I have an anger problem that is hurting my relationship with my husband. I cannot figure out if it is my Husband that is triggering the anger or if it is me. :mad: I have a had anger issues growing up after my parents got divorced when I was in highschool, and now like I said I am married.

We just recently had a baby boy that is 4 months old (Just to let you know I would never hurt my baby tub, tub; that is what I call him). My husband works full time, sometimes 12 hours a day, and usually puts in a 60 hour week, and watches our son on his days off during the week. I work 71/2 hours a day which makes for a 37 to 38 hour week and them come home to take care of our child. I also do ALL of the housework, and the babies stuff in the evening and on the weekend on my days off. My husband when he returns home from work goes outside and waters his plants and sits and watches TV. He sometimes plays with our son, and takes out the trash.

I have noticed lately since recently returning back to work that I am more irritable with my husband, and my temper flars. I just feel so tired, and he does not understand what I do. I get to were I throw things like the remote and pillows because he makes me so angry when I try to talk to him about it. What makes my anger the worst is when he ignores me and does not want to talk when I NEED to. I always try to keep my anger away from my son, like make sure he is asleep for the night before I try to talk to my husband.

When I am away from home I am very outgoing and love to talk to people. :bouncing:

I don't know if I am being selfish about this :confused: so can someone please give me some insite to help me out.

Thanks for reading :)

I feel your pain mommy! I have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter and a 6 month old baby boy. I also have anger issues..although not so much with my husband. Sometimes I just feel like taking off and seeing how he handles the kids all by himself. He can't understand that I am our kids primary care and that my job does not end until those two kids are asleep for the night.And even then I am not officially off duty because my daughter will wake up sometimes from a bad dream, or wetting the bed or becase she is hungry or just because she is "all done sleeping" at 3 AM and I need to stay up with her and plea with her to go back to bed! I also need to sleep with one ear open and listen for my little man who has been great about sleeping so far ( sleeps all night!).But he still wakes up on occassion.When he comes home from work and he can just get up and run to the store or run out and have a beer with a buddy or go out in the back yard and shoot his rifle or wash his truck. That really bugs me sometimes. Its like, I can't just leave when I feel like leaving.And even when he is home, and "watching" our daughter, I still feel like I'm on duty. There is never a moment were I feel "unattached". And he can feel "unattached" whenever he wants. I left work after my little man was born. But, I still HAVE a job...just don't get paid for it.I said I don't get too mad at him earlier because the poor guy works his *** off and when he comes home from a long day at work more times than not I don't have dinner waiting for him. I am not very domesticated.( this stems from my mom being overly domesticated and never paying any attention to me or my sisters, so I play and spend as much time as I can with my own kids) Well, anyway...most of my anger is directed towards my mom. We live in the same house :blob_fire !!!

those little things about my husband just get me going sometimes.Hes a great guy though.:D
I suppose thats all i care about. He treats us all very good.

Vent whenever you can! It sure helps! I don't think you're being selfish in the least! Us mommies do alot that they will never understand!All we have is the crys of other mommies. Stick together, thats all we need to do.Cuz these men don't have a first clue about what it feels like to be a woman (let alone a mommy)!

:(I'll have to vent about my mom soon b/c she has been getting on my last nerve!

Ladies,
After reading both posts, all I can say is stress and long hiden anger can make a person very angry. Mommy05-you said you've had anger problems growing up. You are aware which is step one..now you must come face to face with them. It's real hard to look at yourself this way but woman are strong and I know you can do this. Being angry and yelling at your husband is only going to get you divorced. No man or woman wants to come home to uncertainty every night. If you have to work, maybe you could back on your hours. Ask yourself-how did you treat your husband when dating him? Did you stop spoiling him? Men love being spoiled. The more you spoil them the more they do for you. Did he do for you before you married him? Instead of yelling use your female charms. You remember those don't you? Hey, good luck.