Hi everyone. It has been about a month since my encounter. I went out and partied with a guy that I had been seeing for about 2 months, ( at the time we had not had sex yet) I got really drunk and we ended up back at my house, he passed out, ad when I went to bed I passed out shortly after. I then woke up to him taking my pants off and we ended up having sex, I can barely remember the whole incident. I do remember feeling him 2 times to make sure he was wearing a condom and he was. The last thing I remember is getting on top of him. The next morning I wake up and see a condom on the floor that had what looked like pre-cum in it. He got up and left shortly after. Later that day, I asked him if he for sure had the condom on teh entire time and he said yes and I had ntohing to worry about. Days went by and I was a wreck, so I brought it up again and he told me that he didn't even get to finish because I told him to stop, so he did. Since I do nto remember the whole thing, I am scared to death! About a week later we had protected sex. I have stopped seeing him since then. I am just so worried, and I can't test until around the beginning of Sept.! Thanks for any input that you have.

If he says that he used a condom, then the best thing to do is trust him at this point since you're getting tested anyway. The odds are in your favor - -most likely he wore a condom,you aren't even positive if HE'S positive, and HIV is not as easy to get as chlamydia or gonnoreha. Until then, just try to have a positive outlook, and try not to dwell on it too too much. Go out and have fun, but be careful
-S-

Hi, I am adding more to my post. I am really worried now, I looked on the internet just for hiv symptoms, and I have had a few of them, headaches, a small rash on my thigh, today since I have woke up I have had muscle pain in my legs, and confusion. Now I am really freaking out!!!! I pray to god that the guy I was seeing did keep the condom on the whole time. What do you think the chances of me getting hiv from him if he didn't or if when we had sex the 2nd time thatWAS definatly protected that I would get it. Someone please help me! I am started to feel sick. I had a test about 7 months ago that was negative but the guy I had sex with is someone new. please respond!

Hi everyone, I have been up all night thinking about what is going on with me. I keep trying to think about that night and hoping that I remember the entire thing, but I can't. About 2 weeks after the incident I started to feel a mild nausea, and I didn't really think about it being connected to my encounter, and with the other symptoms that I have mentioned, I am really scared and I get get it out of my mind. I keep finding myself going on the internet looking for more answers to make me feel better, but havent found anything. I want to call the guy that I had slept with and ask him if he would get tested. But when I mentioned it before he told me that he had been tested and he was negative and that I had him "messed up" meaning that he was one that didn't use protection and that he didn't sleep around like that. I have 2 months before I can be tested and I don't think that I can deal with not knowing for that long. Is there any other test that may show up sooner??

Hey :) Listen, and I know how difficult it is, but dont look on the internet for symptoms or answers, as they scare you real bad. They have done me and im still waiting out my window period, so i know how you are feeling. Use this post as an outlet and resource. I went through the same hysterical paranoia as you when I did some research, and it destroyed me. Its only through here that I have calmed down and gotten on with things. If you read my posts they start hysterical and have calmed down a lot. I think form what you have written you are ok :) I think if you are really worried, a viral load count can be done that looks for the virus itself, as opposed to antibodies?I think anyway.A 3 month ELISA is the standard, but a negative PCR(?) test will help you feel better i guess. I think you are negative :) Keep posting and we will help. As everyone does me x

Thanks MrJon, I really appreciate your response. When I looked on the government website for hiv it says that you can get hiv from open mouth kissing when you or if you have a sore or open cut in mouth. I remember about 2 months ago I did have an open cut in my mouth and we did open mouth kiss it said the risk is low but that has really freaked me out. It also said that hiv can show up in a test 2-8 weeks after exposure. It has been 2 months since the cut i had in mouth and 1 month since the encounter. The thing that is mind boggling is that I know he started out wearing a condom but do not know if it was kept on the entire time. I have a 9 year old daughter and all I keep thinking is that I am positive and that I have ruined her life!

