topdownbob
07-11-2005, 10:08 PM
I don't know where to put this so I'll put it here. I need help. My girlfriend just started experencing something really weird. First she said that her brain went insane and she completely forgot who I was, and then she remembered again. Then she said she was getting hot flashes. AND THEN she said she kept getting the memory loss about me, and also said she didn't feel like she was herself. Note, we're 16 years old, so this can't be menopause, which is what brief research on google showed me. She also said shes getting short of breath.
WHAT COULD THIS BE? HELP PLEASE!!!
(Could this be stress-related? There's been a few stressful things going on lately, but she says they arent bothering her. Could it be subconscious? Like shes stressing herself out without even knowing?)
Ok, now shes scairng me. Shes scaring me. Really. She's acting all happy and calling me her dady and being really weird. OMG. What do i do?
Edit: I jogged hre memroy by telling her some of our memories, and she even joined in and talked about them too. And then asked for a nap and asked me to call her in a half hour.
I'm thinking this could all be related to her childhood. Her parents split up and stuff and she was recently talking about her family and childhood, could that make her act verycrazy like this
WHAT COULD THIS BE? HELP PLEASE!!!
(Could this be stress-related? There's been a few stressful things going on lately, but she says they arent bothering her. Could it be subconscious? Like shes stressing herself out without even knowing?)
Ok, now shes scairng me. Shes scaring me. Really. She's acting all happy and calling me her dady and being really weird. OMG. What do i do?
Edit: I jogged hre memroy by telling her some of our memories, and she even joined in and talked about them too. And then asked for a nap and asked me to call her in a half hour.
I'm thinking this could all be related to her childhood. Her parents split up and stuff and she was recently talking about her family and childhood, could that make her act verycrazy like this
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christa32us
07-11-2005, 11:25 PM
Your girlfriend needs to see someone. Like a professional. Don't try to diagnose her, get her to a doctor.
topdownbob
07-11-2005, 11:30 PM
I mentioned that, but she got really mad at it. She once was at a hospital for cutting, and she always reminds me how horrible it was and how she never wants to go back. And I'm not of age to be able to do it for her, and I feel really awkward telling her mom about it all...This has never happened before, in the near 4 months we've been dating...and it's just all so weird and unexpected...
She now forgets it all....the phone and everything...
She now forgets it all....the phone and everything...
topdownbob
07-12-2005, 12:01 AM
Now ithink she may have done it to catch ,me lying or osmething...wonderful.
Cuz she said she didnt recall the phone call and i said i dunno, cuz i didnt what was going on so i wanted to assess the situation and then i did and told her everything that hapepned and now she's saying i lied and stuff and ugh.
Cuz she said she didnt recall the phone call and i said i dunno, cuz i didnt what was going on so i wanted to assess the situation and then i did and told her everything that hapepned and now she's saying i lied and stuff and ugh.
Marie55
07-12-2005, 12:55 AM
Sounds like you are dealing with a person with mental health issues.
Since she was in the hospital for cutting, she no doubt needs medical attention again and most likely is suppose to be on medication. She may not be taking her meds, if she is suppose on some.
For your own peace of mind, you would be wise to find yourself another girlfriend who does not have a mental illness.
My son had a girlfriend one time and while she was in the mental hospital she threatened to kill herself if he left her. It is not a position you should be placed in, you should not be held on to via threats.
Free yourself from this girlfriend and save yourself a lot of misery. You probably should tell her parents so they can seek the proper medical care for her.
Since she was in the hospital for cutting, she no doubt needs medical attention again and most likely is suppose to be on medication. She may not be taking her meds, if she is suppose on some.
For your own peace of mind, you would be wise to find yourself another girlfriend who does not have a mental illness.
My son had a girlfriend one time and while she was in the mental hospital she threatened to kill herself if he left her. It is not a position you should be placed in, you should not be held on to via threats.
