My husband and I desperately want to start our family. I am 34 and he is 29, no children for each of us, first marriage (5/28/04). Have been trying since our wedding date. Here is some background:

I had the laparascopy in April 05. Doc said they shoot dye through both ovaries to make sure they are functioning properly. One side emptied the dye into my uterus - good news. The other side did not do that. So, he said it may or may not be blocked, but probably. Said he found endometriosis and fibroid tumors. This is what is causing the severe monthly pain for me, and most likely causing the infertility. When we went back for checkup, Doc (knowing we were in a rush to have children) suggested we try for 6 more months on our own, and also make an appt with a fertility clinic. Actually, he and his wife had the same situation as us, and they went to that clinic 3 times and now have 3 girls. He also gave me a prescription for clomid, which would only make me produce more eggs. I took it for four months and stopped - very bad side effects for me.

Okay so here is my issue. A friend of a friend has one blocked ovary, she went for a second opinion to an Endocrinoligist, and he lasered out the tumors of her blocked ovary. Several months later, she conceived on her own. I have her doctors name. Actually I had an appt with him last Feb, but since my regular gyn scheduled my laparoscopy, and seemed to think I'd conceive shortly thereafter, I cancelled. Now this Endocrinologist is very hard to get an appt with. It took me 6 months to get that appt in Feb. Now I want to smack myself for not keeping it.

Right now we have no health insurance (due to hubby changing jobs). We will come early November. Last night Hubby said to me "I was thinking today about just how much we want a baby. In a few months, why don't we just go right to the infertility clinic?" Uhhh okay, now I thought we'd already decided on that, (which brings me to does he remember ANY of our conversations?) but I didn't remind him since I was on the verge of tears. ALL these thoughts are running through my mind: he is tired of waiting, I can't give him what he wants, maybe he'll stop being so supportive, maybe he should've married someone else, can't I just sleep for a few weeks and wake up pregnant, what if I never get pregnant, I may as well be dead. Well you know, I would never hurt myself, but that's just how bad it makes me feel - like not wanting to be awake to feel these emotions.

Do I call my current gyn and ask to speak with him? Ask him how bad was the endo/fibroid tumors, and why didn't he clean me out (for lack of better term) when he noticed them? Does he recommend I see someone else? Can he give me something stronger for this unGodly pain today? Or do I go straight to making the appt with that endo doc that could take months and months?

I am so depressed, it takes every ounce of me to get out of bed in the morning. Make up? Hairstyle? I don't do any of that until I'm on my way home to see Hubby. I feel worthless, down, all around yucky.

Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions? I feel like it's never going to happen.

Thank you kindly,
Debbie :confused:

Hi Debbie,

My thoughts are with you. I feel like we have some commonalities. Please read my post.

Take Care,
cowgrrl

I understand where your coming from, it does seem like it will never happen.

I would ring your usual ob and see if he can help you progress quicker, he may even be able to get you a sooner appointment with the other person, its worth a try.

Good luck ;)

i was in almost the same situation.. blocked tubes, not ovulating, clomid not working. fibroids.. .blah blah blah...
ended up removing a fibroid size of an orange... leaving two in but did clean out both tubes....
With my experience of specialists... go ahead and make the appt. ASAP.. you'll have to wait 6 months to see him/her anyway. then make the appt with the OB and get the specifics.. what did they do.. why did or didn't they do... ask to see any photos or charts that may be important to show a specialists (my dr. took pictures of my lap and all they did and gave me copies - gross i know....)
when if finally saw my RE... i showed him my records and the photos and we started IVF the next cycle.. which by the way gave me a beautiful boy.
So it is possible BUT i have found that YOU have to be proactive.... i know that insurance has a lot to do with it BUT the longer you wait the longer it takes... no one wants this more than you so YOU have to push it.. get the appts.. ask all the questions - find out if there is a male factor too... because after all they found with me... they said let's test your DH just in case and SURE ENOUGH.. low production, low molitily .. and very abnormal... so we had a double whammy...
just because you know that there may be "plumbing" issues.. be sure that it may not just be you.
don't feel guilt..... it will tear you apart.. and start to tear your marriage apart..
I have met SO many people that have broken marriages because of infertility... talk about it.. be open. ask the question... what if we can't.. know what your options are and find out what you and your DH are willing to do... DON"T LET IT RUIN YOU... remember that there is always someone out there in a worse situation.
when we went through infertility.. my SIL had a stillborn at 20 weeks.. when my second IVF didn't work... my BF had a miscarriage at 15 weeks... it put my problems into perspective...
i don't know if this helps or not but i hope it at least gives you something else to focus on.

Hello,
My DH and I have been trying to concieve now for 2 years. I had a HSG 1 1/2 years ago and showed blocked right fallopian tube. My gyn refered me right away to an RE for the problem. You do need to be pro active. My insurance does not pay for infertility treatments either. I had a laparoscope to diagnose me with endometriosis stage III. The doc cleaned me out and I started on clomid. I did the clomid for 3 months with IUI without success. Then did one month of gonal-f and IUI without success. I had another HSG done and showed that my right tube was blocked again and my left was narrowed. I was distraught and cried my eyes out - that is only normal. I then scheduled IVF and did all the preliminary workup and had my embryo transfer on the 5th of this month. He only transfered 2 but both were grade 1. I am on the 2 week waiting period and am trying to stay positive. That is all you could do. I am new to this site and have read on about a couple successful IVF cycles just recently and that is great news. I hope my results are the same. I find out on the 17th of October if it worked or not. