andrewjohn
07-17-2005, 04:32 PM
:( our Middle son who is 15yrs old has problems controlling his bowels, This has been going on since he was abt 7, and very often (atleast 3 times a week) soils his underwear which he is finding embarazzing as Both his brothers have no problems in that way and the younger one makes things worse by telling people at school ect,
very often he gets the erdge to go but cant I think he is just lazy and i tell him of when he has an accident but that just seems to make things worse and the poor lad love sports ect but is scared to take part for this reason and he his haunted by the time when notiched he had soiled his underwaer when getting for PE and his sports teacher noticed and made a joke of it causeing the rest of the class to take the P, any ideaa on how to deal with this am i doing the right thing by telling him off/punniching him when he has a accident? :eek:
very often he gets the erdge to go but cant I think he is just lazy and i tell him of when he has an accident but that just seems to make things worse and the poor lad love sports ect but is scared to take part for this reason and he his haunted by the time when notiched he had soiled his underwaer when getting for PE and his sports teacher noticed and made a joke of it causeing the rest of the class to take the P, any ideaa on how to deal with this am i doing the right thing by telling him off/punniching him when he has a accident? :eek:
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brocally
07-17-2005, 06:10 PM
I don't think ANYONE would intentionally soil themselves and what good is punishment going to do? That would be like being punished for sneezing. Understandably, it's a frustrating and embarrassing problem, but it definitely needs to be and CAN be addressed. Do some searches on "encopresis bowel training." I'll bet with some work on getting into a good routine with the bowels, the incidents of soiling will decrease if not resolve completely.
hrtofluv
07-18-2005, 03:57 PM
I think it's time for him to see a GI specialist (preferably a pediatric).
It is definately worth getting a referral especially to help with his social embarrassment. Punishment will NOT do any good, if he cannot control what is happening.
I'm here to answer any questions you may have regarding ped. GI appointments and tests.
Wishing you the best!
It is definately worth getting a referral especially to help with his social embarrassment. Punishment will NOT do any good, if he cannot control what is happening.
I'm here to answer any questions you may have regarding ped. GI appointments and tests.
Wishing you the best!
andrewjohn
07-18-2005, 05:38 PM
thanx we will look in to getting him see a Specialist We should have done this earliar instead of asuming it was all his fault and punnishing him, it may be emazing but finding this site is helping and hopefully we can get our son problem made easiar for him
once agin thankyou
once agin thankyou
Elaine1946
07-18-2005, 06:14 PM
Of course it is best not to make an issue of it....but help him to clean himself up after an `accident` if needed. Please see a paediatrician as a matter of urgency. Does your son need any counselling for other reasons? Sometimes soiling can be an indicator of abuse having taken place. I do hope that you get all this sorted out as soon as possible.
andrewjohn
07-18-2005, 07:19 PM
He has had problems with bullies They seem to pick on him becuase he is the quite one who wont fight back and his problems with controlling his bowels play a big part in to that to his younger brother is no help there stiring things up ect, there was a sports teacher in his last school who notiched he had an accident while getting change in changing rooms and the teacher tood the be an caused consirable embarazment
Thants to my wife the teacher is no longer embloyed at that school or any other local school after letters she sent to the school and education authritys well a teacer behaveing in that way shouldnt be a teacher in the first place
Thanx for your reply
Andrew
Thants to my wife the teacher is no longer embloyed at that school or any other local school after letters she sent to the school and education authritys well a teacer behaveing in that way shouldnt be a teacher in the first place
Thanx for your reply
Andrew
marjoe60
07-24-2005, 03:53 AM
You should sit down with your youngest son and tell him if he dosn't quit embarassing his brother there will be big consequences. As a parent, you should not allow one child to get away with hurting another.