ashley123
06-20-2005, 07:27 AM
Ok here goes..
I'm 15 years old and I've been struggling with my weight ever since I was around 9 years old. I've been trying to lose weight since I was around 10 but I never really got anywhere. Last summer I promised myself that I would lose weight and go back to school feeling good about myself. Well that didn't happen and made my 8th grade year miserable because I was just depressed all the time. Now here it is summer again.. already June 20th and once again I promised myself I would lose weight this summer.. but has it happened? NO! I get so frustrated people are probably making fun of me and saying omg lose some weight seriously.. but they have no idea how hard I've been trying. Lately it just seems like I'm out of control.. I eat icecream, cookies, and other fattening foods everyday! And I don't just mean one or two servings either! It's like I can't stop and I hate it!! It seems like all I do is eat, I can't help it! I don't even want to be around friends or family because I feel like they are looking at me and saying wow she's getting fatter everyday.. and sometimes I don't even go in stores because I'm scared someone will see me.. even if they don't know me.. and say jeez she should be on a diet. I mean it's not like I weigh 200 or even 150 lbs but I still feel like this. I've been teased in the past by my brother, dad, "so-called friends", and kids at school. I don't have very many friends because everytime they call me to do something I make excuses because I don't want to go out and be seen I'm too embarrased of myself. Today I was trying on some old pants and they all felt tight and I just looked in the mirror and my thighs and butt are huge I just wanted to cry. I just need help with the whole exercise thing.. I don't want to go to the gym because I'm a really shy and private person and I hate people watching me, even if they aren't watching me it would just feel wierd. Are there any effective home gyms out there? I've heard the Crossbar/Crossbow is pretty good. And what about my diet? What should I eat and what should I avoid? I really really REALLY want to lose weight, get in shape, and tone up. But most of all, what I want is to be happy with myself, and be a normal teenager.. is that too much to ask?
I'm 15 years old and I've been struggling with my weight ever since I was around 9 years old. I've been trying to lose weight since I was around 10 but I never really got anywhere. Last summer I promised myself that I would lose weight and go back to school feeling good about myself. Well that didn't happen and made my 8th grade year miserable because I was just depressed all the time. Now here it is summer again.. already June 20th and once again I promised myself I would lose weight this summer.. but has it happened? NO! I get so frustrated people are probably making fun of me and saying omg lose some weight seriously.. but they have no idea how hard I've been trying. Lately it just seems like I'm out of control.. I eat icecream, cookies, and other fattening foods everyday! And I don't just mean one or two servings either! It's like I can't stop and I hate it!! It seems like all I do is eat, I can't help it! I don't even want to be around friends or family because I feel like they are looking at me and saying wow she's getting fatter everyday.. and sometimes I don't even go in stores because I'm scared someone will see me.. even if they don't know me.. and say jeez she should be on a diet. I mean it's not like I weigh 200 or even 150 lbs but I still feel like this. I've been teased in the past by my brother, dad, "so-called friends", and kids at school. I don't have very many friends because everytime they call me to do something I make excuses because I don't want to go out and be seen I'm too embarrased of myself. Today I was trying on some old pants and they all felt tight and I just looked in the mirror and my thighs and butt are huge I just wanted to cry. I just need help with the whole exercise thing.. I don't want to go to the gym because I'm a really shy and private person and I hate people watching me, even if they aren't watching me it would just feel wierd. Are there any effective home gyms out there? I've heard the Crossbar/Crossbow is pretty good. And what about my diet? What should I eat and what should I avoid? I really really REALLY want to lose weight, get in shape, and tone up. But most of all, what I want is to be happy with myself, and be a normal teenager.. is that too much to ask?
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Dexter77
06-20-2005, 10:44 AM
Hi Ashley,
your diet should include plenty of lean protein, such as chicken/turkey breast, very lean beef, fish and seafood, egg whites (yolk is high in fat), and low-fat cottage cheese, complex carbs, e.g. brown rice, potato, oatmeal, whole grain bread, and vegetables, and some healthy fats, for instance, put some olive/flaxseed oil onto vegetables or regularly eat fish.
If you don't want to go to a gym, you could combine cardio with some weight training. Running or riding your bike could help you, and if you buy some dumbbells, and a good bench, you can perform a large number of exercises.
your diet should include plenty of lean protein, such as chicken/turkey breast, very lean beef, fish and seafood, egg whites (yolk is high in fat), and low-fat cottage cheese, complex carbs, e.g. brown rice, potato, oatmeal, whole grain bread, and vegetables, and some healthy fats, for instance, put some olive/flaxseed oil onto vegetables or regularly eat fish.
