I am falling in love with a man that does not have herpes. I told him about it and he's wanting to be with me anyway. The problem is, we haven't had sex because I'm so afraid that I'm going to give it to him. I keep imagining how I would feel if he told me he contracted it from me.

How does one deal with this?? Any advice? Please.

Learn your body - watch for signs or symptons - do nothing if you even think an ob, might be starting. There are plenty of other ways to show your affection. You can't let this virus control you - you have to control the virus. I think mentally - that is the most difficult part - accepting the virus. Congrats - to you for finding a partner that still wants to be with you! That says alot about both you & your partner. Keep in mind that this H-crap, does get easier with time and then it ain't nothing but a thing.....Good luck & live on.....Peace, -shinyOrn

Don't worry so much. I've been with my husband for 6 years and he has never had any kind of symptoms or anything and we never use protection. Just make sure you're not having an ob and you'll be fine!

Please read the "Happy Couples" thread that Orn just bumped up. It is very long, but has lots of stories and advice about trying to protect your partner from herpes. I've been with my partner for over 13 years, and he hasn't gotten h--and we have had an extremely active sex life.