bluewaterangel
08-31-2005, 03:51 PM
Hello, I am 17 years old and I have never taken interest in boys. It has always been school, work and being miserable with my health. Is this normal for 17 year old girls sometimes, or could my OCD be playing a role in this. Please help me if you can.
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Pfretzsch
09-03-2005, 09:19 PM
Hello, I am 17 years old and I have never taken interest in boys. It has always been school, work and being miserable with my health. Is this normal for 17 year old girls sometimes, or could my OCD be playing a role in this. Please help me if you can.
It could be the drugs - are you on meds? Anafranil is notorious for making people not feeling like bothering with the opposite sex. Prozac also makes people content to be in a rut (and getting out and meeting the guys seems like too much of a bother). Also, perhaps you are concerned about your OCD interfering with a relationship - should you tell him? what will he think, etc?
It could be your OCD in the sense that having OCD is a great energy zapper and with school and life, boys can just seem too stressful. Are you involved in trying to pick out a college? You just may have a lot of things on your mind.
For now, don't worry a whole lot about it. Keep us posted. I am nearly 30 years older than you (oh my gawd, I can't believe it), so I can tell you that life with OCD can still be a lot of fun.
Good luck!
It could be the drugs - are you on meds? Anafranil is notorious for making people not feeling like bothering with the opposite sex. Prozac also makes people content to be in a rut (and getting out and meeting the guys seems like too much of a bother). Also, perhaps you are concerned about your OCD interfering with a relationship - should you tell him? what will he think, etc?
It could be your OCD in the sense that having OCD is a great energy zapper and with school and life, boys can just seem too stressful. Are you involved in trying to pick out a college? You just may have a lot of things on your mind.
For now, don't worry a whole lot about it. Keep us posted. I am nearly 30 years older than you (oh my gawd, I can't believe it), so I can tell you that life with OCD can still be a lot of fun.
Good luck!
GatsbyLuvr1920
09-03-2005, 11:54 PM
At last, I have found another teenage girl who has never had a relationship with a guy! Believe me, be happy that you're not having obsessions saying you're gay when you know that you're straight- I had these from age 12-14, and they really scared me because I KNEW I was straight from a very early age. I'm very much in support of gay rights and all, and if I was actually gay, then that would be me, but it scared me because I knew it wasn't true, and thus, the questions and obsessions began... :D I just turned 18, and began my freshman year of college, and I sometimes feel like such an outcast because I haven't ever been kissed before, let alone have a boyfriend! :o My one goal before the end of this year is to get a steady boyfriend who I deeply care about and love, and finally make out with him! ;) In all reality (and tell me if you feel the same way), I think that I have avoided ever getting close to a guy friend who might have become something more because I'm just so deathly afraid of all that could happen. I strongly believe in being a virgin until marriage for my own life (don't care what anyone else does- that's their personal choice), and I guess I'm just scared that some guy will take it too far, or even worse, date rape me or something- needless to say, this fear has increased since college began, and let's just say, that I haven't been anywhere near a frat party! :eek: As a true obsessive-compulsive, I hate change, and I think part of me is afraid to break my "perfect" record: I'm a virgin in every sense of the word- not just sexually, but also in the areas of cigarettes, alcohol, and drugs- and I don't want to spoil that because then God will punish me for not being "perfect." I would never smoke, drink, do drugs, or have sex anyway, but just the thought of being around it makes me feel guilty/shameful, and I'd have to run and confess to my mother... :rolleyes: I blame this on my sexual obsessions of the past and blasphemous/scrupulosity obsessions of the present. But, don't get me wrong- I have lots of crushes on hott guys (Leo DiCaprio is #1, even more so now that he played an OCD character in "The Aviator"! ;) ), and I really wish that I could have a hott, intelligent, honest, funny boyfriend who truly cared about me. I'm guessing it won't happen this year, either- I have my academics to focus on, I don't trust frat boys (which most all of them are), and I have too high standards and expectations for both myself and my "perfect" boyfriend... Damn you, OCD! You even interfere with me falling in love! :mad: Write back soon if you ever want to vent- I know how hard it can be, and how much of an outcast you can feel, especially when people start to think you're a lesbian because you've never dated, further feeding into the obsessions... God bless! :angel:
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bluewaterangel
09-06-2005, 12:16 PM
Thank you two so much!!! Both of you are right...I am deathly afraid of change, and of what a boyfriend will think of me if I told him I had ocd. I am also a virgin and am also scared of something awful happening and me losing my innocence. Another thing is if there is a break up, my life would not be the OCD called "perfect". The weird thing is is that I want a boyfriend, but am scared of everything that could go wrong. And maybe part of it is the meds, I am on Geodon and Lexapro, do these cause this symptom? And also, with my whole life so busy (My poor health with OCD, Irritable bowel, and endometriosis), school and bundles of homework, family issues and work boys just seem way to overwhelming right now. Hope to hear back from you two, thanks again.
