Do any of you have this problem with your families/husbands/boyfriends/girlfriends? My husband was complaining that I ate a meal replacement bar on the way home from the gym tonight. He's like, 'So what, you just had cereal and toast and a meal bar today and you're not hungry for dinner? I swear, I think you eat those bars so you won't be hungry for a real meal! You've been eating those a lot lately.' I asked him what difference did it make what I ate as long as I ate?! Then I said, 'I eat when I'm hungry and I'm not hungry right now. What do you want me to do? Eat when I'm not hungry, feel sick, and then go lock myself in the bathroom to purge?' He goes, 'No, but I wish you were more hungry.' I told him that my medication (Prozac) decreases my appetite, but he already knows that. I've been on it for 6 years! I figure if I eat when I'm hungry and don't starve myself then I'm doing good. But apparently it's not good enough for him. Uggh!! He frustrates me. It's not like I'm underweight for my height, I'm just afraid of gaining that's all. Well, just needed to vent, thanks. :)

aaah I understand your need to vent! It's good that you are eating, even though it doesnt seem like your eating much...but hey, I'm on your boat so I can relate....
I hear it from my boyfriend constantly how i dont eat enough, but my brother is the worst! him and my dad eat like there is no tomorrow and somehow are in miraculous shape. They literally must consume 2500+ cals a day at least! I hang around less than half of that intake! so when i'm eating my salad or gardenburger patty while they chow down on their rack of ribs, they get frustrated with my eating habits, even though they are what work for me
...lol, most boys just don't understand i think!

I've been struggling with an eating disorder for some time now, but everyone from back home thinks i'm recovered, including my family. they still seem super-sensitive to my weight and eating though...so keep in mind that people like my family and yours are just concerned, as annoying and uncomfortable as it may be....

-cricket :)

hey kittywitty.. I get some of that from my boyfriend too. I live off meal replacement bars, for the most part, because I'm just not comfortable enough to eat real meals. Is that how it is for you? Yeah, my boyfriend gets frustrated sometimes because I don't usually eat "real" meals with him.. but I just had to sit him down and very calmly explain that eating more at all was a big step for me and that I wasn't ready yet to eat real meals with him. In time I would be, but just not yet. And he's getting a little better about it. Maybe that's what you need to do too. And really, if that's all that you ate that day, then I think you already know that's it's not enough. Eating when you're hungry is good, but after having an ED your body is pretty screwed up and doesn't know if it's hungry or not. Our hunger signals get really out of whack. It might be better to set a minimum number of calories to eat every day, starting with a number you feel comfortable with, and try to get that in however you can. And then once you're okay doing that, increase slowly until you're at a healthy number. And after a while, you'll probably start to get sick of bars and stuff and maybe want real food. There's only so much thick grainy chocolate a person can stand. :) Take care of yourself.

I know exactly how you feel. Except for me its with my freinds. I will eat a good breakfeast lunch and dinner and since they dont eat that much during the day they eat alot at night, and i refuse to eat after my dinner because i just am not comfortable with it (plus i am eating enough cals during the day) They think i am just not eating. ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh aggrivating!

Okay i know i should ask but what meal replacment bars do you eat to make you not hungry. it would help me tramendously to find something like that so when i feel starving to the point where i might binge i could just have one of those. please help. and yes my husband givesme crap everyday. he will come home from work and say you didnt eat today did you.

bjd24,
just a suggestion: instead of trying to find a meal bar that will help you when you've reached the point of "starving," why don't you try to avoid getting to that point in the first place. by eating something healthy an hour or so before that point (even if it's just an apple), you can work on avoiding even having that urge to binge. plus, those meal/energy bars aren't good for you anyway (as i'm sure we all know, because we all check out the same weight loss articles online, etc.). They are essentaily glorified candy bars with about equal calories, less fat, some vitamins and TONS of sugar. So, i don't know if you'd be comfortable with that, but fruit or some veggies taste much better, they're lower in calories, they're healthier, and they really will fill you up as much as one of those crap bars. i think you know as well as i do that those bars only fill us up because of the label that say "220 calories, 8g of fat." and, they don't even taste very good! i say proactively avoid the urge to binge instead of causing the urge to come on by starving yourself. i know it's WAY easier said than done, but you can do it!!

i havent done it in over a month but i still get the urge. its so hard to remember to eat cause i have an Infant and when i eat a snack like an apple i just feel more hungry. it sucks.

Hi kittywitty,
I regretted having my friends find out because that's all I ever heard when it came to food! I completely understand the frustration. It's a daily thing for me. Unfortunately, I'm around my bestfriend during meal times a lot, so I get the third degree all the time. Sometimes, I have to just eat what they shove in my face just to get them off my back. I really hate how everyone gets so involved, but at the end of the day I know it's because they care. That cant take away the frustration, but it's calming. :)

Thanks a lot for the replies, girls. I appreciate it.

Hey, Secrets
Luckily my husband isn't constantly around at meal times because he works during the day so he's usually just around for dinner. But he food polices me every single day and it's very annoying. I know he's just concerned but I just wish he would give it a rest sometimes, especially on the days I work. I clean houses (very tiring) and the last thing I want to hear when I come home is, 'Did you eat?' or 'What did you eat?'