polarized13
06-05-2005, 05:57 PM
Hi Everybody,
Now I have some sad news, I had a miscarriage today. :confused: I'm trying to belive that it just wasn't meant to be, and that everything happens for a reason, and all that, but I'm devastated. Anyway, I know we can try again, but I don't think that any of us, myself, my husband or my kids could go though this again. I think I will just have to accept that my baby having days are behind me. Anyhow, just wanted to let you all know. I will be ok, thanks to Prozac!! ;)
Thanks again to all of you who have given me support through our journey to have another child, I appreciate it, and hey, look, I'm a veteran now!!
~~heather~~
Now I have some sad news, I had a miscarriage today. :confused: I'm trying to belive that it just wasn't meant to be, and that everything happens for a reason, and all that, but I'm devastated. Anyway, I know we can try again, but I don't think that any of us, myself, my husband or my kids could go though this again. I think I will just have to accept that my baby having days are behind me. Anyhow, just wanted to let you all know. I will be ok, thanks to Prozac!! ;)
Thanks again to all of you who have given me support through our journey to have another child, I appreciate it, and hey, look, I'm a veteran now!!
~~heather~~
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Picali
06-05-2005, 06:22 PM
Heather
I'm so sorry for your loss you poor darling - I know how painful it is, particularly in the early days.
I understand what you mean about trying to be philosophical about the situation but it is a crappy one - I guess I'm trying to say let your emotions come through, even if they're not easy to deal with.
I'm at a bit of a loss for words; they never really work well in situations like this because they seem so inadequate, but my heart is with you and I hope that you will be able to find some strength in that. I'm sure everyone else on the board will feel the same.
Look after yourself and give yourself time to grieve. I'm so sorry
Lots of love and sending you warm and caring thoughts
Picali xx
I'm so sorry for your loss you poor darling - I know how painful it is, particularly in the early days.
I understand what you mean about trying to be philosophical about the situation but it is a crappy one - I guess I'm trying to say let your emotions come through, even if they're not easy to deal with.
I'm at a bit of a loss for words; they never really work well in situations like this because they seem so inadequate, but my heart is with you and I hope that you will be able to find some strength in that. I'm sure everyone else on the board will feel the same.
Look after yourself and give yourself time to grieve. I'm so sorry
Lots of love and sending you warm and caring thoughts
Picali xx
Christine2005
06-05-2005, 07:16 PM
So sorry Heather. I felt your sorry and wanted you to know that I'm sharing your sadness at this moment. Christine
JustDave4now
06-05-2005, 09:57 PM
Awww, my prayers are with you friend...
terrienne
06-06-2005, 12:28 AM
Oh Dear, Heather,
I am so sorry about your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
You know, you have all of our support. We are here for you...,
Remember you telling me this last week......,
Please Take Care of Yourself, okay ?
I must get off to bed. I spent the night in the Sleep CLinic, to be monitored,
and to see if I have sleep apena. I should know what's up this week.
This is why you haven't heard from me earlier...,
But, I just couldn't go to bed and not send a message to you...,
I am so sorry, my Friend..., Please let me know if you need me, and want to
talk or whatever, okay ?
Thinking of You, and Wishing you the best,
LUV,
Gee Gee
I am so sorry about your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
You know, you have all of our support. We are here for you...,
Remember you telling me this last week......,
Please Take Care of Yourself, okay ?
I must get off to bed. I spent the night in the Sleep CLinic, to be monitored,
and to see if I have sleep apena. I should know what's up this week.
This is why you haven't heard from me earlier...,
But, I just couldn't go to bed and not send a message to you...,
I am so sorry, my Friend..., Please let me know if you need me, and want to
talk or whatever, okay ?
Thinking of You, and Wishing you the best,
LUV,
Gee Gee
Hedgehog No 1
06-06-2005, 08:21 AM
Hey Heather,
I'm 'only' a man - so I don't know EXACTLY what it feels like.
BUT. I have experienced the same loss, within a relationship myself.
You have my sympathy and my best wishes to a healthy recovery.
Hedge. :(
I'm 'only' a man - so I don't know EXACTLY what it feels like.
BUT. I have experienced the same loss, within a relationship myself.
You have my sympathy and my best wishes to a healthy recovery.
Hedge. :(
angelblue65
06-06-2005, 11:55 AM
Heather - I'm sitting here typing and retyping, not knowing what to say because sorry is just not enough to convey what I'm feeling for you and your family. I'm hugging you in my heart.....
reesie
06-06-2005, 01:51 PM
My heart goes out to you honey. I can't imagine what you are experiencing but I will try if you need me to. You've always been a great supporter to me an many others and that kindness shall always be repaid with interest and on time!
goofyafter2
06-06-2005, 04:17 PM
Heather, I am so sorry. I cannot even imagine what you and your family are going through right now. Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you. Love, Lori
polarized13
06-06-2005, 04:44 PM
Hi Guys,
Thanks, your kind words really do help. I never knew what people go thorough when they experience something like this. I guess I never thought it was that big of a deal, I just figured they could have another one if they wanted to, and it wasn't really a person yet.....
