Cuddly
07-26-2005, 07:21 AM
Hi,
Just wondering what ur opinions are i am 20 years of age i am 165cm tall i weigh 85kg i take size 14-16 botoms and 14-16 top. People say i am gorgeous but i just find myself to be ugly and my bf is giving me hell about my weight calling me chubby and tubby. Im just wondering what contraceptive pill or anti depressents can help me loose weight and ur opinions on if my size according to clothing size if i am really obese.
Just wondering what ur opinions are i am 20 years of age i am 165cm tall i weigh 85kg i take size 14-16 botoms and 14-16 top. People say i am gorgeous but i just find myself to be ugly and my bf is giving me hell about my weight calling me chubby and tubby. Im just wondering what contraceptive pill or anti depressents can help me loose weight and ur opinions on if my size according to clothing size if i am really obese.
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j_mac3
07-26-2005, 04:25 PM
I believe the only way to lose weight is by diet and exercise. I was watching tv one day and they said taking diet pills kills your metabolism and drains you of all your energy. Well anyways it doesn't matter what other people think of your body what matters is what you think of it. If your wanting to change your body more power to you :bouncing: You said people say you look gorgeous isn't that enough to show you from the eyes of others that you are a beautiful person just the way you are no matter how much you weigh. So i hope whatever decision you make will be a good one ;)
AdrianStella
07-26-2005, 10:57 PM
Yes, it is about how you feel. I have become a rather snug size 16. I feel so dog gone unhealthy too.
I also agree a diet and excersise is the only key to permanent weight control. It is a "lifestyle change" as we constantly hear. That is why it is so difficult to adhere to.
Good luck to you. :)
I also agree a diet and excersise is the only key to permanent weight control. It is a "lifestyle change" as we constantly hear. That is why it is so difficult to adhere to.
Good luck to you. :)
seekalot
07-27-2005, 02:41 AM
I think you should lose about 150-200 pounds, whatever your jerk boyfriend weighs, as soon as possible. (sorry I don't know the kg's amount) In case I'm not being clear, let me rephrase, kick him to the curb!
Let me be even clearer. Cuddly, I don't think anyone here can tell from your description whether you are at a healthy weight for your age, build, etc. or not. If you aren't sure, it sounds like you need to get a good doctor's opinion (and I DON'T mean a "fat doctor" who makes his money by selling weight-loss products or writing prescriptions for diet pills, etc. -- they would probably tell Twiggy she was fat).
REGARDLESS whether you are or aren't fat, what on earth motivates you to hang on to a guy who is either mean or insensitive enough to call you "chubby" and "fatty" and "give you hell" about something that is not even for him to decide? Are you a doormat or what?
Sounds to me like that is a bigger problem for you to resolve than your weight.
Let me be even clearer. Cuddly, I don't think anyone here can tell from your description whether you are at a healthy weight for your age, build, etc. or not. If you aren't sure, it sounds like you need to get a good doctor's opinion (and I DON'T mean a "fat doctor" who makes his money by selling weight-loss products or writing prescriptions for diet pills, etc. -- they would probably tell Twiggy she was fat).
REGARDLESS whether you are or aren't fat, what on earth motivates you to hang on to a guy who is either mean or insensitive enough to call you "chubby" and "fatty" and "give you hell" about something that is not even for him to decide? Are you a doormat or what?
Sounds to me like that is a bigger problem for you to resolve than your weight.
seekalot
07-29-2005, 02:53 AM
I want to apologize for asking if you are a doormat. In fact I guess my whole answer could sound rude and mean and I'm sorry, it just disturbed me to think you would let someone call you names and give you a hard time about your appearance. I think that's never called for.
Hope you will let us know whether our comments helped and how you are doing.
Hope you will let us know whether our comments helped and how you are doing.
dreamer40
07-29-2005, 08:11 PM
I agree if your boyfriend is harping on that obviously he is more concerned about himself than you, and if that is one issue, you can bet he will find other things to harp on you to make you feel inferior or defective, if a guy treats you bad on one thing he will eventually find other things to mistreat you about, and if you are not careful it may escalate into abuse.
one thing you can ask yourself how does he treat his mother? if he doesn't give her any second thoughts, doens't show concern for her, doesn't call her (if she is still alive)or write letters to her or talk well of her be suspicious.
but if he doesn't do those things he probably is just being influenced by societies obsessions with appearances, and being size 16 is not fat to me.
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one thing you can ask yourself how does he treat his mother? if he doesn't give her any second thoughts, doens't show concern for her, doesn't call her (if she is still alive)or write letters to her or talk well of her be suspicious.
but if he doesn't do those things he probably is just being influenced by societies obsessions with appearances, and being size 16 is not fat to me.
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Njoylife
07-30-2005, 02:57 PM
"People say i am gorgeous but i just find myself to be ugly and my bf is giving me hell about my weight calling me chubby and tubby."
Sounds like you need to like learn how to like yourself and NOT listen to the bf. Ask yourself, "if he's finding fault with (me), why is he staying around? What else doen't he like about me?" If your insecure about yourself, you are giving him an open door to control you. Your going to believe his ridicule. If you don't want to talk to a therapist, there are many self help books you can read on your own. Just realize, you won't change overnight but little by little you'll see change and see the beautiful woman everyone else is seeing.
If YOU think you could stand to loose a few pounds, do it thru healthy eating habits and exercise. Maybe you have a friend appox. the same weight as yourself that you could buddy up with. Best of health!
Sounds like you need to like learn how to like yourself and NOT listen to the bf. Ask yourself, "if he's finding fault with (me), why is he staying around? What else doen't he like about me?" If your insecure about yourself, you are giving him an open door to control you. Your going to believe his ridicule. If you don't want to talk to a therapist, there are many self help books you can read on your own. Just realize, you won't change overnight but little by little you'll see change and see the beautiful woman everyone else is seeing.
If YOU think you could stand to loose a few pounds, do it thru healthy eating habits and exercise. Maybe you have a friend appox. the same weight as yourself that you could buddy up with. Best of health!
seekalot
07-31-2005, 03:57 PM
Well, "cuddly," I just want to say it does not speak well for you that all these people have tried to help and you don't even bother to say "thanks" or "go jump in the lake" or whatever. Why ask for help and ignore the replies? Maybe you are just busy or can't get to a computer or whatever, but this behavior gives the impression you are a rude and selfish person. And sadly, it may make some people wonder if they should bother next time reaching out to help a stranger.
IamBriana
08-01-2005, 10:59 AM
I believe the only healthy way to lose weight it by having a good exercise plan, and a healthy diet. I don't think you should try any type of pills. People have died from Weight pills so I personally think that that would be a bad idea. And if your boyfriend is calling you *tubby* or *chubby* you should break-up with him. If you love yourself, It shouldn't matter what other people think.
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Also, If you're trying to lose weight, You should order Denise Austin's workout video. If you go to www.DeniseAustin.com and sign up.. You'll get tips, meal plans and everything like that. I've lost 55 lbs by following the meal plan and by doing the workout.
Hope this helps!
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Also, If you're trying to lose weight, You should order Denise Austin's workout video. If you go to www.DeniseAustin.com and sign up.. You'll get tips, meal plans and everything like that. I've lost 55 lbs by following the meal plan and by doing the workout.
Hope this helps!
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BethyGirlie
08-10-2005, 03:58 PM
I don't think you'd need any antidepressants and could lose a large amount of weight if you kicked the boyfriend to the curb. You don't need anyone telling you that you are fat and ugly. Find someone who appriciates you for who you are. Believe me, there are people out there who would love you.