Pfretzsch
09-06-2005, 04:02 PM
Lexapro is NOT notorious for causing lack of desire, in fact, many(?) people find that life is pretty normal regarding desire. I am not familiar with the other drug you are taking. Endometriosis and IBS can be very stressful.
You sound like a busy person occupied with the normal kinds of things that people are concerned about. Are you a senior in high school? That alone is a stressful event.
Pat
You sound like a busy person occupied with the normal kinds of things that people are concerned about. Are you a senior in high school? That alone is a stressful event.
Pat
GatsbyLuvr1920
09-07-2005, 12:08 AM
Yes, yes, yes! That's what it is- you want a boyfriend, but are so deathly afraid that you'll lose your virginity, and, at least in my case, that God will punish you! Sooo relieving to hear someone else has the exact same twisted fears! My OCD's getting bad and so are my panic attacks- I feel really comfortable here at my college and at my dorm room, but it just seems like the days are over so quickly, but what happened yesterday seems so far away... I'm getting frequent episodes of depersonalization/derealization, and I'll be walking to a class or to my room, and I'll randomly not know where I'm going, like I've never seen the place before and it's dream-like, or I'll feel like my brain is fully aware of my surroundings, but I don't feel like my brain is inside my body- I just am walking... And, since I don't have any real assignments besides reading, which isn't an assignment, I feel guilty b/c I feel that I should be doing something and I worry that I'm forgetting to do some assignment that doesn't even exist. Like tonight, for example, I should read for chem, and I'm probably going to, but I don't have a quiz until Friday, the teacher goes over everything in class, and I finish classes at 9:15 on Thursday- I have the whole day to study! Tres, tres annoying... :rolleyes: I only "feel right" and like I belong when I'm in my classes. After I leave the lectures, I just feel so disconnected from everything, namely the whiny teenage girls who put off their homework and make me further worry that I'm not doing what I should be... For example, my roommate has to read a long article and write a three-page summary for tomorrow morning- it's 11:00 pm, she has read about two pages, and she's currently talking to her boyfriend and mom on the phone! And here I am, stressing about something that doesn't even need to get down today! Write back soon! Sounds like we have a lot in common, which as far as the symptoms go, isn't necessarily a good thing! LOL! God bless! :angel:
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bluewaterangel
09-07-2005, 03:24 PM
Thank you for posting, I am very busy and most always stressed out. I am glad that Lexapro does not cause this. Geodon I am going to have to do some research. Most of it I think is because I dont have time and because they seem to stressfull, with all these conditions, eliminating most of my stress is almost impossible but I do the best I can. I am a senior in high school and have to worry about college, and money and new health insurance and all that good stuff. Thank you for helping me.
sinnister81
09-09-2005, 10:01 PM
Hello ladies, I am a 23 y/o male and I have similar OCD with bad depression and anxiety. To the one girl who posted about being afraid of telling someone you had ocd and the type you had, I have similar fears. Unfortunately most people are just ignorant as to OCD its not their fault they just never went thru it and if we didnt wed be ignorant too. Having said that, I am sure that the world is full of good people who would accept you for who you are regardless of what obstacles life throws in the way. That though will take tremendous courage on your end in putting yourself out there a little exposed. I was wondering if either of you have considered medications to help alleviate the symptoms and anxiety part of it as I can tell u 1st hand that ssri meds help alot! I am really afraid to post a website on here cuz its not a commercial its a free site that reccomends certain vitamins and amino acids to battle mental illness. Its made by a doctor who wrote a book on her natural treatments and even posted the book online free of charge to get the info out to people if you are afraid of the medication approach. Anyway girls, theres alot of help out there, keep in mind theres alot of good understanding people out there, even though u might not see that in them on the surface. Keep your heads up and try every positive thing u can to improve your life.
Oh ya as to the site im sure if you research natural appraoches with vitamins and amino acids youll find some good sites, sorry I kinda change subjects when i write alot.