Listen, from what i can gather any government statistics you will find will scare you because they are designed to do so, ITS A WAY OF SCARING PEOPLE INTO BEING SAFE :eek: But I have read this many times before about open mouth kissing, and its a safe bet to assume that it would take extreme circumnstances to transmitt it this way, ie a mouth full of blood you having massive bleeding cuts in your mouth, and even then its not definate as saliva helps to inhibit the virus and kill it, as it were. You are fine and its because you are anxious about it that you are worried. Please believe me when i say your ok :)

Hi thanks for your post. I hate the feeling of this!!! I will never get drunk like that again which makes me more vulnerable and at risk. I think I am going to go to the local health department today to get tested. They have the 20 min. test. It has only been a month since my encounter, but if it's negative it will make me feel a little better. When is your waiting period over??

Well done,it will make you feel better I promise :) I have a little over three weeks left on my window, twenty three days or so I think? Please post back and let me know how your test goes, I know you will be ok. I have been told myself by so many people that I am gonna be ok, and it gives me hope x

I will let you know. I am so scared. I don't know what I would do if it came back positive..........I am praying that it will be negative. I wish I could convince the guy that I had sex with to get tested but I don't think that will happen. Again I really appreciate all you kind words, and I hope and pray that your test comes back negative too. I will know it about 2 hours and I will let you know the results. thanks again!

Good luck, but you will be fine :) Im thinking of you x

Hi, Well I went to my local health dept. on my lunch and unfortantly the lasy that is permitted to do the 20 min. test was at lunch. I could have still gotten test but the results would have taken 2 weeks to get back so I told the nurse that I would come back on Monday when they are open until 8pm. We did talk about my exposure and she said that is seemed to be low risk, and that with the kissing thing, she asked if i knew if he had a cut in his mouth and I told her no, she said getting it that way is pretty rare and that my cut and his cut would have to have to be almost contact to contact. I told her that my questionable exposure was exactly a month ago and she said that when I come back that the rapid test would be conclusive because I am considered low risk, but if I wanted to come back a few months it would be up to me, but she says that I could rely on the rapid test. SO I am going to go back on Monday to find out.

hey i was reading your post and was wondering how things went for ya since i am in a similar situation...what kind of test did u get? i took the orasure test about a month after my possible exposure and it was negative but im waiting to test again...it sucks!

Well, I didn't get tested because the nurse that is permitted to do the Rapid test was not there. That is the only where you get your results in 20 mins. I could have taken another test but the results would have taken 2 weeks to get back, and I am just going to wait until monday to get the rapid one done and get my results in 20 mins, instead of waiting. What was your situation with your questionable encounter?

well...it was with my boyfriend. i didnt even question it until ive found a couple of articles on HIV...one was in his email and he paid 12 bucks for it, it was something about man to man sex, drug use and HIV...and the other article was one he printed off the computer about HIV vaccines...
so thats what has me freaked out...i posted a little about it under my post called "a few questions".
is the test your taking an oral one or are they drawing blood?
i had to wait a week for my results to come back and u would think id be happy cuz it was negative but im still worried that i didnt wait long enough! the waiting is a killer!

I agree the waiting is the killer! I will have blood drawn. Did you read my beginning post? I did read yours, have you talked to your boyfriend yet? If not I think that you should..Like I said in my post earlier, the nurse told me that if you are considered low risk then if you get tested after a month, your test should be a definate answer!

yeah i did read yours! that is a scary situation not to remember what happen! did u get tested for other STDs too?
no i havent talked to my boyfriend yet...we've been arguing about other things for the past few days so i felt like it hasnt been a good time yet to say hey wanna go get tested with me? lol
thanks ill keep what your nurse said in mind when i feel like im starting to freak out about this...i think i may go do a blood test next month sometime just to ease my mind...and hopefully take my boyfriend with me to do it too!
i was confused earlier thinkin today was monday thats why i asked how things went! duh its tuesday already...let me know how things go for you! im sure ull be fine!

No i didn't test for std's yet.........I hate not knowing all what happened that night but I do know that when I check 2 times the condom was on....I will let u know what happens next monday and let me know what happens with you, I will pray for u, good luck!

thanks i will do the same for u!
im sure u should be fine, seems like with a condom HIV is hard to contract...

