Jordyn
07-03-2005, 10:30 AM
I am just wondering if anyone else can relate to the frustration on ttc #2 (or more) after having no problems with #1. Now as I say I had no problems I should expand that to say no problems concieving or carrying until 8 months. Then I had mild pre-eclampsia and then 37 hours of induced labour (and yes Heather, here in Canada they'll let you go that long but it is rare...I was the only one in labour at that time and think I must have just kept meeting the right dilation point to avoid a c-section) followed by a bit of a scare with ds upon delivery as he didn't breath and had metabolic acidosis due to artificial breathing methods used to help him.
I know worry that this long labour and maybe the pre-eclampsia have hurt my chances of ttc again as conceiving ds was as easy as thinking about it...first month, no charting, bd'ing only once during fertile time etc.
Is anyone else having (had) this problem with after an easy time conceiving previous? Is it normal?
I know worry that this long labour and maybe the pre-eclampsia have hurt my chances of ttc again as conceiving ds was as easy as thinking about it...first month, no charting, bd'ing only once during fertile time etc.
Is anyone else having (had) this problem with after an easy time conceiving previous? Is it normal?
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lexdc1
07-03-2005, 10:45 AM
I totally understand! We're trying for #2 now...it's so hard! #1 was so easy!! It's frustrating. I was in labour for 36 hours with #1...then a C-section (I'm in Canada too). Now, I can't help but be a little anxious that the hard labour with my son is hurting my chanced of getting pg with #2. I'm 2 days late now, but I just got a bfn this morning.
Good luck.
Good luck.
barton93
07-04-2005, 04:30 AM
I had no problem conceiving #1, but it took me 2 years to get pregnant with #2. I went on Depo after my first child. I stayed on it for 2 years and got off to have another child. My period hadn't returned after a year and a half, so I saw a specialist and was put on Clomid and got pregnant after 4 months of Clomid.
My heart goes out to all of the women who are TTC. I know what I went through during those 2 years and it was horrible. But, don't give up. Medical technology enables many things to happen. Best wishes to all.
My heart goes out to all of the women who are TTC. I know what I went through during those 2 years and it was horrible. But, don't give up. Medical technology enables many things to happen. Best wishes to all.
Jordyn
07-04-2005, 08:08 PM
I guess it's not just me who gets frustrated with this... and I can't really complain as I have only been trying for 3 months now. I feel stupid and naive for thinking it would be as easy this time as it was the last. I had it all planned out to have a Jan. baby...now I'll be lucky to see an April baby...especially now that I am on cd 10 and still having signs of af. Why does your body decide to do weird things right when you need it all to be nromal???
polarized13
07-05-2005, 12:03 PM
Hi Jordyn,
I had no problem conceiving either of my kids, I wasn't even trying, and now here I am after four years of trying to get pregnant, but I didn't used to have endo, and I was young before, two things that make it harder to concieve.
I'm still waiting for af.....I m/c a month ago ~ exactly. Hmmmm. I guess it takes a while for your cycle to return to normal, huh? I keep thinking ( hoping ) I might be pregnant, but probably not. So you're still bleeding on cd 10? Wow. I have no idea what to expect now. What are your temps like?
~~heather~~
I had no problem conceiving either of my kids, I wasn't even trying, and now here I am after four years of trying to get pregnant, but I didn't used to have endo, and I was young before, two things that make it harder to concieve.
I'm still waiting for af.....I m/c a month ago ~ exactly. Hmmmm. I guess it takes a while for your cycle to return to normal, huh? I keep thinking ( hoping ) I might be pregnant, but probably not. So you're still bleeding on cd 10? Wow. I have no idea what to expect now. What are your temps like?
~~heather~~
Jordyn
07-05-2005, 04:19 PM
My temps are totally wacked:
cd1&2 97.6
cd3 97.7
cd4 97.3
cd5 97.5
cd6 97.1
cd7 97
cd8 97.4
cd9 97.9 (I was out drinking though)
cd10 96.9
cd11 97.2
The bleeding has pretty muched stopped, just mostly spotting now..brownish. Yesterday it was almost like ewcm only bloody. I have no idea when to think I'll O but it's hard to plan to bd until it stops...might go for it tonight anyway.
I don't think I have anything too unusual to worry about regarding my health as I had an ultrasound after the m/c and nothing was reported to me.