If you don't want to go to a gym, you could combine cardio with some weight training. Running or riding your bike could help you, and if you buy some dumbbells, and a good bench, you can perform a large number of exercises.
Zootroy
06-20-2005, 11:20 AM
Society wont change for you. Though you can get enough cardio outside of the gym, I really think you should go because you'll find out there are a lot of people in there just like you trying to do the same thing. Even if you meet someone from your school there they WONT care because at least you are trying to change your image.
People will notice that you did something with yourself when you take a few months to lose weight, rather than comming off summer break the same or possibly heavier because you were to scared to do anything but sit and be scared for stupid reasons. This is a vicious cycle most people go through.
Hitting the gym is important and great for motivation, but diet is even more important. Eat what dexter said and have your mom buy you that stuff and have her hide all the snacks, you'll just want to eat them instead. Even if you just cut out the cookies and soda and started some cardio you would lose some weight.
With your current attitude you'll never lose weight sorry. You said you have been trying hard, but I dont think you have until you go outside and get over your fears...it's not so bad, just ask the hundreds of people on this forum about it.
People will notice that you did something with yourself when you take a few months to lose weight, rather than comming off summer break the same or possibly heavier because you were to scared to do anything but sit and be scared for stupid reasons. This is a vicious cycle most people go through.
Hitting the gym is important and great for motivation, but diet is even more important. Eat what dexter said and have your mom buy you that stuff and have her hide all the snacks, you'll just want to eat them instead. Even if you just cut out the cookies and soda and started some cardio you would lose some weight.
With your current attitude you'll never lose weight sorry. You said you have been trying hard, but I dont think you have until you go outside and get over your fears...it's not so bad, just ask the hundreds of people on this forum about it.
christine0210
06-29-2005, 06:40 PM
Hey there,
Wow, I sure can remember feeling they way you feel. I hated to go anywhere or do anything, and how awful it was when you outgrew your clothes cause that just meant that you had to go try to find something in stlye that actually fit!! would the cashier notice the size you were buying and what was she thinking?! I was just so sad and lonely during this time cause I was sure that no one could understand how I was feeling. I do know how you feel. Being trapped inside a body that just keeps growing no matter how hard you try to get it to shrink. And why, why do we want to eat all the time? I hated execrise, I loathed for the same reasons you mention. I was sure everyone was looking at me thinking "Uh, how gross, she is jiggling all over the place!"
I used to wish that someone would just make up a pill that had everything your body needed to be healthy and never feel hungry. That would be perfect for me. I would never have to think about fat grams, or calories or exercise, my body would just be thin and I would not have to think about it.
Well, I'll tell you what, this "magic pill" is just not out there. I am so glad that it is not either, because I would never have found the TRUTH if it had been. I tell you the truth, there is a way that will show you more freedom in this life than you could ever imagine. With all of it, weight, self-esteem, image all of it.
It took me years to find it, but now I am whole-heartedly convinced that it is the only true way to be free from the slavery to food, exercise and diets. I have lost over 60 pounds naturally, without dieting, exercising or surgery. I did not follow and crazy diet or deprive myself of any "forbidden" foods. I did not exercise one single day and still do not. My body is exercised during my normal daily routine. I am a high school Physical Education teacher, I coach a successful high school volleyball team and am able to out play girls 15 years younger than me. I am so at peace now and I am free to enjoy this life as it was intended to be enjoyed.
I hope you find the answers that you are looking for before years of your like pass by and being depressed/ashamed & frustrated are forever a part of what shape you through out adulthood. I know because it sure followed me for a long time. Those feelings are gone now, but not because I am 60 pounds lighter! I would be happy to share more if you are interested.
Wow, I sure can remember feeling they way you feel. I hated to go anywhere or do anything, and how awful it was when you outgrew your clothes cause that just meant that you had to go try to find something in stlye that actually fit!! would the cashier notice the size you were buying and what was she thinking?! I was just so sad and lonely during this time cause I was sure that no one could understand how I was feeling. I do know how you feel. Being trapped inside a body that just keeps growing no matter how hard you try to get it to shrink. And why, why do we want to eat all the time? I hated execrise, I loathed for the same reasons you mention. I was sure everyone was looking at me thinking "Uh, how gross, she is jiggling all over the place!"
I used to wish that someone would just make up a pill that had everything your body needed to be healthy and never feel hungry. That would be perfect for me. I would never have to think about fat grams, or calories or exercise, my body would just be thin and I would not have to think about it.
Well, I'll tell you what, this "magic pill" is just not out there. I am so glad that it is not either, because I would never have found the TRUTH if it had been. I tell you the truth, there is a way that will show you more freedom in this life than you could ever imagine. With all of it, weight, self-esteem, image all of it.
It took me years to find it, but now I am whole-heartedly convinced that it is the only true way to be free from the slavery to food, exercise and diets. I have lost over 60 pounds naturally, without dieting, exercising or surgery. I did not follow and crazy diet or deprive myself of any "forbidden" foods. I did not exercise one single day and still do not. My body is exercised during my normal daily routine. I am a high school Physical Education teacher, I coach a successful high school volleyball team and am able to out play girls 15 years younger than me. I am so at peace now and I am free to enjoy this life as it was intended to be enjoyed.
I hope you find the answers that you are looking for before years of your like pass by and being depressed/ashamed & frustrated are forever a part of what shape you through out adulthood. I know because it sure followed me for a long time. Those feelings are gone now, but not because I am 60 pounds lighter! I would be happy to share more if you are interested.
TheHappyMan
06-30-2005, 12:09 AM
It took me years to find it, but now I am whole-heartedly convinced that it is the only true way to be free from the slavery to food, exercise and diets. I have lost over 60 pounds naturally, without dieting, exercising or surgery. I did not follow and crazy diet or deprive myself of any "forbidden" foods. I did not exercise one single day and still do not. My body is exercised during my normal daily routine.
I hope you find the answers that you are looking for before years of your like pass by and being depressed/ashamed & frustrated are forever a part of what shape you through out adulthood. I know because it sure followed me for a long time. Those feelings are gone now, but not because I am 60 pounds lighter! I would be happy to share more if you are interested.
Hi Christine - So well put. What you are describing is "Life Style Change"...... You didnt "Go on a Diet", you "Created Your Diet"........ You started eating sensibly and enjoying the world around you..... :bouncing:
Being depressed and ashamed is sometimes hard to avoid at some stages in life, especially when coupled with weight problems which undercuts self-esteem..... I know what you say is true, as it followed me for a long time too. :) :) :)
I hope you find the answers that you are looking for before years of your like pass by and being depressed/ashamed & frustrated are forever a part of what shape you through out adulthood. I know because it sure followed me for a long time. Those feelings are gone now, but not because I am 60 pounds lighter! I would be happy to share more if you are interested.
Hi Christine - So well put. What you are describing is "Life Style Change"...... You didnt "Go on a Diet", you "Created Your Diet"........ You started eating sensibly and enjoying the world around you..... :bouncing:
Being depressed and ashamed is sometimes hard to avoid at some stages in life, especially when coupled with weight problems which undercuts self-esteem..... I know what you say is true, as it followed me for a long time too. :) :) :)
TheHappyMan
06-30-2005, 01:08 AM
Ok here goes..
I'm 15 years old and I've been struggling with my weight ever since I was around 9 years old. I've been trying to lose weight since I was around 10 but I never really got anywhere. Last summer I promised myself that I would lose weight and go back to school feeling good about myself. Well that didn't happen and made my 8th grade year miserable because I was just depressed all the time. Now here it is summer again.. already June 20th and once again I promised myself I would lose weight this summer.. but has it happened? NO! I get so frustrated people are probably making fun of me and saying omg lose some weight seriously.. but they have no idea how hard I've been trying. Lately it just seems like I'm out of control.. I eat icecream, cookies, and other fattening foods everyday! And I don't just mean one or two servings either! It's like I can't stop and I hate it!! It seems like all I do is eat, I can't help it! I don't even want to be around friends or family because I feel like they are looking at me and saying wow she's getting fatter everyday.. and sometimes I don't even go in stores because I'm scared someone will see me.. even if they don't know me.. and say jeez she should be on a diet. I mean it's not like I weigh 200 or even 150 lbs but I still feel like this. I've been teased in the past by my brother, dad, "so-called friends", and kids at school. I don't have very many friends because everytime they call me to do something I make excuses because I don't want to go out and be seen I'm too embarrased of myself. Today I was trying on some old pants and they all felt tight and I just looked in the mirror and my thighs and butt are huge I just wanted to cry. I just need help with the whole exercise thing.. I don't want to go to the gym because I'm a really shy and private person and I hate people watching me, even if they aren't watching me it would just feel wierd. Are there any effective home gyms out there? I've heard the Crossbar/Crossbow is pretty good. And what about my diet? What should I eat and what should I avoid? I really really REALLY want to lose weight, get in shape, and tone up. But most of all, what I want is to be happy with myself, and be a normal teenager.. is that too much to ask?
