LuvMyLilDoggie
08-23-2005, 07:50 PM
Just whining here.
MIL is still in the hospital. Don't know what's going on with that yet. They did pull 30 pounds of fluid out of her in three days. She's diabetic and her leg is not good. Her ankle is black. I don't want to tell her that she's on the surgical floor. I think it's a good possibility that they may amputate her foot which would put her in a wheelchair for the rest of her life. She weighs about 400 lbs. She's getting really forgetful. I'm hoping she's not heading in the same direction as my dad with AD.
My health is not so good now. I'm heading down a path I've been down before and it's not easy. My thyroid is freaking out again. I have something called Hashimoto's Disease. It's flaring up and attacking my thyroid again. So here we go with experimentations on medications and dosages. The last time I went through this, it took more than a year to get my meds right.
And my son's guinea pig Sammy died. We had him for almost 7 years. We really miss him. :(
Well, I'm off to visit my MIL now that I've laid out my woes to you. So sorry but now you understand why I'm not posting much lately.
Love, Barb
MIL is still in the hospital. Don't know what's going on with that yet. They did pull 30 pounds of fluid out of her in three days. She's diabetic and her leg is not good. Her ankle is black. I don't want to tell her that she's on the surgical floor. I think it's a good possibility that they may amputate her foot which would put her in a wheelchair for the rest of her life. She weighs about 400 lbs. She's getting really forgetful. I'm hoping she's not heading in the same direction as my dad with AD.
My health is not so good now. I'm heading down a path I've been down before and it's not easy. My thyroid is freaking out again. I have something called Hashimoto's Disease. It's flaring up and attacking my thyroid again. So here we go with experimentations on medications and dosages. The last time I went through this, it took more than a year to get my meds right.
And my son's guinea pig Sammy died. We had him for almost 7 years. We really miss him. :(
Well, I'm off to visit my MIL now that I've laid out my woes to you. So sorry but now you understand why I'm not posting much lately.
Love, Barb
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Martha H
08-23-2005, 07:57 PM
Dear Barb,
I'm adding you and your MIL to my prayer list for urgent requests .. I'm glad at least your dad is somewhere else, maybe he can stay there! God bless you and take care.
Get well soon!
love,
Martha
I'm adding you and your MIL to my prayer list for urgent requests .. I'm glad at least your dad is somewhere else, maybe he can stay there! God bless you and take care.
Get well soon!
love,
Martha
BarbaraH
08-23-2005, 11:38 PM
Hi Barb,
Sorry things are piling up. How exhausting that is. I do wish you and your MIL a restorative dose of Insta-cure, if I could just find any!
R.I.P. to Sammy and condolences to all. Our little dumb chums do have a way of getting snuggled into your heart, don't they?
Be good to yourself during this too busy time.
(((((hugs))))) Barbara
Sorry things are piling up. How exhausting that is. I do wish you and your MIL a restorative dose of Insta-cure, if I could just find any!
R.I.P. to Sammy and condolences to all. Our little dumb chums do have a way of getting snuggled into your heart, don't they?
Be good to yourself during this too busy time.
(((((hugs))))) Barbara
ToBeFreeToRoam
08-24-2005, 01:46 AM
Hi Barb,
Hope you feel better tomorrow. Get some rest if you can, it will help a little. Poor little Sammy, and poor yall. New pet, time! We have a yellow lab named Alex, who is 11 1/2 yrs. old. It will be devastating to my DH and I, when he dies. Maybe another year at the most?!
When you have a chance to answer, how old is your MIL? Is/was her diabetes uncontrolled? Meaning, she does not/did not take care of diabetes issues?! If any other these answers are around my mothers area, I might print and cut that part for her to read next week. She only tests 1 - 2 times per week. My mom has uncontrolled diabetes and she might end up like your MIL. And then, who would look after my dad????
Post when you can and share your problems and worries. It is good for you to get it all out! Take care of yourself. Wannabe
Hope you feel better tomorrow. Get some rest if you can, it will help a little. Poor little Sammy, and poor yall. New pet, time! We have a yellow lab named Alex, who is 11 1/2 yrs. old. It will be devastating to my DH and I, when he dies. Maybe another year at the most?!
When you have a chance to answer, how old is your MIL? Is/was her diabetes uncontrolled? Meaning, she does not/did not take care of diabetes issues?! If any other these answers are around my mothers area, I might print and cut that part for her to read next week. She only tests 1 - 2 times per week. My mom has uncontrolled diabetes and she might end up like your MIL. And then, who would look after my dad????
Post when you can and share your problems and worries. It is good for you to get it all out! Take care of yourself. Wannabe
angel_bear
08-24-2005, 02:02 AM
Hey Barb,
Be thankful Dad isn't home, that would just be yet another stress on you, although I know your family is stressing you from a distance, at least he's not in your face!!
