Well my problem isn't quite like everyone elses but it is relative.

A couple days ago I posted about having problems with my girlfriend. Its taking a serious toll on my mind and body. I haven't eaten in 5 days, have trouble sleeping, hearts beating fast ... constantly. The last couple days I've been feeling much more depressed and upset. And to add to it I've started worrying about her, where she is, whats she doing, who shes with. No Im not obsessed or crazy. My girlfriend and I have been with eachother everyday for the last 3 years, Im not used to not speaking to her or seeing her. I guess you could say we're on a break, or on our way to breaking up, I dunno, I haven't spoken with her in the past 5 days. She said she needs her time to think. And because she asked me not to call her the only way I can keep any tabs on her is via the computer (AOL Instant Messenger ... I can tell if shes home, working .... out) I find myself running to the computer every 10 minutes to see if shes back home or online. Again not crazy, but this action has almost become conpulsive.

Nonetheless I feel as if Im getting worse and worse each day with my thoughts getting so outrageous I just wanna .... cry. Its almost like everything I don't want to think about I think about (ya know, all the good memories, spending time with her, spending "private" time with her .... all the things you love about relationships.) and its driving me nuts.

Should I consider taking some sort of anti-depressant? Or is this matter not serious enough? Maybe Im just looking for an easy way out, Ive never felt this bad in my 21 years of life, waiting to find out whats going to come of US is wearing me down, I need help, is medicine the way?

I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend. I think that what you are feeling is a normal reaction to what's going on. You've been with this girl for 3 years, now she's off and running. It's like loosing your best friend. They say that your body and mind goes through the same thing as if you just delt with someones death. You go through all of the emotions, denile, anger, depression, so on. I'm no expert but if you don't have a history of depression but your depression does not go away in a couple of weeks, then go to your doctor. What you are feeling may be situational. If you are feeling thoughts of suicide on the other hand, go to your doctor right away. Who knows, maybe she'll come around. Hang in there! I know its hard, we've all been through it. I've been through plenty of break-ups with the man I'm with right now. I thought it was the end of the world, it made me sick!

Well Im not suicidal but I do have a lsight history of depression. When I was younger ... ages 13-15 I was diagnosed with depression but I haven't been that way for years.

to adam
I think your problems are fairly normal and are coming from your being in love with her
love problems can be similar to psychiatric illnesses

adam- though i do have anxiety and depression, and have been diagnosed with the both of them...after me and my boyfriend of a couple years broke up just recently, i had the worst anxiety i had ever had before...it is not a good feeling. I so relate to you wanting to know where she is and what she is doing at all times. I totally understand that....it is tough, and I know that when your friends/family tell you it just takes time and you just need to get over her, it is SOO much easier said than done!!! This breakup that I am trying to get over is making my anxiety so much worse these days....So I can relate!

Let me know how it goes!
KATIE