hey everyone. I'm a new young mom and am living at home with my parents and the father of our child. Shes now 3 weeks old. I love her so much and so does the father and grandparents, but my mom is involved and I'm worried the baby is going to think that shes her mom. I don't know I know it sounds dumb. The father and I are doing the majority of the work, feeding, changing everything like that, except when we are at work. But I still don't feel like the baby knows I'm her mom. Any advice? anything would be appreciated. Thanks.

Don't worry hun, In fact I would go as far as to say that it's good for your baby to get used to staying with people other than your from a young age. My baby girl is now almost 6months old and is only now developing the "I want my mommy" thing. Always before now she wouldn't prefer my husband, mil, auntie, or friend to me but ocassionaly now she'll play my dh up when I go to work and as soon as I walk in the door she's as good as gold lol. Don't worry, babies know who mommy is but are usually happy with whoever will hold them at the given time. Enjoy and good luck :)

I lived with my parents for the first 3 years of my daughter's life. I worked full-time and my mom was my daycare. What a blessing that we have our parents, huh? Anyway, you will be amazed that your daughter will always know the difference. My daughter always loved her grandma but she always knew I was Mommy. My mom used to comment and wonder out loud how that was possible when my mom spent more actual awake hours with her. I was always amazed that when I was there and there was a boo-boo or hurt feelings... she wanted Mommy. I would have understood if she went to Grandma. Anyway, I think you have nothing to worry about. If, occasionally, as she grows older, she does want her grandma, just be thankful that your daughter has someone else who loves her "almost" as much as you do. Like I said, "What a blessing". BTW, my daughter is now almost 11 and is very close to Grandma but she still prefers Mommy. Ms Twiddle

p.s. Congrats to you!!!!

Don't let those thoughts bother you, on the contrary, you should feel very blessed that have your mom very involved with your child, there is no better "baby sitter" than your own mom. Many people can only dream to have their parents or at leat one of them so involved with their baby, so, enjoy all the love that your mom is giving to your baby and be grateful for that.

Great advise from everyone. One thing to add: Your baby knows your smell. She knows you are her mama. Good luck:angel:

i agree with all the advice everyone else has already given.... i'd just like to add one other bit of advice here.... be aware of your ever changing hormones! they can get mad-crazy for several months after giving birth! and those crazy hormones can take a perfectly ideal situation and turn it ugly if we let them (been there, done that!). anyway, after both my kids were born, i kept needing a "your hormones are making you psycho!" reminder, so i thought i'd pass it along! :)

PS...
not that i think your fears are psycho or anything like that! i think it's perfectly natural to feel that way. i remember having similar feelings when my daughters were born too, and that was just when my mom was visiting! :)

and did I read right? You're back to work after only 3 weeks? I did the same thing and I know how hard that is! Hold your head up you're doing a great job and your baby will love you best, promise! (ps come over to the infant care boards too...lots of good advice there too).