Hi Ashley - I used to be where you are right now.... in exactly the same position....
My classmates made fun of me and I was always unhappy with "Where I was at" :eek: :eek: :eek:
Then one day, it's as though I opened my eyes for the first time, and I instantly forgave myself for everything.......
You know it's so easy to do..... and you have to do that first before anything else... :angel:
As for the Weight, dont worry... That problem will disappear after you conquer the Eating.... and the Exercising and Gym will all fall into place after that.... magically, all by itself.... And you will feel Good with yourself and happy to be alive.
Yes, it's already June, about to turn into July. You have all of July and all of August and every month after that to set things right. So, go to a Bookstore and buy a Food Counts Book (there is a good one called "Food Counts" - it's an inexpensive paperback). Use it as a reference, but not a Bible.
The Important thing is to start NOW, today, tomorrow.... FOCUS and Concentrate on what You WILL LOOK LIKE and how You WILL FEEL after this is over.... And then comes the EASY part..... Stop putting all that BAD stuff in your mouth... Start eating Apples and Cucumbers, Chew on Celery and Carrots.... Drink a Lot of Water or liquids low in calories.... Eat often but eat light !!!!!!! Make sure there is no Influence on you from Family or Friends to Eat what you should not.
You may feel a little funny for a day or two, but keep FOCUSED, plan on the FUTURE, on the NEW CLOTHES you are going to buy and the NEW FRIENDS you will make....
KEEP FOCUSED on the EATING. DONT fall back on the old escapes, the rich, sweet, fatty foods....... DONT WORRY about anything......
You can do this, I know you can, because I have been where you are now, and it's a lot easier to break out of than you might think..... :)
Think of it as "BREAKING OUT OF PRISON"", because thats what it is.
During Your Diet..... Which will not last Forever.......
:nono: Do not Eat sweets, Do not Eat fatty or fried foods, Do not Eat Potatoes or Pasta, or Donuts, Or Bagels and Muffins, or Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwiches. Do not eat Cheese, or Salty foods or Processed Meats. Do not eat at McDonalds, or Burger King, Avoid Pizza like the Plauge.
Read your Book on Food Counts and Avoid all foods that are going to sustain the pain that you have been going through. Calories Do Count, Grams of Fat Count, and Grams of Carbohydrate Count too.... Eat Foods that are low in these things....... Vegetables can be your best friend when you need one the most.....
Remember, the Food that you eat WHILE YOU ARE DIETING is going to taste Bland, and Unspicy, it wont taste Rich and Creamy.... or Sweet.... AFTER YOUR DIET HAS DONE MOST OF IT'S WORK you will be able to eat small amounts of almost any kind of food...... but we cant put the "Cart before the Horse".
And read Christines Post..... Now Good Luck "The Rabbit is out of the Hat"..... :) :) :)
I'm 15 years old and I've been struggling with my weight ever since I was around 9 years old. I've been trying to lose weight since I was around 10 but I never really got anywhere. Last summer I promised myself that I would lose weight and go back to school feeling good about myself. Well that didn't happen and made my 8th grade year miserable because I was just depressed all the time. Now here it is summer again.. already June 20th and once again I promised myself I would lose weight this summer.. but has it happened? NO! I get so frustrated people are probably making fun of me and saying omg lose some weight seriously.. but they have no idea how hard I've been trying. Lately it just seems like I'm out of control.. I eat icecream, cookies, and other fattening foods everyday! And I don't just mean one or two servings either! It's like I can't stop and I hate it!! It seems like all I do is eat, I can't help it! I don't even want to be around friends or family because I feel like they are looking at me and saying wow she's getting fatter everyday.. and sometimes I don't even go in stores because I'm scared someone will see me.. even if they don't know me.. and say jeez she should be on a diet. I mean it's not like I weigh 200 or even 150 lbs but I still feel like this. I've been teased in the past by my brother, dad, "so-called friends", and kids at school. I don't have very many friends because everytime they call me to do something I make excuses because I don't want to go out and be seen I'm too embarrased of myself. Today I was trying on some old pants and they all felt tight and I just looked in the mirror and my thighs and butt are huge I just wanted to cry. I just need help with the whole exercise thing.. I don't want to go to the gym because I'm a really shy and private person and I hate people watching me, even if they aren't watching me it would just feel wierd. Are there any effective home gyms out there? I've heard the Crossbar/Crossbow is pretty good. And what about my diet? What should I eat and what should I avoid? I really really REALLY want to lose weight, get in shape, and tone up. But most of all, what I want is to be happy with myself, and be a normal teenager.. is that too much to ask?