Free yourself from this girlfriend and save yourself a lot of misery. You probably should tell her parents so they can seek the proper medical care for her.
topdownbob
07-12-2005, 01:09 AM
She isn't on medication, and isn't supposed to be. She was in the hospital over a year ago, and she has had a few falshbacks to feeling the way she used to, but nothing serious. I don't want to break up with her, i want to be able to be there for here and help her. Right now, she doesn't remember a thing about the conversation. I'm probably going to go on normally, as we had a big day planned for tomorrow. If something serious like this hpapens again, I'll probably definitely talk to her about getting help. It's hard to do without her flipping out on me for "threatening to put her back in that place." She hasn't threatened suicide, and when she did cut, it wasn't out of a want to kill herself, it was more of a self-harm habit...
I'm afraid to talk to her mom about it, and I'm afraid of my girlfriend's reaction to that.
I'm afraid to talk to her mom about it, and I'm afraid of my girlfriend's reaction to that.
wiredqs
07-12-2005, 03:03 AM
Is there a possibility that she is self-medicating with drugs? Just a thought.
tigger_girl76
07-12-2005, 05:10 AM
Your girlfriend definately needs to get some help. Even if you're afraid of her reaction you need to go to her parents. If you try to deal with this all on your own eventually she'll drag you down with her. I don't mean that in a nasty way...I just mean that the stress will get to you and you'll start to resent her bigtime.
Is she or has she ever used illegal drugs like ecstasy or acid? They can produce very scary symptoms and have long-term side effects. If she has then you NEED TO SPEAK TO HER PARENTS.
Please, for your girlfriend's sake, speak to her parents and get her some help. She may get angry but will thank you in the long-run.
Take care.
Is she or has she ever used illegal drugs like ecstasy or acid? They can produce very scary symptoms and have long-term side effects. If she has then you NEED TO SPEAK TO HER PARENTS.
Please, for your girlfriend's sake, speak to her parents and get her some help. She may get angry but will thank you in the long-run.
Take care.
topdownbob
07-12-2005, 10:44 AM
She has not used drugs. She has drank in the past, but that's the most, and right now, she doesn't do anything. Me and her are both straight edge (look it up online, but the basic is it's a movement that came out of the hardcore punk music scene that is for living a lifestyle free of drugs, alcohol, and smoking..)
She has little to no recollection of the phone call last night. She remembers complaining to me about the memory loss and hot flashes, and then getting off the computer and going to sleep, until I called at 10:30. So i dunno
She has little to no recollection of the phone call last night. She remembers complaining to me about the memory loss and hot flashes, and then getting off the computer and going to sleep, until I called at 10:30. So i dunno
Karen W.
07-12-2005, 05:25 PM
Hi There
I had a friend along time ago who was a cutter, he also had some depression issue's. You are in way over your head, there is no way, you your self can help her, she needs profession help. I would have a private talk with her Mom and let her know what's going on first of all. I'm sure her Mother is aware of her daughter issue's. I would start letting go of this relationship, Your young and this kind of stuff is way to much for you to handle, I would just try being her friend-just a freind-nothing more. My mother inlaw is a manic , she is on and off her meds, she think's she dosen't need them so she stop's taking them, then the trouble start's. She actually tried to kidnapp a child from someone's home, she was arrested and put in the mental jail. She was in for about three years and now she's out and off her meds again. When someone has a mental illness and it's not treated-everyday is an adventure, you never know what to expect.
Karen W.
I had a friend along time ago who was a cutter, he also had some depression issue's. You are in way over your head, there is no way, you your self can help her, she needs profession help. I would have a private talk with her Mom and let her know what's going on first of all. I'm sure her Mother is aware of her daughter issue's. I would start letting go of this relationship, Your young and this kind of stuff is way to much for you to handle, I would just try being her friend-just a freind-nothing more. My mother inlaw is a manic , she is on and off her meds, she think's she dosen't need them so she stop's taking them, then the trouble start's. She actually tried to kidnapp a child from someone's home, she was arrested and put in the mental jail. She was in for about three years and now she's out and off her meds again. When someone has a mental illness and it's not treated-everyday is an adventure, you never know what to expect.
Karen W.