here`s my story i had always been concerned about my ex-wife`s sexual past
and her health we were together for 10 years and married for three of those ten years anyway,she got real sick back in 1997 after a few weeks of testing
to figure out what was wrong the doctors found that she had lupus(sle).she stayed sick for several months almost dying in the hospital at one point my concern at the time along with her almost dying was i thought maybe it was hiv but she said that they tested her for that and 3 years before that she said she was tested for hiv as well she said it was negative both times.so me being a virgin when i met her ,trusted her saying it was negative.now the reason i thought it might have been hiv is because i overheard one of her sisters telling her that a guy she had slept with when she lived in newyork(before me of course) was rumored to have died of hiv.well anyway to try and shorten this story up i waited to get tested until october of 2004 and the test came back in four days(seems rather fast) and it was negative and my wife now has been tested twice once last year and most recentley 1 month ago because she is pregnant both tests negative.my concern is i`m having weird things happening to me physically like dry mouth and eyes , feeling worn
out, stomach crampiness things like that.is it possible my test just could not detect hiv or maybe i have not someway infected my wife (if i was infected)therefore her tests are negative i mean what are the chances here.some insight would be good thanks

From what I understand you have been faithful to your wife, and you yourself have had no risky behavior. Your wifes past has questionable things but she has been tested several times since and as recently as one month ago and they all show negative. You yourself were tested in 2004 and showed negative.

Exactly how do you suspect you contracted HIV???

Casey

it was my ex-wife`s past i was concerned with i remarried 2 years ago and me and my current wife have been together for 3 and half years basically what i`m wondering is there any way my test came out negative and some how the test could not detect the virus i last slept with my ex-wife 4 and ahalf years ago

the physical problems i`m having such as the dry mouth and eyes,fatigue and glands hurting on the side of my face when i eat something etc,etc is what is driving my fear now should i get tested again or is the test that accurate?and
yes i have been faithfull to my current wife and as well to my EX

i think your probably ok, but if it is going to disrupt your life in anyway than get tested. once the fear of hiv gets into your head it can cause a lot of emotional damage. so while i still think your probably alright, do what you have to do in order to live without a cloud hanging over you all the time. good luck and let us know what happens. barb

Sorry for the misunderstanding but I agree with with Barb, I seriously doubt that the tests are wrong. The mind is a powerful tool and is capable of creating symptoms to mimic your thought patterns. If you are stressing over this is would be best for you to settle it by bieng tested again.

I wish you the best, and congratulations on the new baby.

Casey

thanks i think getting tested again is what i will do although my wife will think i`m crazy
for doing it again and she may have a point who knows but i think it would ease my mind a great deal and with a baby on the way i don`t need that kind of stress hanging over me that`s for sure

sounds good to me, and congrats on the new baby. barb

Congratulations on the baby,,,,,,children are our future.....you should think yourself blessed....Now about your phobia! lol, I am teasing but, it seems you have a fixation on hiv...I think maybe you may have a habit of grinding your teeth at night it can cause extreme pain in the face. Go see your dentist he will be able to tell if your a grinder. I think you need to face what is really bothering you, ask what is really stressing you out. Are you not comfortable being a parent. It is a lot of responsibility to take on but believe me if you do a good job you will be so happy....Get tested again by all means if that is what makes you happy...then when it comes back negative thank your G-d and start getting on with your life and your wife and the new little one....blessings