Good luck
Sinn
Oh ya as to the site im sure if you research natural appraoches with vitamins and amino acids youll find some good sites, sorry I kinda change subjects when i write alot.
Good luck
Sinn
bkm4673
09-10-2005, 12:54 AM
i agree with pfetsch and gatsby dont worry about guys now focus on making you happy and hopefully the guy situation will fall into place. i am a 32 yr old single male and i think life with ocd can be fun still. i just havent met the right female. talk more to gatsby she is smart.
GatsbyLuvr1920
09-10-2005, 11:30 AM
bkm- Aw! That was sweet! Thank you sooo much for the compliment! I'm glad someone thinks I'm smart b/c I don't feel the same way- I wonder what could be the cause of that?! ;)
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bkm4673
09-10-2005, 01:05 PM
gastby theres no cause its just a part of you growing up so dont feel something is wrong with you because theres not in that area. good luck i wish you both the very best and there will be a guy who will be extremely lucky to be with you one day gatsby...
GatsbyLuvr1920
09-10-2005, 09:26 PM
Thanks for the boost of confidence- I needed that, bkm! :D I think a lot of guys think that I'm too forward because I just come right out and say what I'm truly like; I never put on a facade or hide my true interests/personality just to get someone to like me... Also, I think guys are turned off because I guess they see me in class as smart, and I only get respect because of that. Oh, well, maybe someday... :angel: Write back soon!
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bkm4673
09-10-2005, 10:41 PM
alot of guys are intrigued by smart women i am but thats not the only reason theyll like you. i m glad what i said made you feel better because i was telling the truth...you seem like a cool female to get to know. keep being yourself and something good should come out of it. i bet your pretty also..........
GatsbyLuvr1920
09-11-2005, 09:40 AM
Well, I don't consider myself super attractive, just average, but thanks. I think it's also hard b/c if I feel like a guy likes me more than a friend, I don't know how to react b/c it's "new" and I hate uncertainty and change...
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bkm4673
09-11-2005, 03:02 PM
just be yourself and if you decide to give into someones affection towards you remember your in control of that nodoby can make you like them or do anything you dont want to..you wil start to get use to guys liking you and youll end up being k w/it and learn to deal with it easier....
bluewaterangel
09-11-2005, 04:56 PM
Hello everyone!
I feel the same way in school...got to get in done right here right now sort of thing even if it is not due til next month! I have had alot of crushes and alot of nice guys who have liked me, but I turned every single one of them down because of my fears. I feel like I have made a huge mistake because they would have each been perfect for me. I am on lexapro, which is a Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor and helped at first, but like the rest of the psych meds I have been on, it feels like they all stop working over time, not completely, but nervous and anxiety wise. Well all of you keep me posted. see you all later.
I feel the same way in school...got to get in done right here right now sort of thing even if it is not due til next month! I have had alot of crushes and alot of nice guys who have liked me, but I turned every single one of them down because of my fears. I feel like I have made a huge mistake because they would have each been perfect for me. I am on lexapro, which is a Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor and helped at first, but like the rest of the psych meds I have been on, it feels like they all stop working over time, not completely, but nervous and anxiety wise. Well all of you keep me posted. see you all later.
bkm4673
09-11-2005, 05:05 PM
bluewater you do like lexapro though correct? ive done the same w/relationships were the female wouldve been perfect but my ocd took over, sucks huh...
bluewaterangel
09-12-2005, 01:13 PM
I do like Lexapro and it prevents panic attacks extremely well. The obsessions and compulsions are under control, but the nervousness, anxiety and emotions are not. Could these be adverse reactions of the meds. I asked my doctor and he said they could cause these but the chance is really low. What do you all think? And I am kind of depressed because my best friend just got a new boyfriend and is really happy...I feel like I am missing out but believe that searching for a boyfriend is pointless: it will just happen and fall into place all on it's own. One of my problems is that most of the guys that I like I only allow a good friendship and do not step out of the overwhelming OCD boundaries. I am also down because I have OCD, Irritable Bowel, Endometriosis, AND pelvic floor with rectocele. These are all pretty much connected so I dont feel so bad but it is alot to swallow. Well keep in touch and everyone keep on posting! Thanks again everyone!
bkm4673
09-12-2005, 06:57 PM
blue i feel for you but keep your head up remember be youself ,keeping yourself feeling good is the best thing to do. im glad the lexapro is helping you im starting on it this week. take care..i wish you the best