jacqbu
06-23-2005, 07:07 PM
Do some of you feel like I do like you are falling apart? As some of you know I broke my leg several weeks back. That is a pain. I have the wonderful menopause sysmptoms, including anxiety. I've gained weight to where I feel unattractive. (It's not like I eat a lot.)
This past year and a half have been trying to say the least. My husband is union and they keep having lay offs. My dog died. Sounds like an old country song. I know I'm not alone.
Thanks for listening (reading),
Jacq.
PS: I'm not happy at work either. Been there for 11 years but some things have been going on that have made me lose respect for the company.
This past year and a half have been trying to say the least. My husband is union and they keep having lay offs. My dog died. Sounds like an old country song. I know I'm not alone.
Thanks for listening (reading),
Jacq.
PS: I'm not happy at work either. Been there for 11 years but some things have been going on that have made me lose respect for the company.
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1awesomegranny
06-23-2005, 07:30 PM
Amen! I am right there with you Jacq....my symptoms are back with a vengence, had a terrible period last month, the worst of my life, this months, all i want to do is cry and I ache and feel sick and the anxiety is at its highest....and my work situation is giving me fits right now too. I worry about my elderly mother every day, my grown son and his wife and kidlets...just can't seem to stop the worrying. I also feel the most unattractive that I've ever felt....fat and old and ugly. Gawd when does this ever end. I'm getting about to the end of my patience rope here.
I hope your leg is getting better...I can't imagine something like that on top of everything else. Take care :)
Conni
I hope your leg is getting better...I can't imagine something like that on top of everything else. Take care :)
Conni
babydog
06-23-2005, 08:53 PM
I am so sorry to hear about your broken leg. I don't think I could cope with menopause if I had to deal with that too. But don't feel that you sound like a country song. That fact that your dog died is terrible. I can't imagine being without my Baby (yeah that's her name) so believe me my heart goes out to you.
How long has it been since your dog died? Glad you have come here to vent.
How long has it been since your dog died? Glad you have come here to vent.
HELLASRULES
06-23-2005, 09:52 PM
Hi Jacq, I'm sorry your having such a terrible time lately. I don't know why, but seems like things always happen a bunch at a time. I know having a broken leg can be aggravating, and losing you pup...that hurts more than anything I am sure. WOrk burn out & menopause all coupled together can be overwhelming.
So, yes, I feel like I am falling apart, too.. Hate my job (27yrs), hate all the changes to my body, feel old & ugly, & numerous health problems lately. Last 12 mos alone, I've had a tear in retina, torn knee cartilage, burning mouth, and dislocated ribs...all on top of the anxiety, hotflashes and other meno symptoms.
I figure at this point it can only get better from here on out.
Hope you feel better soon.
Hellas
P.S. Do nice little pampering things for yourself....new haircut, new color, get your nails done...whatever would give you a little lift. And do this as often as you can.
So, yes, I feel like I am falling apart, too.. Hate my job (27yrs), hate all the changes to my body, feel old & ugly, & numerous health problems lately. Last 12 mos alone, I've had a tear in retina, torn knee cartilage, burning mouth, and dislocated ribs...all on top of the anxiety, hotflashes and other meno symptoms.
I figure at this point it can only get better from here on out.
Hope you feel better soon.
Hellas
P.S. Do nice little pampering things for yourself....new haircut, new color, get your nails done...whatever would give you a little lift. And do this as often as you can.
debbi26
06-23-2005, 11:11 PM
Does anyone have more lower back pain than usual? I have always had lower back pain when I sleep on my stomach, so can't do that - and my left hip hurts now and then from an old horseback injury - but lately - it seems like all I DO is ache! I am 55 and should be thru menopause by now - but NOOOOOOO, still having those WEIRD periods! This last one being 12 days starting in early June - just mild and a little brown stain every day towards the end - then 4 days pass and voila!!! ANOTHER period! This time it's a normal one! sheesh! Maybe I'll get lucky and SKIP next month! But I wonder if the back pain gets worse with menopuase???
Yes, hate the weight gain!!! And I do NOT eat that much!! sigh - like my waist is now bigger! And my left knee is now barking at me!!!
However, I DID start taking Wild Yam Root and Soy in a capsule and it got rid of my nightsweats and insomnia. No kidding!!!! So I feel I am not having any typical symptoms right now except for the messed up periods. My moods are better.
Yes, hate the weight gain!!! And I do NOT eat that much!! sigh - like my waist is now bigger! And my left knee is now barking at me!!!
However, I DID start taking Wild Yam Root and Soy in a capsule and it got rid of my nightsweats and insomnia. No kidding!!!! So I feel I am not having any typical symptoms right now except for the messed up periods. My moods are better.
rmc12
06-24-2005, 12:29 AM
Jacq,
I do remember you posting about your leg and was wondering how you were doing. I am sure that happening really on top of everything else doesn't help.