How old are your other kids Heather? It seems like it was so easy to do it first time around.
Course right now as ds screams at me from his bedroom I think maybe I am only to be blessed with 1 (lol)
Anyones thoughts on my wacky temps and super long af are welcome!!! (desperately needed might be a better way of putting it)
cd1&2 97.6
cd3 97.7
cd4 97.3
cd5 97.5
cd6 97.1
cd7 97
cd8 97.4
cd9 97.9 (I was out drinking though)
cd10 96.9
cd11 97.2
The bleeding has pretty muched stopped, just mostly spotting now..brownish. Yesterday it was almost like ewcm only bloody. I have no idea when to think I'll O but it's hard to plan to bd until it stops...might go for it tonight anyway.
I don't think I have anything too unusual to worry about regarding my health as I had an ultrasound after the m/c and nothing was reported to me.
How old are your other kids Heather? It seems like it was so easy to do it first time around.
Course right now as ds screams at me from his bedroom I think maybe I am only to be blessed with 1 (lol)
Anyones thoughts on my wacky temps and super long af are welcome!!! (desperately needed might be a better way of putting it)
polarized13
07-06-2005, 02:40 PM
Hi Jordyn,
My son is 12, and my daughter is 6. I'm 35, turning 36 in September. So that clock is ticking LOUD. Maybe that doesn't seem that old to some people but for one thing I have enough of an age difference between my kids already ~ (I was divorced and re-married)
Anyhow, your temps were wierd this month, mine were too. ~ I'm still waiting for af ~ I know it might take longer than usual this month but I've been feeling nautious and my boobs are super sore, so I'm acatually thinking about taking a pt. It's probably silly of me, but it seems like my cramping has actually gone away instead of getting worse like usual before af. So I'm gonna take one tomorrow if she doesn't show by then. Probably a bfn, but at least I will know..... ;)
I'll let you know how it goes~ wish me luck!
take care,
~~heather~~
My son is 12, and my daughter is 6. I'm 35, turning 36 in September. So that clock is ticking LOUD. Maybe that doesn't seem that old to some people but for one thing I have enough of an age difference between my kids already ~ (I was divorced and re-married)
Anyhow, your temps were wierd this month, mine were too. ~ I'm still waiting for af ~ I know it might take longer than usual this month but I've been feeling nautious and my boobs are super sore, so I'm acatually thinking about taking a pt. It's probably silly of me, but it seems like my cramping has actually gone away instead of getting worse like usual before af. So I'm gonna take one tomorrow if she doesn't show by then. Probably a bfn, but at least I will know..... ;)
I'll let you know how it goes~ wish me luck!
take care,
~~heather~~
Jordyn
07-06-2005, 03:40 PM
Good luck Heather. My bleeding has completely stopped and we bd'd last night for good measure. My temps are at coverline again so hopefully they stay there for few days...cm still isn't really present although not dry either.
Ds is only 2 but I didn't want to have a huge difference in age (just over 2.5 years was all I wanted)...now it looks like 3 or more will be what we get (his birthday is apr.20)
I'll be 31 in Nov.and dh is 36 in Jan so we don't want to wait either as his parents, who adopted him and non-biological sisters are 80 and he hated having to 'old' folks growing up...although they didn't act their age and did everything with him it was still hard to have parents as old as most folks grandparents (older by 5 years than my only living grandparent).
I looked back at my last chart and it was wacked for the first 10 days or so too...and only righted itself just before O.
Someone on another thread said that temps need to stay above 98.2 for 3 days to indicate O. I have read nothing of this sort...only above coverline but no temp given. Know anything about this? My temps don't go above 98.1 I don't think. Either that or I never O last month at all.
Ds is only 2 but I didn't want to have a huge difference in age (just over 2.5 years was all I wanted)...now it looks like 3 or more will be what we get (his birthday is apr.20)
I'll be 31 in Nov.and dh is 36 in Jan so we don't want to wait either as his parents, who adopted him and non-biological sisters are 80 and he hated having to 'old' folks growing up...although they didn't act their age and did everything with him it was still hard to have parents as old as most folks grandparents (older by 5 years than my only living grandparent).
I looked back at my last chart and it was wacked for the first 10 days or so too...and only righted itself just before O.
