Hello i am an 18 year old male who with me bening 18 has begun to think about sex (have before but now that im legal) . Well stupid me meet a person online. Tho I am not gay I have wondered about male on male sex. The person seemd to be in their 20's. Before we started I aked him if he was clean he said he was. I began oral sex on him, I did not notice any blisters or scabs while this was going on, it lasted about 1min. His penis was in my mouth about 3-4 times the rest was with my hand, still no notice of blisters or scabs and no oder or disgarge or funny taste. We used a condom for the anal sex which lasted about 3 mins and again I didn't care for it. He left I threw the condom in the torlet and washed my hands and rinsed my mouth with mouthwash. later that day I became conserned with stds. I e-mailed him asking if he had HIV/STDS. He replied " When I said I was clean that ment I am clean" Its been 4 days I have no symptoms of any STDs ( no itching, no bumps, no swollen glands, no fever or bad headaces, no discharge, no problems peeing). Is this good news.

Please replie I tend to over dramatize thing because i worrie adout everything that goes wrong with me. Im at the point to where its hard to sleep and i cant stop thinking about it.

Just looking for a little comfort.

First, I agree with the other person who noticed that you seem to be freaked out about sex, in general. I would add that you are freaked out in a paranoid, unhealthy way about STDs. That being said, it is smart to be careful and to be safe. I'm not intending to come off as lecturing, but you really need to worry about these things BEFORE you engage in sexual activity. When you ask somebody AFTER sex "Are you clean?", what do you think they are going to tell you (especially younger, less mature people)??? They are going to say exactly what he said "Yes!"

Sex is a fun and enjoyable part of life. It is not my opinion that you have to be in a committed relationship to enjoy it. However, you do have to be smart, mature and level-headed about it. You really need to work on the level headed. (And, we don't need to know whether you enjoyed it or not -- you do not need to be ashamed or make excuses because your partner was a male).

1. Get more information about STDs, safe sex, and sex in general.
2. Get to know your partners better before engaging in sex. If you really are new at this and if you really are 18, it's a big, crazy world out there when it comes to sex. Especially "hooking up" with people you meet online. You could be with a different person every night of the week. I suspect you are not mentally or emotionally ready for the turmoil you put yourself through, so it's probably a good idea to leave the computer out of this till you get some knowledge and calmness in yourself.
3. You can and should use a condom during oral sex also. Good for you that you did so for anal sex. Get on the ball when it comes to oral sex. If your partner doesn't want to use a condom, he can do it himself. Not only do you need to avoid STDs, but you need to give your brain a worry break!
4. Condoms, condoms, condoms. When you use condoms, condoms, condoms, you should worry, worry, worry less.

I think Curious One gave a very well written reply. I just wanted to add that need to be aware that condoms do not always protect against herpes, but will go a long way towards putting you mind at ease in the future.

Thanks so much for all of the replies so far. I am 18 and i found ou that the person was 29 so im sure that he was bening honest but you never know. That is the reason i am getting tested. Its been six days and no symptoms. I have checked twice a day every day so far, no signs. I think thats good so far. But I have come to truth with my self, that i am not ready for sex or anything that could lead to sex. I have my whole life to live, i just hope this one mistake wont rune it.


Thanks again.

I am glad you are being responsible and plan to be more responsible in the future. I would be hesitant to base a person's honesty on their age. Especially when they are 29yrs old and having sex with teenagers from the internet. Just my thoughts on that, of course, but I'm just saying I'm glad you are getting tested because I personally wouldn't trust a man in that situation.

good luck.

thanks once again for the replies. I just hope they keep coming in over the next four weeks. It is now day seven and it about 10:10am and their are still no signs. I am now checking 4 times a day. When i wake, twice at random times during the day, and after i bath before i go to bed. I am still very worried that something may pop up from now untill i get tested. Tho im feeling better each day their are no signs.

With the guilt i feel and the emotions, it going to be a long time till im able to think about sex, even then its not going to happen untill i get married.

Thanks again.

PS: Thanks for posting HVMOM I will keep you guys posted ever day or at leat every 2 days untill i get tested, i will share my results with you either good or bad. This supports means a lot to me.

Ok, it is now day 8, I have checked ever day since poss. exsposer. No signs have appeared ( no pumbs, no blisters and not flu or cold like symptoms).

There is only 22 days till my 4 week test and 32 days untill my 6 week test. As i said before I am still very worried but with each day there are no signs i feel a little bit better.

Thanks again.