I am so sorry to hear about your dog. Our dog is 11 and I don't even want to think of losing him. We have gone thru the loss of a dog before and know the pain of it and my heart goes out to you.
As far as falling apart...yes I do feel like that at times more than other times!! In the past year or so I have developed back problems and an ankle problem. I am going to therapy for my back and also ankle and generally it has gotten better but there are days where I feel I just cannot do what I used to and it is very upsetting. Because I can't exercise to the extent I used to right now I am not losing weight as I'd like. I haven't gained but I just haven't made the progress I hope to. I know things are getting better but sometimes I do get very down about it.
The anxiety doesn't help that is for sure as it makes everything seem worse I know. What Hellas said is really good advice...pamper yourself and be good to yourself. And know that you are not alone.
Take care,
rmc
I do remember you posting about your leg and was wondering how you were doing. I am sure that happening really on top of everything else doesn't help.
I am so sorry to hear about your dog. Our dog is 11 and I don't even want to think of losing him. We have gone thru the loss of a dog before and know the pain of it and my heart goes out to you.
As far as falling apart...yes I do feel like that at times more than other times!! In the past year or so I have developed back problems and an ankle problem. I am going to therapy for my back and also ankle and generally it has gotten better but there are days where I feel I just cannot do what I used to and it is very upsetting. Because I can't exercise to the extent I used to right now I am not losing weight as I'd like. I haven't gained but I just haven't made the progress I hope to. I know things are getting better but sometimes I do get very down about it.
The anxiety doesn't help that is for sure as it makes everything seem worse I know. What Hellas said is really good advice...pamper yourself and be good to yourself. And know that you are not alone.
Take care,
rmc
rmc12
06-24-2005, 01:04 AM
Conni,
When you said that your "symptoms are back with a vengence" I totally relate and empathize. I had a terrible Feb/Mar and part of April with symptoms cropping back up again after a good 8 to 9 months of them being tolerable and not a big deal. I do not understand how that all of the sudden happens and I think that is why it produces so much anxiety. But I guess it is the hormones bouncing all over.
I am better than I was in April now but I have to say I am looking over my shoulder sometimes wondering if they will pop up with a " vengence" again. It seems I am always feeling anxious on and off. I have to go this coming week just for a routine recheck of my cholesterol since in Oct during my annual my gyn said that it was higher than it was last year so she wanted to recheck it in 6 months. I know it is routine and even if it is the same number or a bit higher (which I hope it is not) I will just have to have it rechecked again at another time and watch my fat intake and exercise (which I am tring to d) and it is something that is as I said so routine but I was nervous making the call to set the appt at the lab. It is ridiculous how I make every little thing a major thing!! It is like you said one can't stop the worrying about everything.
Take care,
rmc
When you said that your "symptoms are back with a vengence" I totally relate and empathize. I had a terrible Feb/Mar and part of April with symptoms cropping back up again after a good 8 to 9 months of them being tolerable and not a big deal. I do not understand how that all of the sudden happens and I think that is why it produces so much anxiety. But I guess it is the hormones bouncing all over.
I am better than I was in April now but I have to say I am looking over my shoulder sometimes wondering if they will pop up with a " vengence" again. It seems I am always feeling anxious on and off. I have to go this coming week just for a routine recheck of my cholesterol since in Oct during my annual my gyn said that it was higher than it was last year so she wanted to recheck it in 6 months. I know it is routine and even if it is the same number or a bit higher (which I hope it is not) I will just have to have it rechecked again at another time and watch my fat intake and exercise (which I am tring to d) and it is something that is as I said so routine but I was nervous making the call to set the appt at the lab. It is ridiculous how I make every little thing a major thing!! It is like you said one can't stop the worrying about everything.
Take care,
rmc
rmc12
06-24-2005, 01:08 AM
Hellas,
I just posted to you in the Just Chatting thread but I just saw your post to Jacq and wanted to comment on it.
I am so sorry to hear that you have had in the last 12 months "a tear in retina, torn knee cartilage, burning mouth, and dislocated ribs" !! That is a lot to deal with on top of the pesky peri/meno symptoms too. Hope that you are doing better now and that you will take your own good advice about pampering YOURSELF as often as you can.
Take care,
rmc
I just posted to you in the Just Chatting thread but I just saw your post to Jacq and wanted to comment on it.
I am so sorry to hear that you have had in the last 12 months "a tear in retina, torn knee cartilage, burning mouth, and dislocated ribs" !! That is a lot to deal with on top of the pesky peri/meno symptoms too. Hope that you are doing better now and that you will take your own good advice about pampering YOURSELF as often as you can.
