I finally told my parents that I had an ED. Actually, I told my mom who told my dad. She asked questions like, "Why do I think I have an ED?" and "Do I just not like myself?" I dont think she quite understands. Of course she asked me why do I do it, but how can you answer something like that when you dont even know yourself?

I was so nervous before telling her, but I just decided that I would rather get it out than be nervous about telling her for a longer period. And keep repeating to myself that-nothing worth it is ever easy. Even though they still don't understand, which I wasnt expecting them to, it feels good to have that off my chest. How can I expect them to understand it when I dont fully understand? My mom told me flat out she didnt understand and said that my dad would probably say that i didnt need help i just needed to stop doing it. It's not so easy to stop, otherwise I would have long ago. But my mom is calling my doctor tomorrow, and we'll see from there. It might get worse before it gets better though, but it will get better. :-) I hope.

:bouncing: GOOD JOB MANDABEAR!!!!!!!!! I AM VERY PROUD OF YOU. :angel:

congratulations!!! you took the big first step and doesn't it feel great?!? it's okay that they don't understand. your parents love you and they want to help you, and all you have to do now is get to the doctor who can help you out. i'm so proud of you!! and yes, it will get better! you've started the road to recovery, and although it might be tough, you will overcome this. CONGRATULATIONS!!

Hey, good for you! It might be helpful if you find some websites or something for family members of someone with an ED to tell your mom about. I think there is a lot of false information about EDs floating around out there and there are some good sites that can help family members understand and give them advice about how best to support you. If you decide to see a therapist, some family therapy might be good as well.. or after a while have your doctor talk with your parents and advise them on the best ways to help you. Telling your parents was a big, scary step.. but it was an incredibly important one. We're all really proud of you.

Way to go mandabear!!! That was such a mature way to look at the situation! Wow I remember when I first told my mom and she did not understand, I was hurt and angry, when I should have looked at it like you did. I think I was to young and scared. How old are you? I am so proud and just to let you know that it DOES get better. They may never understand, nor you for that matter, but the more information the better!
You are on your way to a much happier and healther mandabear!!!!
Keep being strong girl!!
xoxoxoxoxoxox
Jade :angel:

oops!! guess I broke a rule - just look on the web for good info that you can share with your mom. There is tons - watch out for the weird ones I tried to give you the name of a reputable one but that apparently is not allowed

hey guys. things are weird to say the least. my mom set up a dr. apt for me on monday. she kept asking "are you sure you want me to call...?" and saying "I think you just have that disorder where you think you are always sick" and stuff like that. In other words, she doesnt take me seriously, or thinks I am over exaggerating. As much as that hurts, I am not going to have it stop me from getting the help I know I need. And my dad...after puking the day away I was hungry because I have nothing left in my stomach, plus I feel like I "need" food sometimes when im not even hungry, says "You're eating again?" "How can you still be hungry?" I don't care if they dont understand ed's, but can't they be a little more sensitive? Arh...this is frustrating, but oh well. I'll deal. But it does kind of make me want to just crawl into a ball and starve myself to dealth. Eh...thanks for the encouragement though...

and i am only 17.

You say YES MOTHER I WANT YOU TO CALL!!! it does sound like they don't get it but you know neither do a lot of people. Just keep telling them until you are blue in the face - especially if you want some help.... no crawling into a ball and starving to death how would we talk to you?? :)

im still kind of depressed about my parents today. but oh well, i am going to get help, and that's going to do me a lot of good. :-)

hey hUN! ConGrAtSS!!! :):) thats awesome, telling the rents is NEVER easy...but man isnt it a load off of u tho? its an amazing feeling. they may not understand, netiehr did mine, but my rents confronted me about the prob. they panicked they got me to the doc rite away, my dad ordered me books on ED's and blaa blaa blaa...ur rents are just scared to imagine their little gurl has an eating disorder. what parent would want to think that? i know i wouldnt. they just dont know how to handle it and they dont want it to be a big deal. but u have to tell them "its a BIG deal". get them to look up on it, let them know EXACTLY what ur going thru, just so they know "k, this is a big deal.."

good luck at the doc doll :)

Hey Mandabear,
I just wanted to say congrats on telling your parents, I think that is awsome, only if I could be as brave as you! Just wanted to follow up on how everything is going and if you got treatment yet?? It's funny becasue how you described how your parents reacted is exactly how I think mine would react if I told them I have been dealing with ED for two years. Well I hope everything is well, and look foward to hearing from you.
Take care hun,
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