a chance to see them after next Thurs. She has told me that she will be able to control herself and not drink, and has proven this several times already. I obviously can't make her NOT GO, but at the same time I just wonder if it would be in her best interest not too. Some of the people that are going to be at these parties include some people she used to know who even amazed me how much they could drink (and I can hold my liquor :) ) And I'm worried that being around them might be too much for her and she might start again. Incidently, once she starts she can never stop (a problem I too once had) so just being a social drinker is probably out of the question.
Anyway my friends are all pretty divided on the issue, but I feel only a couple of them really understand addiction, so I'm not sure where to go. So I figured I would ask you people, since you were all pretty helpful on my last post on her :)
Anyway, thanks a lot, and sorry if this was kinda long.