Well, I have decided to not wait until Monday, because I Can't get it off my mind, it has been 30 days since my questionable encounter. I am going to go today on my lunch. I am praying that it comes back negative! My lunch isn't for another 2 hours away so it's driving me crazy!

well its about 12:15 where i am...hope everything is going well for ya! i know it should be! are u going to be able to find out today then?

Good luck! I'll be praying for you :)

Well, I have decided to not wait until Monday, because I Can't get it off my mind, it has been 30 days since my questionable encounter. I am going to go today on my lunch. I am praying that it comes back negative! My lunch isn't for another 2 hours away so it's driving me crazy!

I'm praying for you.

Hi everyone, I was at my local health dept. while on my hour lunch. I had to wait in the waiting room forever! I almost left because I was a half hour late getting back to work but I stayed. My results were NEGATIVE!!!!!!!!! :bouncing: I told the nurse( a different one than yesterday) that it had been 30 days since my last encounter and she told me that when u are considered low risk, that 25 days with the test that they take blood and get the results back in 20 minutes is considered a reliable answer...... She told me that I could take a urine test that tests for clamydia and gohnnerea so I did do that but I won't get my results back for 3 business days. So what do you guys think about me being low risk and relying on this test being that it has been only 30 days??? I am feeling much better....... thanks for all the thoughts and prayers from all of you. I am not going to disappear from this board because I had a neg. result. Hopefully I can help anyone else that has any fears.

Congrats!!

:bouncing: im glad u got it over with and everything is good :)
congradulations on the negative :)

Thank you.........A part of me feels like I am still not out of the woods yet because it had only been 30 days.

i know what u mean! thats actually how i feel! i guess all we can do is wait a little longer and do a conformation test...

Congrats! I'm very happy for you :)

Hi Everyone, Well I was feeling fine after getting the negative results,a nd I wasn't too worried as I was before. Over the weekend I really started to worry because I was having muscle soreness, and the left side of my neck was hurting. I told my mom about the pain and she said it was a gland or node. After she told me that I started freakig out thinking about HIV. I am worried now because when I was tested it had only been 35 days.......... I can't seem to wonder..........

im with ya on all that...even after my negative test i worry that it was too soon cuz a month seems so soon compared to other waiting times...i guess all we can do is wait and retest to be sure...but ive driven myself crazy with worry too!

Hi, I know the wait is terrible. I just got back from my doctor about the left side of my neck and he said that it looks like the a tube in there is retracted,and that can cause pain going down that side of the neck. He gave me some meds and said that if it doesn't get better in 2 weeks to go back and see him. I told him I was having muscle aches and he asked if I stretched , exercised or played any sports and all my answers were no. He said to start stretching and exercising. I asked him if my lymph nodes or glands were swollen and he said not at all. He also said that the neck and ear thing could have been caused from going swimming a lot lately, which I have. I feel a little better about it but I am still real worried.

Hi everyone..........I am really worried. I can't seem to shake this muscle and joint pain that I am having. I remember a couple weeks after my encounter that I was feeling nauseous, hoping that it wasn't because I was pregnant. Then I read today that symptoms usually begin if you get any about 2-4 weeks after exposure. It has been 6 weeks since my possible exposure. I am thinking that I may have hiv, and it is really scaring me. I just do not understand why all of the sudden I am having these muscle aches and joint pain and 2 weeks after my encounter I was feeling nauseous. I am racking my brain over all of this!

There could be any number of things and explanations for it, HIV mimics everything.ARS is when your body mounts a defense against the infection, much as when you get ANY infection at all, and if something was wrong you ware now dwelling on it and making it "fit" your fear. Stress can also make your body to crazy things, and there are thousands of people who have assumed they have HIV and experienced every symptom going and oh look, negative. You can convince yourself of anything and I bet WHEN you test negative they will all disappear. Spectacular has said before that upon waiting for some test results, hives developed and that had never happened before.Worry will make you feel and fear everything. Answers lies in the testing, and you will be fine!