hi everyone,

i feel like i have just wasted my life away...drinking......not holding down a job
i have had ambitions in the past and have taken steps to acheive these dreams...but i always end up losing interest and feeling depressed because i have lost interest. i change my mind all the time too about what i want out of life and this makes me more depressed as i am getting older....and just wasting precios time.....

how do i get out of this rut and find out what i want from life?

hi everyone,

i feel like i have just wasted my life away...drinking......not holding down a job
i have had ambitions in the past and have taken steps to acheive these dreams...but i always end up losing interest and feeling depressed because i have lost interest. i change my mind all the time too about what i want out of life and this makes me more depressed as i am getting older....and just wasting precios time.....

how do i get out of this rut and find out what i want from life?

First of all, how old are you? YOu could be drinking to self medicate your depression. Drinking just makes depression worse.

If you really want to change, I would suggest getting some counselling and to stop drinking or at least cut down. Counselling can help you figure out your priorities and help you reach your goals. It can be expensive, but they do have some counselling centers that base their fees on a sliding scale according to your income.

You have to really WANT TO CHANGE. Really wanting something makes all the difference. I think you may be suffering from depression and might need to go on an antidepressant. When I was going through perimenopause, I got very depressed and went on antidepressants. I take Wellbutrin and it's really helping me. I hope you are able to get the help you need.

Whatever you do, don't give up on yourself and throw in the towel. You make your life what it is. You can either choose happiness or continue on the way you are. Good luck!