Someone on another thread said that temps need to stay above 98.2 for 3 days to indicate O. I have read nothing of this sort...only above coverline but no temp given. Know anything about this? My temps don't go above 98.1 I don't think. Either that or I never O last month at all.
polarized13
07-07-2005, 10:04 AM
Hi Jordyn,
My temps don't go above 98 either. When I O, I actually dip down so low, I go off the chart the doctor gave me. On the instruction sheet I got, it said that everyone is different, so you just have to figure out what your own temps mean to you, not someone else.
And my test was a BFN ~ I knew it.....oh well. I guess I'm waiting til August now because we're leaving for California next week, and I'm staying out there with the kids for 3 weeks, and my hubby has to come back here for work after the first week. There goes my chances this month.
I only wanted a two year age difference between my kids also, sometimes things just don't go as you planned.....I like to think everything happens for a reason, at least it makes me feel better about stuff like that.
Ok, I'll let you know when af decides to show up, good luck with the BDing and have fun and lots of baby dust your way!! :angel:
~~heather~~
My temps don't go above 98 either. When I O, I actually dip down so low, I go off the chart the doctor gave me. On the instruction sheet I got, it said that everyone is different, so you just have to figure out what your own temps mean to you, not someone else.
And my test was a BFN ~ I knew it.....oh well. I guess I'm waiting til August now because we're leaving for California next week, and I'm staying out there with the kids for 3 weeks, and my hubby has to come back here for work after the first week. There goes my chances this month.
I only wanted a two year age difference between my kids also, sometimes things just don't go as you planned.....I like to think everything happens for a reason, at least it makes me feel better about stuff like that.
Ok, I'll let you know when af decides to show up, good luck with the BDing and have fun and lots of baby dust your way!! :angel:
~~heather~~
Jordyn
07-07-2005, 04:12 PM
Heather;
Sorry to hear about the bfn but as you said, things happen for a reason. Maybe we were both meant to wait longer after our m/c's. And yes, I too agree that all other things happen for a reason too. After the scare of giving birth for 37 hours and having a babe who was blue, had an apgar of 5 and didn't breath without assistance and THEN didn't want to latch to his mommies flat nipples (sorry for tmi) I think that God wants me to have a very well established, routined and independent preschooler before I am to have any more children.
Good news though...after the long af everything seems very normal. My temps dropped to 96.8 (like you mine go below the chart too) and I have some ewcm. I guess bd'ing is in order for tonight...dh will be so happy!!!
Enjoy your holiday and baby dust to you when you and hubby can be together again!!!
Sorry to hear about the bfn but as you said, things happen for a reason. Maybe we were both meant to wait longer after our m/c's. And yes, I too agree that all other things happen for a reason too. After the scare of giving birth for 37 hours and having a babe who was blue, had an apgar of 5 and didn't breath without assistance and THEN didn't want to latch to his mommies flat nipples (sorry for tmi) I think that God wants me to have a very well established, routined and independent preschooler before I am to have any more children.
Good news though...after the long af everything seems very normal. My temps dropped to 96.8 (like you mine go below the chart too) and I have some ewcm. I guess bd'ing is in order for tonight...dh will be so happy!!!
Enjoy your holiday and baby dust to you when you and hubby can be together again!!!
polarized13
07-08-2005, 12:19 AM
Thanks Jordyn,
I'll be around for another few days, and then I can probably use my parents computer and come to the boards when I get to Cali. I probably shouldn't be even thinking about getting pg right now until after my court stuff is all settled...too much stress. My ex and I are fighting over custody of my son. No fun. We have always shared, but now that I moved out of state, it's a little more complicated....
Anyhow, the cramps come and go, and I'm sure af will be along here shortly ~ I'm on cd 32, but it all depends on how long the hormones stayed in my stystem from the m/c.
I'm glad you told me about your temps being low like mine, I wonder how common that is. My temps just kept climbing in May when I was pg, the whole time after o, they just steadily went up and stayed at the top of the chart, I guess that would be your first clue that it worked. Did that happen with you too?
Have fun with bding, and good luck!
Baby dust,
~~heather~~
I'll be around for another few days, and then I can probably use my parents computer and come to the boards when I get to Cali. I probably shouldn't be even thinking about getting pg right now until after my court stuff is all settled...too much stress. My ex and I are fighting over custody of my son. No fun. We have always shared, but now that I moved out of state, it's a little more complicated....