PS: I hope with me posting the way i feel and the fears I and others have, will stop those people out there who have the urge to have unprotected sex weithr it be ( oral, anal, vag, ect). Please use a condom and know the person well, even then try to wait untill your married.

hey aloneandscared,
i have read your emails and unfortunately, maybe have some criticisms, advice. hoping that you dont take any of this the wrong way.
1. herpes...it can be years before it pops up.
2. same with aids/hiv
3. you need to be WAY MORE CAREFUL IN THE FUTURE. it is great to see that you know that internet meeting with some stranger (same sex) and then just asking if he is clean is not alright. continue to go down that road and bad things may happen.
4. just because he is older doesnt mean its better. actually worse, in my opinion. more years old may mean more experience. more partners.
5. you may want to check the "im not gay thing" . one thing is to have thoughts, another is to meet, give oral sex, then anal and not consider that to be homosexual. not that i am criticizing you, your sexual tastes are yours and yours alone. but to say your not gay, ? again, i really am not judging.just observing.
6 talk with your parents if you have that kind of relationship, if not, talk with a counselor. they can be very helpful in dealing with sexual issues.
7. as a environmentalist, (love the earth) perhaps you dont want to throw a condom (totally NON BIODEGRADABLE PRODUCT) into the toilet next time. trash can is much more preferable.
god bless you and stay informed!!!bshire :angel:

it wouldn't be years before a blood test for hsv or hiv would be accurate. Symptoms, maybe, but not blood tests.

Just curious...what does a condom in the toilet have to do with being non-biodegradable? While I certainly wouldn't recommend it as it could cause loads of plumbing troubles, at least then the wastes would be treated through a waste water treatment plant instead of buried in a landfill. Condoms and all other sorts of nasties get fished out of the water and put in the trash anyhow, so either way they'll end up in the same place. Just wondering...as one "environmentalist" to another!

Hi its me once again, Its been 9 days and still no symptoms. Most sites I have visited say that the symptoms appear with in the first 2-10 days after the infection, others say the first 2-20 days. I am still checking 4 times a day, I check for ( Rashes, bumps, blisters, itching) I have had no headaces or flu like symptoms so far.

I still worrie, its still kinda of hard to sleep but its getting better. 21 days till my 4 weeks test and 31 days till my 6 week test. If they both come back NEG. and are low ( The .# %) im going to put this whole thing behind me and move on and try not to look back. But i am going to tell as many people that i can to save sex for marrige and if you seem like you cant wait that long PLEASE USE A CONDOM WITH ANY SEXUAL CONTACT.

to hsvmom,
hey there.
i will remark again as to what i said.
i never said anything about blood tests", i said that herpes and aids/hiv can pop up at anytime after contraction of the virus. and they can.(up to 10 yrs later sometimes) many factors including stress can bring it out of hiding.

also, dont know about yu, but as i said before , condoms are NON BIODEGRADABLE, so are not to be used in toilets (as are no other non biodegradable things) never said that they also dont biodegrade in our landfills, this is true..they dont. however, if you want to make a point about the waste water treatment facility being a better place to filter out polluted condoms as opposed to our land fills , well then i guess you should contact the water and sewage companies for their advice. i dont think they would agree. land fills are a better solution , as least for now. you are right, they dont biodegrade there either , but atleast are not clogging up sewer lines and residential toilets. the person who disposed of his condom was 18 , and i didnt know if he was aware that toilets are not a sound disposal choice? would you like him to use yours for discarding his condoms when he was finished. i assume you wouldnt~ god bless

Hello Everyone,

Its has now been 10 days and still no signs. I still am checking 4times a day, I check for ( Blisters, Bumps, Rashes ) on my privates and anus. I also have had no pains in the lower parts of my body or any flu like symptoms.

As of yesterday my throt feels a little swolen ( no pain, no itchyness, no discomfort). I am blaming this on Allergies because My eyes are dry and itchy and I have been sneezing a lot.

The countdown 20 days till my 4 week test and 30 days till my 6 week test.

Thanks for the comments.

aloneandscared...glad you are still feeling well.

bshire...oh geez. it was just a question. Of course a toilet isn't the place for a condom. I was only wondering what the environment and biodegrading had to do with it as it none of the info I have seemed to apply. Clearly it has nothing to do with it. It's a plumbing and city management issue, like you described, not an environmental issue.

Hello sorry for not posting yesterday. Ok its 12 days and still no signs. I have had no ( Bumps, Blisters, Rashes) appear any where near or on my anus or gentiles. I still am checking 4times a day to be sure nothing pops up. My throt is still swollen I belive it is my tonsiles ( It dosn't hurt to swollow or eat, I think it is nasule drain), but no other symptoms ( no itching, no pain down below,no headaces). I am able to sleep better at night and i dont think about it ever minute of the day, its still on my mind and im still getting checked at 4 weeks (18 days till) and at 6 weeks (32 days till).