my daughter is 17 and becoming more and more angry and seclusive. She is the youngest of four and only remembers that her oldest brother had an explosive temper and was arrested for statutory rape, her older sister was 'perfect', her closest brother hated her for her whole life and her dad had two affairs. I have been emotionally unstable my entire life. I am trying to get help for my eating disorder and mood disorder. she doesn't want help, she doesn't want to talk to anyone about it, she just wants to be angry and doesn't see how she will ever get over it and go on with her life.
Any suggestions?

Do you suspect that she might also have a mood disorder? If you don't mind my asking, do you have depression or bipolar disorder? The rage that your daughter's experiencing might be a sign of bipolar disorder. In any case, you might want to think about taking her for a psychiatric evaluation, especially since you have a mood disorder, and there's a high genetic component related to developing mood disorders. Good luck, God bless, and if you have any more questions, feel free to ask! :angel:
-GatsbyLuvr1920-

thanks for your help. She refuses to go for counseling. I can make her go but, can't make her talk when she gets there. Right now she has put herself in the victim role and can't see any way out.

I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, she can't be treated in therapy until she's ready to be helped. In the meantime, look for any changing behavior. If she becomes suicidal or manic, get help. God bless. :angel:
-GatsbyLuvr1920-

Most teens have certain mood-swings, and have a temper at points, toward family... But I can see where your kid is mad, over everything that happened... but staying locked onto it forever isn't going to change anything... it's just going to make her get emotional, and depressed... which isn't good, at all. It could make her so angry someday, that it could lead her into thinking about suicidal attempts... so if you do ever hear her mention anything suicidal or if she attempts something crazy, make sure to get help. Don't handle it on your own... because if she is like that, I'm sure it'll be hard to sit her down, calm and talk to her... So if she does turn out to go 'psycho', I advise you get help, immediately. Good luck.