My daughter has slept through the night since she was about 2 months old. When she was about 8 or 9 months old we moved her bed out of our bedroom and into her room. I started then laying her down and she would fall asleep by herself. Every now and then I would have problems with her when she was sick, teething, etc. about sleeping but she has always been good about going to sleep herself.

Now she is 19 months old and on the rare occasion I leave her with my mother in law to run to town, she cries just about the whole time I'm gone. When it's nap time or bedtime she cries. She will cry no longer than 15 to 20 minutes but usually only about 10 minutes. The routine we had since day one is still there. She knows when it's bedtime and when she see's me get up to pick her up to take her to her room she starts screaming. I know nothing is wrong with her other than she is wanting us so I let her cry. I feel so guilty about that but what else can I do? I don't want her to start sleeping with us now. She has on occasion when she is sick or really bad weather and it wakes her up. I just can't understand it. Maybe it's a phase? I hope so! She goes to bed crying and wakes up crying.

Another thing she has started is not minding. I mean all day long into something. I get onto her and I don't have my back turned good and she is back into it again. She will also hit at times. I guess the terrible 2's are early or maybe it just a phase she is going through.

"She knows when it's bedtime and when she see's me get up to pick her up to take her to her room she starts screaming. I know nothing is wrong with her other than she is wanting us so I let her cry. "

But there is something wrong with her - she wants you. That IS something. Does she have to be sick for you to respond to her crying? I really don't want to sound harsh I just don't understand that. Do you give her warnings like 5 minutes in advance? Like "It's bedtime in 5 minutes" She may not seem to understand right now but she will eventually.

"I feel so guilty about that but what else can I do? I don't want her to start sleeping with us now."

You don't have to have her sleep with you. You can stay with her next to her crib until she falls asleep. Pat her back - say shhhh - whatever. If she feels secure she will eventually fall back to sleep and not be so afraid of bedtime. They are becoming very aware around this age. They are starting to understand that they are being left alone all night. Try and make it a little less traumatic for her. :angel:


"Another thing she has started is not minding. I mean all day long into something. I get onto her and I don't have my back turned good and she is back into it again. She will also hit at times. I guess the terrible 2's are early or maybe it just a phase she is going through."

I have heard many places that the terrible twos usually start around 18 months. My DS is 21 months and just getting over a really bad stage of hitting, pulling hair, screaming and kicking when frustrated. It lasted about a month but is now pretty much stopped. Your lucky that she was such a laid back baby. She's stopped minding?? Mine has never minded. :D Maybe lately he has started listening a little better, but not always. My friend has a girl who is the same age as mine and she has always minded also. I think girls can just be a little more laid back. They eventually do go through the T2's and then the mom's just don't know what's going on because they have always been so good. :eek: It is all just phases at this age anyways. Whatever you decide to do, things will get better.

I do not like the let them cry approach because of this kind of thing. You have to keep doing it everytime there is a change in anything. If they are taught how to sleep in a less scary way they will always sleep well. I never have any problems with my DS sleeping. I have never let him cry alone for even 1 minute. I stayed with him until he fell asleep. When it is bed time he goes in with no problems. No fuss. He kisses me and says "bye".
Good luck I hope things get better for you both. :angel:

Well I don't like the idea of her crying either considering she has always been so good about going to sleep. She had colic real bad when she was a baby and also would not eat but very little. She would use her bottle as a pacifier even though she had a pacifier. She would suck on the bottle long enough to put herself to sleep. Her doctor is the one who told me to put her in her car seat, bouncer, swing, whatever that I could buckle her up and she would be safe and put her in her room and shut the door and let her cry. At that age I DID NOT do this.

I have tried just sitting in her room and patting her back, etc. but it doesn't work. It works better if I rock her. But then as soon as I get up with her and put her in her bed she starts again--the crying. This has just started within the last month off and on. This is NOT an every night thing.

No she doesn't have to be sick for me to respond to her crying but when all she wants is me, and everybody in the house has to get sleep, what else is there to do? I make sure nothing "bad" is wrong. I can hear her at all times because we have a monitor in her room and our room. When your baby is crying..a few minutes seems like forever. NO I'm not one of these that just lets her cry and cry and cry that she makes herself sick. It only last a few minutes. 10 minutes at most but more than any it last a few minutes.

She knows when it's bedtime. We have done the same thing each night since birth. Every night around the same time too. I will say, in a few minutes it's going to be time to go to bed. Gives everybody hugs and kisses. I mean she has even walked by herself to her room and said night night. She knows when it's time.

Yes she has also started screaming when frustrated too. And believe it or not..she really did mind. I would say no no and she would stop. Now it goes through one ear and out the other. When she gets that little mind made up there is no changing it--she takes after her daddy...lol. She is very strong willed.

I guess terrible 2's have started.