My friend has a son that has been sexually molested. she wants to bring her kids around mine but i am unsure about it. i feel scared about that. but i am unsure. has anyone had a similar experience?

Has this child been or is currently being seen by a therepist of any kind?if the child has not been through any sort of counseling or anything along those lines.I don't know just how comfortable i would be having him around my children.There is always the possibility that he could "act" upon another child.any sort of contact with this child and your children should be closely supervised.follow your 'gut' with this one.have a talk with this childs parents before doing anything else.You need to find out just how this childs behavior has been.FB

My uncle "acted out" on me when he was a preteen and I was a preschooler. His father was very abusive to my mom (he was her stepfather) and grandmother and I think he was grooming my uncle to be his abusive, controlling protege. Luckily the father died when my uncle was a young teen and my uncle has turned out to be a wonderful man.

But, from experience, I would be wary about letting this poor little guy around your kids until he has some therapy. Maybe you could allow him to visit supervised only?

The first time I read this...pre-edited, this said something completely different. I was considering what I should say in such a situation, but now it seems you have changed the post to something completely different. It makes me wonder what is really going on.

You first post stated that your 3yo son had been molested by a 13yo (I forget the relation) and you wanted to know if he would have to testify in court. Now you claim your friends son had been molested and you don't know if you want him around your children?

Wow, if 2 children in your life have been molested recently, I feel terribly sorry. I think counciling all around is the best thing you can do for these children.

Hi from reading between the lines , whether it was your own child or a friends who was molested you are obviously very concerned about your other children. Until the child that was molested has been treated ie councelling etc, I would keep a close watch and not leave them alone together. Good Luck hun :)