Right, i know everyone will think im a b***h and i probably am. I have had sex with a friend (unprotected-i thought i'd know better, especially as im a youth clinic worker) about 3 times, i used to have warts they cleared up on their own about 2 months ago-i tried aldara but couldn't tolerate it. i haven't been back to my doctor since, (all very embarrasing, i know him). Now this friend has got a girlfriend who is a lovely person and deserves much better than him (cheating a-hole) as a partner. Anyway, thats all done and we both regret it and it wont happen again, now here is my issue, i thought because i haven't got warts now i couldn't give them to him-is that wrong???
He doesn't know i had them and now she's at risk too.......i dont think their the cancerous types though,
if i tell him he'll hate me for putting him and her at risk (i know it takes 2 to tango and she's the innocent party in all this)
if 99% of people really have the virus at some point is there any point in saying anything as they probably already have the virus and there is nothing i can do about it now, and there is nothing they can do until something shows up.
is there a chance they may never get it, god im so confused, i hate myself already for getting into this mess, but i dont want to lose a friend, or ruin his relationship for a mistake which we both regret.
I know this is really selfish but could i just not say anything because i could have not known i had them and spread them accidently

And now the visable warts have gone how will i know when i no longer put future partners at risk

PLEASE HELP, BEFORE MY MORAL DILEMMA GRINDS ME DOWN

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the same thing happened to me. My doctor told me that, when the warts cleared up that i wasnt transmittable anymore, and she lied to me. I gave someone GW's after my warts were gone. Supposedly hpv is noncurable. I would never want to give someone that disease but the doctor told me the wrong info. So dont feel bad, it does seem like that you wouldnt be transmittable after there gone but you are possibly for life. Sorry to tell ya, good luck though.