Take care,
rmc
rmc12
06-24-2005, 01:18 AM
Debbie,
YES I DO have more lower back pain now in peri. About 2 years ago my back "went out" in fact and I never have had back problems. I am going to a chiropractor for it. It seems to be worse when I am due for my period or when I am having a harder cycle so I think there is a correlation.
I love sleeping on my stomach and know it is not good for my back but I can't seem to fall asleep at first without doing that. Then I turn to my side or back, but getting to sleep it seems I need to be on my stomach.
You mentioned your left hip , for me it is all on my right and the hip joint where it is connected to the back is achy at times and yes sometimes I feel like one big ache!!
You said you are 55 and still having "weird periods". Boy that does not bode well for me as I am 51 and I am thinking the same thing you are that I should be done with this by now!! LOL!! I first started noticing changes in my period in my late 40s as far as them coming closer together. In the past 2 years I have had them pretty much coming at day 20 something (early 20s) and they are short and I have that brown stain stuff you mentioned. I have had in the past 2 years a just a few times when I have got my period at day 50 and day 40 and day 49. This year most of them have been at day 20 something again and then the last one at day 38. Are yours spaced out like that or further apart?
I have heard that Soy does help with symptoms so that is interesting you mention that. I do take soy milk.
Anyway, just wanted to comment about the back aches as i do think it is worse at this time.
Take care,
rmc
YES I DO have more lower back pain now in peri. About 2 years ago my back "went out" in fact and I never have had back problems. I am going to a chiropractor for it. It seems to be worse when I am due for my period or when I am having a harder cycle so I think there is a correlation.
I love sleeping on my stomach and know it is not good for my back but I can't seem to fall asleep at first without doing that. Then I turn to my side or back, but getting to sleep it seems I need to be on my stomach.
You mentioned your left hip , for me it is all on my right and the hip joint where it is connected to the back is achy at times and yes sometimes I feel like one big ache!!
You said you are 55 and still having "weird periods". Boy that does not bode well for me as I am 51 and I am thinking the same thing you are that I should be done with this by now!! LOL!! I first started noticing changes in my period in my late 40s as far as them coming closer together. In the past 2 years I have had them pretty much coming at day 20 something (early 20s) and they are short and I have that brown stain stuff you mentioned. I have had in the past 2 years a just a few times when I have got my period at day 50 and day 40 and day 49. This year most of them have been at day 20 something again and then the last one at day 38. Are yours spaced out like that or further apart?
I have heard that Soy does help with symptoms so that is interesting you mention that. I do take soy milk.
Anyway, just wanted to comment about the back aches as i do think it is worse at this time.
Take care,
rmc
twanger
06-24-2005, 11:26 AM
You are experiencing perfectly normal symptoms for peri. Been there, done that. All that I can say is "hang in there." I can totally relate to one symptom/disease after another. I worried about everything- you name it. You just sound like me a year ago.
I suffered mildly for 4 years and horribly for 2 years ( when my peiod stopped). I am now a little better. The anxiety remained but is not as bad as it was. The weight is still hard to deal with but it is coming off slowly. I am able to exercise more because everything is not as achy. However, there are days when things do ache more than before. Now, I work through them.
Actually, feeling unattractive passes also. I felt like I had turned into an old hag overnight. Now I just don't care as much. I still take care of myself and want to look nice but when I look around at what I wanted to attract it doesn't seem worth it. I feel so much more at ease with myself that I don't really need to have someone else's opinion of me make me happy. ( I don't know how to express this correctly but I hope you get my point).
Hang in there, this does pass in time.
I suffered mildly for 4 years and horribly for 2 years ( when my peiod stopped). I am now a little better. The anxiety remained but is not as bad as it was. The weight is still hard to deal with but it is coming off slowly. I am able to exercise more because everything is not as achy. However, there are days when things do ache more than before. Now, I work through them.
Actually, feeling unattractive passes also. I felt like I had turned into an old hag overnight. Now I just don't care as much. I still take care of myself and want to look nice but when I look around at what I wanted to attract it doesn't seem worth it. I feel so much more at ease with myself that I don't really need to have someone else's opinion of me make me happy. ( I don't know how to express this correctly but I hope you get my point).
Hang in there, this does pass in time.
ainfante
06-24-2005, 12:57 PM
Do some of you feel like I do like you are falling apart? As some of you know I broke my leg several weeks back. That is a pain. I have the wonderful menopause sysmptoms, including anxiety. I've gained weight to where I feel unattractive. (It's not like I eat a lot.)
This past year and a half have been trying to say the least. My husband is union and they keep having lay offs. My dog died. Sounds like an old country song. I know I'm not alone.
Thanks for listening (reading),
Jacq.
PS: I'm not happy at work either. Been there for 11 years but some things have been going on that have made me lose respect for the company.