Hi Ashley - I used to be where you are right now.... in exactly the same position....
My classmates made fun of me and I was always unhappy with "Where I was at" :eek: :eek: :eek:
Then one day, it's as though I opened my eyes for the first time, and I instantly forgave myself for everything.......
You know it's so easy to do..... and you have to do that first before anything else... :angel:
As for the Weight, dont worry... That problem will disappear after you conquer the Eating.... and the Exercising and Gym will all fall into place after that.... magically, all by itself.... And you will feel Good with yourself and happy to be alive.
Yes, it's already June, about to turn into July. You have all of July and all of August and every month after that to set things right. So, go to a Bookstore and buy a Food Counts Book (there is a good one called "Food Counts" - it's an inexpensive paperback). Use it as a reference, but not a Bible.
The Important thing is to start NOW, today, tomorrow.... FOCUS and Concentrate on what You WILL LOOK LIKE and how You WILL FEEL after this is over.... And then comes the EASY part..... Stop putting all that BAD stuff in your mouth... Start eating Apples and Cucumbers, Chew on Celery and Carrots.... Drink a Lot of Water or liquids low in calories.... Eat often but eat light !!!!!!! Make sure there is no Influence on you from Family or Friends to Eat what you should not.
You may feel a little funny for a day or two, but keep FOCUSED, plan on the FUTURE, on the NEW CLOTHES you are going to buy and the NEW FRIENDS you will make....
KEEP FOCUSED on the EATING. DONT fall back on the old escapes, the rich, sweet, fatty foods....... DONT WORRY about anything......
You can do this, I know you can, because I have been where you are now, and it's a lot easier to break out of than you might think..... :)
Think of it as "BREAKING OUT OF PRISON"", because thats what it is.
During Your Diet..... Which will not last Forever.......
:nono: Do not Eat sweets, Do not Eat fatty or fried foods, Do not Eat Potatoes or Pasta, or Donuts, Or Bagels and Muffins, or Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwiches. Do not eat Cheese, or Salty foods or Processed Meats. Do not eat at McDonalds, or Burger King, Avoid Pizza like the Plauge.
Read your Book on Food Counts and Avoid all foods that are going to sustain the pain that you have been going through. Calories Do Count, Grams of Fat Count, and Grams of Carbohydrate Count too.... Eat Foods that are low in these things....... Vegetables can be your best friend when you need one the most.....
Remember, the Food that you eat WHILE YOU ARE DIETING is going to taste Bland, and Unspicy, it wont taste Rich and Creamy.... or Sweet.... AFTER YOUR DIET HAS DONE MOST OF IT'S WORK you will be able to eat small amounts of almost any kind of food...... but we cant put the "Cart before the Horse".
And read Christines Post..... Now Good Luck "The Rabbit is out of the Hat"..... :) :) :)
cwlewis
06-30-2005, 03:36 PM
Sweety let me tell you something. I don't know the weight question, god knows I wish I did, but I do know how you feel I am 21 and I have felt that way since I was 10. You say you don't way even 150 pounds. When I was 15 I weighed 145 and I thought I was so fat but to tell you the truth I really wasn't. I think the real issue here is your self-esteem. And believe me I know it hurts. But I have finally realized that people won't think you are beautiful unless you think you are. Because good self-esteem is attractive.You should try not to care what every one is thinking or saying, I know its hard but if you do it, it somehow because natural. And pretty soon you won't even think about it. You should look in the mirror everyday and say I am beautiful five times. I used to do it, and I know it sounds dumb but I felt better about myself. I feel bad for you because its hell. I don't know if this helped but if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here for you because I know its hard. GOOD LUCK