Sorry 'bout the Guinea Pig .. they are cute little rodents. We're quite fond of 1 out of 3 of the rats. The Budgies are going to a new home on Friday .. 3 rats, 3 budgies, 3 kids, and 3 adults in this house is too much. I can't do anything about the human side (although we're working on it LOL) .. and I am 'culling' for our impending move North at the end of the year!!!
Diabetes is scary. We have diabetic educators in all our hospitals, if you have one where your MIL is, could you get her to talk to your MIL? MIL needs to be educated on what's probably going to happen, as the shock could be too much for her too.
Yucky time, I'm thinking of ya buddy ........
Hugs
Sally
Be thankful Dad isn't home, that would just be yet another stress on you, although I know your family is stressing you from a distance, at least he's not in your face!!
Sorry 'bout the Guinea Pig .. they are cute little rodents. We're quite fond of 1 out of 3 of the rats. The Budgies are going to a new home on Friday .. 3 rats, 3 budgies, 3 kids, and 3 adults in this house is too much. I can't do anything about the human side (although we're working on it LOL) .. and I am 'culling' for our impending move North at the end of the year!!!
Diabetes is scary. We have diabetic educators in all our hospitals, if you have one where your MIL is, could you get her to talk to your MIL? MIL needs to be educated on what's probably going to happen, as the shock could be too much for her too.
Yucky time, I'm thinking of ya buddy ........
Hugs
Sally
LuvMyLilDoggie
08-24-2005, 10:32 AM
MIL tests every day I think. But she doesn't eat right. She skips meals sometimes and eats whatever she wants. She has stopped adding salt to her food (a salt lover she is) and has cut down on sweets but still eats lots of meat, pasta, bread, etc. She insists the dietician told her last year to only eat three meals a day. I know that's not true. Her blood sugar drops too low at night if she does that. And during her three meals, she will eat quite a bit and then the blood sugar goes too high. The dietician told her to snack on a little something every two hours or so and not to eat big meals. She just doesn't listen. And now she's paying the price.
We loved Sammy and miss him very much. When he was younger, he used to try to nest in my hair! LOL Who would have thought one could be that attached to a rodent??! :) We have our dog Nipsy to keep us entertained. My son Bo says he might want another guinea pig-just not right now.
Just had to give Nipsy her tablets. She has hypothyroidism (just like her mama) and epilepsy. Poor baby.
Dad is talking about moving to R's house. Before she realized how bad he was getting, she used to tell him "You can always move your things down here and stay with us." Now she tells him "Leave your things there and you can stay a few months here and a few months there." LOL!!! I think it's SOOOO funny! Is she getting payback for what she's done??? Methinks so!
Yet she tells me "Things are great. Dad gets out more and M (her husband) loves having dad here." Sound familiar, Martha??? LOL!!!
Love, Barb
We loved Sammy and miss him very much. When he was younger, he used to try to nest in my hair! LOL Who would have thought one could be that attached to a rodent??! :) We have our dog Nipsy to keep us entertained. My son Bo says he might want another guinea pig-just not right now.
Just had to give Nipsy her tablets. She has hypothyroidism (just like her mama) and epilepsy. Poor baby.
Dad is talking about moving to R's house. Before she realized how bad he was getting, she used to tell him "You can always move your things down here and stay with us." Now she tells him "Leave your things there and you can stay a few months here and a few months there." LOL!!! I think it's SOOOO funny! Is she getting payback for what she's done??? Methinks so!
Yet she tells me "Things are great. Dad gets out more and M (her husband) loves having dad here." Sound familiar, Martha??? LOL!!!
Love, Barb
Martha H
08-24-2005, 10:51 AM
And how! Sounds like delusions compounded by denial with a bit of chronic lying thrown in!
Keep well Barb. I read up on Hashimoto's Syndrome in my medical book last night and this particular book (Harvard Medical Guide) says H is something that goes away for long periods of time and then comes back - but each attack is self limiting . Thyroid tablets are prescribed for it - but you already know all that. I was glad to find out that it does not only get worse like AD....
Love,
Martha
Keep well Barb. I read up on Hashimoto's Syndrome in my medical book last night and this particular book (Harvard Medical Guide) says H is something that goes away for long periods of time and then comes back - but each attack is self limiting . Thyroid tablets are prescribed for it - but you already know all that. I was glad to find out that it does not only get worse like AD....
