mickey72
07-15-2003, 04:56 PM
I am considering ps and have done extensive research. The doctor I want to use has NO bedside manners whatsoever. He doesn't even greet you when you come into the room and is very curt. Have you found that most ps are this way? I spoke to one other person and they stated that their ps was the same way. I know that I am paying him to do surgery, not to be my friend. Thanks!
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Demelza
07-15-2003, 10:41 PM
It sounds like you're describing my surgeon exactly! Although I have very limited experience with surgeons of any kind, let alone plastic surgeons, I don't think it's uncommon for surgeons to have poor interpersonal skills. After all, they do most of their work while the patient is unconscious. If you don't mind me asking, to whom are you referring? Just wondering whether we are in fact talking about the same surgeon.
mickey72
07-17-2003, 10:58 PM
I don't want to be forced to edit this so I'll put Dr. B~ in central VA. He's suppose to be a VERY good doctor. Has many patients traveling from out of state to get surgery. We're still on the fence about it. I'm a little nervous about it though.
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scarletpink
07-18-2003, 01:58 PM
surgeons are human beings to. i would feel uncomfortable with a man who does not behave well with people. certainly i would not let him touch me. but that is only my personal feeling.
Janet in Texas
07-18-2003, 02:15 PM
Mickey,
I have had 5 cosmetic surgeries over the last 15 years and am about to have a redo on my breast implants.
When you say you have done extensive research, do you mean that you have had consults with more than one PS?
While I do agree that a PS's bedside manner is certainly not the only thing to take into consideration, I do feel it is important that they are able to communicate with me and are interested in taking the time to answer my questions.
If he is curt during the consult, I wonder what type of bedside manner he would have if you were not happy with the outcome of your surgery or you had problems?
Take it from someone who has been there...done that, if something goes wrong, you'll need a surgeon and staff that are professional, understanding, and concerned for your mental wellbeing as well as your physical.
[This message has been edited by Janet in Texas (edited 07-18-2003).]
I have had 5 cosmetic surgeries over the last 15 years and am about to have a redo on my breast implants.
When you say you have done extensive research, do you mean that you have had consults with more than one PS?
While I do agree that a PS's bedside manner is certainly not the only thing to take into consideration, I do feel it is important that they are able to communicate with me and are interested in taking the time to answer my questions.
If he is curt during the consult, I wonder what type of bedside manner he would have if you were not happy with the outcome of your surgery or you had problems?
Take it from someone who has been there...done that, if something goes wrong, you'll need a surgeon and staff that are professional, understanding, and concerned for your mental wellbeing as well as your physical.
[This message has been edited by Janet in Texas (edited 07-18-2003).]
mickey72
07-21-2003, 05:20 PM
I have been to a total of 3 PS for info. He's really the only one who spent time with me and did pics. I've looked up his info at our local deptartment of health's website and he has no lawsuits against him and has numerous awards. He also teaches at our local medical college. I may end up going to him bc of his background. I wish he had some manners. I've had other people respond from other sites and they stated that their ps wasn't that friendly either. Maybe it comes with the territory. Thanks for the responses!
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Janet in Texas
07-21-2003, 05:54 PM
Good luck Micky,
I hope your new "additions" are perky and beautiful!
I hope your new "additions" are perky and beautiful!
klayr
07-22-2003, 05:08 AM
Hi, Mickey! I agree with the poster who brought up the very good point of a bad result and the surgeon's attitude. Someone who is that arrogant isn't going to listen if you don't like what you see after all is said and done. If you say you live in VA, there must be other excellent surgeons. I live in the Boston area, and I happened upon not only an excellent and talented person, but someone who has great compassion for me as a patient. Don't forget that they're still doctors -- they need to treat the people whose eyes are open too. Good luck, and don't settle for anyone that you wouldn't feel comfortable asking the important questions.
scarletpink
07-22-2003, 11:12 PM
klayr, who was your surgeon in VA?
air_20
07-28-2003, 03:07 PM
Hi Mickey72,
I've also had a doctor who was the same way, actually he was very sarcastic to me and didn't think anything of it. I didn't let him do anything to me, right after I left his office I changed doctors, I definitely think I've made the right choice by doing this.
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I've also had a doctor who was the same way, actually he was very sarcastic to me and didn't think anything of it. I didn't let him do anything to me, right after I left his office I changed doctors, I definitely think I've made the right choice by doing this.
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nobodisson
07-28-2003, 08:41 PM
For a very interesting and healthy perspective on what PS patients should expect from a doctor re: bedside manner, you may want to check out Dr. Steven Denenberg's web site. Based on my research he is considered one of the best for secondary rhino and judging by his before and afters he is obviously quite skilled in many areas of PS. In a nutshell, Dr. Denenberg believes that the patient is the employer and the surgeon the employee and that under no circumstances should arrogance, poor communication or
an unwillingness to show patient before and after photos be tolerated. He also believes that a doctor should be willing to let potential patients talk to former patients to help in the education process and to provide an additional level of reassurance prior to surgery. The bad news for East Coast folks is he's in Nebraska.
an unwillingness to show patient before and after photos be tolerated. He also believes that a doctor should be willing to let potential patients talk to former patients to help in the education process and to provide an additional level of reassurance prior to surgery. The bad news for East Coast folks is he's in Nebraska.