Ok, I'm going to tell you guys something, but it might gross you out, so if you're squeamish don't read this next part ~
I actually saw my little baby laying there this morning, it was still an embryo really, but it looked exactly like the picures you see. I didn't know what to do. It was so strange. It made it feel more real to actually see it with the sac and the cord and everything. I knew I had miscarried, but I didn't expect to actually see it. I'm trying to give myself time to recover and grieve. I think I might still be in shock.
I think that maybe my husband and I will decide to try again. I felt better after I talked to the nurse at my doctors office. I know this happens to women all the time. It's part of nature. On top of everything else, now my physical pain is coming back, along with the pain of the loss.
I want to plant a tree in our back yard in memory. :angel:
Ok, now I feel like I'm gonna cry again.....
talk to you guys later ~
~~heather~~
Thanks, your kind words really do help. I never knew what people go thorough when they experience something like this. I guess I never thought it was that big of a deal, I just figured they could have another one if they wanted to, and it wasn't really a person yet.....
Ok, I'm going to tell you guys something, but it might gross you out, so if you're squeamish don't read this next part ~
I actually saw my little baby laying there this morning, it was still an embryo really, but it looked exactly like the picures you see. I didn't know what to do. It was so strange. It made it feel more real to actually see it with the sac and the cord and everything. I knew I had miscarried, but I didn't expect to actually see it. I'm trying to give myself time to recover and grieve. I think I might still be in shock.
I think that maybe my husband and I will decide to try again. I felt better after I talked to the nurse at my doctors office. I know this happens to women all the time. It's part of nature. On top of everything else, now my physical pain is coming back, along with the pain of the loss.
I want to plant a tree in our back yard in memory. :angel:
Ok, now I feel like I'm gonna cry again.....
talk to you guys later ~
~~heather~~
goofyafter2
06-06-2005, 07:45 PM
Oh Heather... your story is amazing. I didn't even know you could see something like that. I am glad you are not giving up and that the drs and dh are so supportive to help you through this. Take care. Love, Lori
Soul Astray
06-06-2005, 10:32 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think I've ever talked to you or anything but I couldn't just read this and not say something to you. I know there's nothing I could say to take away your pain but I had to say something.
Zbaby
06-07-2005, 02:05 AM
Heather - it's difficult to imagine the pain you and your family must be dealing with, and I am truly sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself and do not rush the healing process. We are here for you.
LOtRsfan
06-07-2005, 11:29 AM
Hi Everybody,
Now I have some sad news, I had a miscarriage today. :confused: I'm trying to belive that it just wasn't meant to be, and that everything happens for a reason, and all that, but I'm devastated. Anyway, I know we can try again, but I don't think that any of us, myself, my husband or my kids could go though this again. I think I will just have to accept that my baby having days are behind me. Anyhow, just wanted to let you all know. I will be ok, thanks to Prozac!! ;)
Thanks again to all of you who have given me support through our journey to have another child, I appreciate it, and hey, look, I'm a veteran now!!
~~heather~~
awww i'm absolutely sorry to hear...
Now I have some sad news, I had a miscarriage today. :confused: I'm trying to belive that it just wasn't meant to be, and that everything happens for a reason, and all that, but I'm devastated. Anyway, I know we can try again, but I don't think that any of us, myself, my husband or my kids could go though this again. I think I will just have to accept that my baby having days are behind me. Anyhow, just wanted to let you all know. I will be ok, thanks to Prozac!! ;)
Thanks again to all of you who have given me support through our journey to have another child, I appreciate it, and hey, look, I'm a veteran now!!
~~heather~~
awww i'm absolutely sorry to hear...
GatsbyLuvr1920
06-27-2005, 08:34 PM
That's terrible and I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I wish you and your family the best. God bless. :angel:
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coffeegirl2
06-28-2005, 10:35 AM
((((Heather)))
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Thinking of you and sending you lots of warm hugs,
Julie :angel:
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Thinking of you and sending you lots of warm hugs,
Julie :angel:
NodiGoiterGirl
06-28-2005, 01:30 PM
I feel so bad that you are going through this. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and your family.
Lots of hugs,
Nodi
Lots of hugs,
Nodi
Ruth6:11
06-28-2005, 01:42 PM
You have had a tremendous loss. Every baby is a life, and it is always sad when that life is lost. Grief is absolutely a part of a time like this. Give yourself as much time as you need to grieve & cry for the "coulda's" and the "shoulda's".
And know that you you're getting the biggest of the most humongous hugs from me today.
Ruth
:angel:
And know that you you're getting the biggest of the most humongous hugs from me today.
Ruth
:angel:
michele1975
06-28-2005, 10:30 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. I too experienced this and I know how hard it can be. I think the tree idea is a great idea!