Love,
Martha
LuvMyLilDoggie
08-24-2005, 04:08 PM
It gets better, then worse, then better, then worse. I have trouble with the medications too. Some absorb into the body better than others. It seems like once we get to the right combination, the disease changes. And since it takes up to 6 weeks for each dosage and change in meds to take full affect, it is SO FRUSTRATING! The only thing that would stop the antibodies from attacking my thyroid is to have it removed. Sometimes I think that would be easier than dealing with this roller coaster I'm on now.
Anyway, they have another board for that so I'll go back to our purpose here-AD.
And how! Sounds like delusions compounded by denial with a bit of chronic lying thrown in!
Yes! That's the perfect discription of what's going on there! But I think there's a lot of chronic lying there.
Dad has a couple of guys there who he goes out to breakfast or coffee with. M's dad takes dad places sometimes and makes sure he gets out of the house. And dad likes spending time with M's grandfather too. Dad doesn't know anyone here anymore. He won't go to a senior center or anything like that and all of his friends have died. He doesn't know most of the neighbors and the few he does know are old and aren't doing all that well themselves.
Nipsy wants to go outside now so I've got to go....(((the spoiled BRAT!!!)))
Love, Barb
Anyway, they have another board for that so I'll go back to our purpose here-AD.
And how! Sounds like delusions compounded by denial with a bit of chronic lying thrown in!
Yes! That's the perfect discription of what's going on there! But I think there's a lot of chronic lying there.
Dad has a couple of guys there who he goes out to breakfast or coffee with. M's dad takes dad places sometimes and makes sure he gets out of the house. And dad likes spending time with M's grandfather too. Dad doesn't know anyone here anymore. He won't go to a senior center or anything like that and all of his friends have died. He doesn't know most of the neighbors and the few he does know are old and aren't doing all that well themselves.
Nipsy wants to go outside now so I've got to go....(((the spoiled BRAT!!!)))
Love, Barb
ToBeFreeToRoam
08-25-2005, 01:40 AM
Hi Barb,
Your MIL sounds just like my mother, except she eats normal meals and snacks too. Lots of carbs - which is a no no for diabetics. They are from the old style of eating: meat and potatoes (or rice)! Except my mom does not test everyday - too expensive! She test 2 - 3 times a week. And will not go and do the tests the dr. sets up for her to do. Only the blood test at the drs., so she can get her pills (for diabetes). Does you MIL get testy and easily upset, when her blood sugar is off?! My mom does, which makes it harder to reason with her.
What kind of a dog is nipsy and how old? She sounds like a sweetie - spoiled sweetie!
Take care of you! Wannabe
Your MIL sounds just like my mother, except she eats normal meals and snacks too. Lots of carbs - which is a no no for diabetics. They are from the old style of eating: meat and potatoes (or rice)! Except my mom does not test everyday - too expensive! She test 2 - 3 times a week. And will not go and do the tests the dr. sets up for her to do. Only the blood test at the drs., so she can get her pills (for diabetes). Does you MIL get testy and easily upset, when her blood sugar is off?! My mom does, which makes it harder to reason with her.
What kind of a dog is nipsy and how old? She sounds like a sweetie - spoiled sweetie!
Take care of you! Wannabe
BarbaraH
08-25-2005, 03:21 PM
Hi all -
Hope you're feeling better, Barb. You have such a lot to deal with. Bummer!!
In my profession, you learn quickly that any diabetic who is overweight is not sticking to their diabetic diet, no way, no how. Sadly, it really is dangerous and hurts them most of all - and those who love them.
Let your sister keep Dad and tell them there's no returning him if they spend all of his money, so they'd better be careful because he's there to stay! Is that an option?!
Sending hugs - Barbara :)
Hope you're feeling better, Barb. You have such a lot to deal with. Bummer!!
In my profession, you learn quickly that any diabetic who is overweight is not sticking to their diabetic diet, no way, no how. Sadly, it really is dangerous and hurts them most of all - and those who love them.
Let your sister keep Dad and tell them there's no returning him if they spend all of his money, so they'd better be careful because he's there to stay! Is that an option?!
Sending hugs - Barbara :)
LuvMyLilDoggie
08-25-2005, 06:41 PM
Let's see. Nipsy is a Jack Russell/Toy Fox Terrier mix. She looks more like a Jack Russell but she's not quite as tall. I wish we could send pictures here. You would all fall in love with her if you saw her. I found her on the internet. I took this online quiz to match a dog with our family and our lifestyle. Then I started looking at online pet shelters. She was a perfect match for us.
About dad. Yes, Barbara, that's a great option. I've thought about that. I gave R a list of "don'ts" when she took dad home....."Don't open credit cards in dad's name" "don't take any money of his except to pay for groceries once in a while" "no loans, no purchasing cars, no NOTHING!". She agreed but whether she complies or not is another story.
