Well my husband and I now have temporary custody of my niece because her parents were unable to care for her without the chance of hurting her and all that. Well yesterday was the first visit from the mother and then when the mother left she was fine and maybe like an hour later she was napping and when she got up 2 hours later she was very cranky and did nothing but cry not like histerical crying. Could this be related to that her mom left or is it just a bad day or could it be signs of bipolar it runs in the family. Please give me all the help you can? How do I make her feel better when she does his.

How old is the child? Are they in counseling? I wouldn't jump to her being bi-polar just yet. She is going through some big changes and is going to need some real patience and understanding.

I would sugest getting her into some kind of child's therapy to help deal with her new situation. Lots of hugs and reasurance.

she just turned 3 and we already have an appointment to get her in to counseling. We are currently potty training her and teaching her colors and alphbet cause she didnt even know them

Hi Gurl86 :wave:

First of all, i would like to say that you are doing a wonderful thing of caring for your niece when the parents cannot. She is lucky to have great family members like you.
The other thing, is that because she is so young, she cannot really express her feelings verbally, therefore they come out as emotion. So when the mom comes to visit, your niece will "act out"...so far it is good that it is only being "cranky". Sometimes, children start acting out with tantrums, hitting, etc..
The situation will get better as she gets older and is more able to express her feelings verbally.
It is also really good that you are getting her into some therapy, that should help alot as well.
Raising a child is always a challenge, as everyone knows! ;) But is one of the best rewards as well. And because the early years are the most formidable for a child, when there is a huge change in her/his life, it takes some time for the little ones to adjust. Lots of patience....looooots of patience... :D

Take care,
:bouncing:

I am no where near what you go through, but I did divorce and my children were 5 and 3. My children would act out when they came home, every time! Sometimes it would be good, for the most part angry and cranky. Even now, my children are 12 and 9, they still act out after seeing their dad if it was not what they expected or needed.
From experience, all you can do is love them and tell them that over and over. Sometimes they would push me away, but I would let them and they would always come around. She has to be so confused right now and feeling unwanted. Give her time, support, and lots of understanding. Also plan an activity when she gets home. Maybe playdo, or dancing to music - get her mind off of it. Good luck.