When it rains it pours! I know exactly how u r feeling. Going further into menopause, I lost my brother, ended my relationship of 3 years, it's just not easy and the weight gain, it's terrible. It doesn't matter what i eat either or eat at all, the weight is still there or more. I believe it is the anti-depressants we are taking for I have heard of this and others have had that experience. I understand the anxiety too, better to float through it than fight it, for it will just make ur adrenaline glands on a high and anxiety will increase horribly.
take care,
Andrea
This past year and a half have been trying to say the least. My husband is union and they keep having lay offs. My dog died. Sounds like an old country song. I know I'm not alone.
Thanks for listening (reading),
Jacq.
PS: I'm not happy at work either. Been there for 11 years but some things have been going on that have made me lose respect for the company.
When it rains it pours! I know exactly how u r feeling. Going further into menopause, I lost my brother, ended my relationship of 3 years, it's just not easy and the weight gain, it's terrible. It doesn't matter what i eat either or eat at all, the weight is still there or more. I believe it is the anti-depressants we are taking for I have heard of this and others have had that experience. I understand the anxiety too, better to float through it than fight it, for it will just make ur adrenaline glands on a high and anxiety will increase horribly.
take care,
Andrea
jacqbu
06-24-2005, 07:05 PM
Having the women on these boards helps a lot. It makes me realize I'm not going crazy. When I first started peri I had no clue that's what it was. I thought I was having a nervous breakdown and couldn't figure out why.
Thanks to everyone!!!
Thanks to everyone!!!
molly123
06-24-2005, 08:42 PM
Hi Jacq,
Sorry to hear all that you're going thru! I know how it is to lose a dog--very devastating, and to worry about whether your hubby will get laid off or not. It's like you work all your life so you can eventually retire and not worry about finances. Then as we get older, people are being let go from their jobs with no consideration whatsoever. We are just a number to many of the companies out there! This seems to happen more and more to people who are closer to retirement age too! Then just getting older, gaining unreasonable weight suddenly and having bad peri symptoms doesn't help either! You are not alone in feeling like things and you are falling apart! I know of so many people - some much younger too. It seems that all we talk about these days is what's ailing us! Try to think positive and release any anger, frustrations, sorrow here - there are a great bunch of ladies here at all stages of their lives!
Be well,
molly
Sorry to hear all that you're going thru! I know how it is to lose a dog--very devastating, and to worry about whether your hubby will get laid off or not. It's like you work all your life so you can eventually retire and not worry about finances. Then as we get older, people are being let go from their jobs with no consideration whatsoever. We are just a number to many of the companies out there! This seems to happen more and more to people who are closer to retirement age too! Then just getting older, gaining unreasonable weight suddenly and having bad peri symptoms doesn't help either! You are not alone in feeling like things and you are falling apart! I know of so many people - some much younger too. It seems that all we talk about these days is what's ailing us! Try to think positive and release any anger, frustrations, sorrow here - there are a great bunch of ladies here at all stages of their lives!
Be well,
molly
angelstar
06-25-2005, 10:37 AM
how long did it take for wild yam to work cos my insomaia, anixety is way sky high!
ainfante
06-26-2005, 01:24 AM
Having the women on these boards helps a lot. It makes me realize I'm not going crazy. When I first started peri I had no clue that's what it was. I thought I was having a nervous breakdown and couldn't figure out why.
Thanks to everyone!!!
A nervous breakdown is not an illness or mental disorder, just wanted u to know that and it isn't uncommon for a lot of women to have a nervous breakdown at the first big episode of perimenopause, etc. It's just a huge toll on the body etc. and this will aid you in restructuring your life. I think the worse part of peri is the anxiety and heavy or painful periods. How's your leg, hope u r well very soon.
Andrea
Thanks to everyone!!!
A nervous breakdown is not an illness or mental disorder, just wanted u to know that and it isn't uncommon for a lot of women to have a nervous breakdown at the first big episode of perimenopause, etc. It's just a huge toll on the body etc. and this will aid you in restructuring your life. I think the worse part of peri is the anxiety and heavy or painful periods. How's your leg, hope u r well very soon.
Andrea
ainfante
06-26-2005, 01:27 AM
how long did it take for wild yam to work cos my insomaia, anixety is way sky high!
Hey saw ur post under insomnia. I pretty much gave my advice there. Emerita or natragest is good, 1/4-1/2 teaspoon two times a day. but it never really helped highly on my insomnia. It was the Prozac that did, not even the Xanax helped. I had the worse anxiety, trust me.
Hey saw ur post under insomnia. I pretty much gave my advice there. Emerita or natragest is good, 1/4-1/2 teaspoon two times a day. but it never really helped highly on my insomnia. It was the Prozac that did, not even the Xanax helped. I had the worse anxiety, trust me.