chrisboli
08-29-2005, 04:42 PM
i was sexually abused as a child. now, everytime I climax, I cry. I dont necessairly think abt the persons who did that to me as a child...is this a result of what happened? Or, is it normal? Thank you!
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SandraM
08-29-2005, 11:57 PM
More then likely. Its surprising how deep the trauma is. Have you tried going for therapy?
Sandra
Sandra
chrisboli
08-30-2005, 12:21 PM
I am on meds, therapy is unfortunately too expensive. I am saving for it. I also startle very easily. I also have nightmares alot, also. And they usually are not pertaining to the incident. Thanks for your concern! :)
SandraM
08-30-2005, 03:56 PM
The mind is very complex, so this might be coming out in different ways. Are you in US?
chrisboli
08-30-2005, 05:31 PM
Yes, I am in the US. I am in TN.
You?
You?
SandraM
08-30-2005, 05:48 PM
I am in Canada. But waiting to see Drs. here is unreal. Canada is in the midst of privatizing the medical care. I can see this being a huge problem. People here can't afford to pay for this. And I bet they won't be adjusting our income taxes either, since we do pay for our medical care in our taxes. Personally I can see a lot of bankrupts if this happens. Right now in Canada, there are about 3.5 million people without a Dr. Damn Gov is nothing but a bunch of crooks if you ask me.
Poo2
09-01-2005, 04:25 PM
Hi Chris,
I sometimes cry when I orgasm too. I was not abused as a child. I think that your body is going through so many emotions while having sex that I don't think it really doesn't know how to act.
I have heard of other people crying too.
I sometimes cry when I orgasm too. I was not abused as a child. I think that your body is going through so many emotions while having sex that I don't think it really doesn't know how to act.
I have heard of other people crying too.
onelkywmn
10-06-2005, 10:11 AM
:angel: i too have ptsd and i have done alot of personal research. i can say that our mind and body have internal triggers. like muscle memory and our brain opperates in the same way but much more complex. a basic thought for u 2 ponder - muscle memory works like this: if we are being raped and have no desire for anything to happen, our bodies still react as it does if we were getting intimate with our boyfriends. does that make sense? like u say about a climax, if u were young and u never had sex before, u probably knew it was wrong but physically it felt good, or the person that invaded u cried afterwards, either way thats why. the thing to do is look for these triggers and put other thoughts with them. it means staying alert and aloud stating how you want to feel and in your mind thinking the same. not after the tears start but before when the whole experience starts. the climax is the end when the tears start. get ahead of the triggers, the start of the intimate moment. make sense?
poetprose
11-14-2005, 12:35 PM
I am in Canada. But waiting to see Drs. here is unreal. Canada is in the midst of privatizing the medical care. I can see this being a huge problem. People here can't afford to pay for this. And I bet they won't be adjusting our income taxes either, since we do pay for our medical care in our taxes. Personally I can see a lot of bankrupts if this happens. Right now in Canada, there are about 3.5 million people without a Dr. Damn Gov is nothing but a bunch of crooks if you ask me.
Hi I'm in Ontario and if you have to go to ER , be prepared to wait for hours and hours
I just reccently had to go to ER they took 2 x rays and 3 blood cultures I was there a total of 4 and a half hours on a Sunday....
Hi I'm in Ontario and if you have to go to ER , be prepared to wait for hours and hours
I just reccently had to go to ER they took 2 x rays and 3 blood cultures I was there a total of 4 and a half hours on a Sunday....
galinaqt
01-11-2006, 06:10 PM
I was sexually abused at work. I found it very hard to be in intimate relationship with my husband. Every time he touches me I remembered that scum did it to me.
So called shrinks only make me feel worse, may be it was a wrong choice. It was nothing but shouting, insulting and critisism, that kind ot stuff I don't need even for free. You are lucky if you can talk with a good friend.
So called shrinks only make me feel worse, may be it was a wrong choice. It was nothing but shouting, insulting and critisism, that kind ot stuff I don't need even for free. You are lucky if you can talk with a good friend.