Anyhow, the cramps come and go, and I'm sure af will be along here shortly ~ I'm on cd 32, but it all depends on how long the hormones stayed in my stystem from the m/c.
I'm glad you told me about your temps being low like mine, I wonder how common that is. My temps just kept climbing in May when I was pg, the whole time after o, they just steadily went up and stayed at the top of the chart, I guess that would be your first clue that it worked. Did that happen with you too?
Have fun with bding, and good luck!
Baby dust,
~~heather~~
Jordyn
07-10-2005, 09:34 AM
I didn't chart at all when I got pg before the m/c...only started because the pg and m/c were soooooooo weird. (The month before I was around 5 days late, then O at around day8-10 and then at 2 days late had a bfn...but I felt so pg...way more so then with Zack). I thought I would chart from now on to have a better idea of what my body was doing. Last month my temps went up and stayed up until 12 dpo then dropped slightly and then the next day af arrived.
I thought I'd O this month already but I think it was just that I was up too much with ds throught the night as they are back at the coverline today. Cm is showing O soon too I think. Still having the odd amount of spotting...just usually after we've bd'd.
Good luck in California...too bad men need to be jerks sometimes.
I thought I'd O this month already but I think it was just that I was up too much with ds throught the night as they are back at the coverline today. Cm is showing O soon too I think. Still having the odd amount of spotting...just usually after we've bd'd.
Good luck in California...too bad men need to be jerks sometimes.
polarized13
07-10-2005, 07:56 PM
Hi Jordyn,
I guess a lot of factors can affect the charting, it's a lot tougher than I thought to make sense of all of that stuff. I'm glad I can just hand my chart over to the doctor and let him try and figure it out. I'll let you know if he tells me anything that might be helpful to you.
I'm going to my R.E. tomorrow, and their doing a blood test ~ af finally showed up, and now they want to see what my hormone levels are during her visit....?
Also, my doc is going over my chart with me to tell me what he thinks is going on. I used to get an ovulation predictor kit every month, years ago when we were trying, and it seemed like I always o'd on day ten, which is really early if you have a 28 day cycle, so I might have a luteal phase defect...I don't know. I think they give you some hormones or something for that.
My husband is re-arranging his schedule to be with me on the 19 and 20, around the middle of my cycle when I might be o'ing, so maybe this month can still work out after all.
Anyhow, I'm busy packing and getting ready for our trip. I'll keep in touch.
Take care, good luck and baby dust!!!
~~heather~~
I guess a lot of factors can affect the charting, it's a lot tougher than I thought to make sense of all of that stuff. I'm glad I can just hand my chart over to the doctor and let him try and figure it out. I'll let you know if he tells me anything that might be helpful to you.
I'm going to my R.E. tomorrow, and their doing a blood test ~ af finally showed up, and now they want to see what my hormone levels are during her visit....?
Also, my doc is going over my chart with me to tell me what he thinks is going on. I used to get an ovulation predictor kit every month, years ago when we were trying, and it seemed like I always o'd on day ten, which is really early if you have a 28 day cycle, so I might have a luteal phase defect...I don't know. I think they give you some hormones or something for that.
My husband is re-arranging his schedule to be with me on the 19 and 20, around the middle of my cycle when I might be o'ing, so maybe this month can still work out after all.
Anyhow, I'm busy packing and getting ready for our trip. I'll keep in touch.
Take care, good luck and baby dust!!!
~~heather~~
Jordyn
07-10-2005, 10:43 PM
I thought I was O'ing but now not so sure. I had some ewcm and now it is creamy...still very wet. My temp was 97.5 today....so not elevated as it would be if I had ovulated. Maybe this will be an non ovulating month...with the extra long af it could be anything. Have you used any of the other things people suggest...vitex (no idea what this is...maybe not available in Can??), robitussin, etc. I am not sure whether I should even be worrying about any other extra help...it's not like we've been trying long...just longer than I wanted to.
Glad that your hubby can join you in the O time of your 'holiday' away. Hope it works out for you....baby dust and destressing to you!!!
Glad that your hubby can join you in the O time of your 'holiday' away. Hope it works out for you....baby dust and destressing to you!!!