MIL. She was discharged from the hospital yesterday. Her leg is healing but there is a circulation problem in both her legs. While she was in the hospital, they drained 30 lbs (yes, THIRTY POUNDS!) of fluid from her in three days! She has to go to a vascular specialist. I've noticed that she's forgetting things like what the doctor said to her and such. She's got so much wrong with her and her sons are ALL in denial of her forgetfulness and even her lack of ability to do things like walk 15 feet without feeling like she's out of breath and feeling like she's going to choke. I STILL wonder what it takes to get these people to realize their mother is a very sick woman. She's 75 years old and 400 lbs. How can they not think this is very serious? :confused:
Gotta go to my other job now. Just got done with the bus driving....
Love, Barb
About dad. Yes, Barbara, that's a great option. I've thought about that. I gave R a list of "don'ts" when she took dad home....."Don't open credit cards in dad's name" "don't take any money of his except to pay for groceries once in a while" "no loans, no purchasing cars, no NOTHING!". She agreed but whether she complies or not is another story.
MIL. She was discharged from the hospital yesterday. Her leg is healing but there is a circulation problem in both her legs. While she was in the hospital, they drained 30 lbs (yes, THIRTY POUNDS!) of fluid from her in three days! She has to go to a vascular specialist. I've noticed that she's forgetting things like what the doctor said to her and such. She's got so much wrong with her and her sons are ALL in denial of her forgetfulness and even her lack of ability to do things like walk 15 feet without feeling like she's out of breath and feeling like she's going to choke. I STILL wonder what it takes to get these people to realize their mother is a very sick woman. She's 75 years old and 400 lbs. How can they not think this is very serious? :confused:
Gotta go to my other job now. Just got done with the bus driving....
Love, Barb
BarbaraH
08-26-2005, 12:13 AM
Hi Barb,
You might mention to the boys that weighing that much is called morbid obesity, because it's a step toward the grave. Again, sad, but true. It's deadly.
Take time for yourself! You're important, too!
Hugs - Barbara :)
You might mention to the boys that weighing that much is called morbid obesity, because it's a step toward the grave. Again, sad, but true. It's deadly.
Take time for yourself! You're important, too!
Hugs - Barbara :)
LuvMyLilDoggie
08-26-2005, 08:44 PM
Honestly, I don't understand how she's lasted this long. If she weren't as heavy as she is, I doubt she'd have any medical problems. She'd probably still be independent. Now she's totally dependent on others for almost everything.
I'm so sleepy! I worked the bus job all day yesterday and then went to the retail job to find a mound of work there (nobody worked in my department all day!). Then today I had to work my bus job and cover some other people's routes too. That place is INSANE with the beginning of the school year blunders!
I don't know if I'll be able to keep the pace up when dad comes home. I'm just too tired. I'll give it a shot though.
Sally....I don't know how you do it. It just blows my mind thinking of all you're accomplishing!
Time for me to lie on the couch and vegitate while watching Everybody Loves Raymond. Now THERE'S a dysfunctional family! :D
Love, Barb
I'm so sleepy! I worked the bus job all day yesterday and then went to the retail job to find a mound of work there (nobody worked in my department all day!). Then today I had to work my bus job and cover some other people's routes too. That place is INSANE with the beginning of the school year blunders!
I don't know if I'll be able to keep the pace up when dad comes home. I'm just too tired. I'll give it a shot though.
Sally....I don't know how you do it. It just blows my mind thinking of all you're accomplishing!
Time for me to lie on the couch and vegitate while watching Everybody Loves Raymond. Now THERE'S a dysfunctional family! :D
Love, Barb
angel_bear
08-26-2005, 10:45 PM
YOu know, I sit here and think "Geez I waste alot of time" and I am amazed that your running two jobs, a Dad when he's home, a son and life in general .... I don't think I do nearly that much LOL
Vegitating .. my way is chatting to friends on m*s*n LOL
Hugs
Sally
Vegitating .. my way is chatting to friends on m*s*n LOL
Hugs
Sally
LuvMyLilDoggie
08-27-2005, 11:11 PM
I didn't go to work today. Extreme fatigue hit me rather suddenly along with a sinus type headache. I was flat out on the couch all evening.
I called my sister S and found out that my nephew's wife, who was pregnant with twins, lost one of them. And now they're having to evacuate because of the hurricane. They just had a house built last year in Grand Isle, Louisiana. I hope they come through this ok.
Going back to the couch now and sleep.
Love, Barb
I called my sister S and found out that my nephew's wife, who was pregnant with twins, lost one of them. And now they're having to evacuate because of the hurricane. They just had a house built last year in Grand Isle, Louisiana. I hope they come through this ok.
Going back to the couch now and sleep.
Love, Barb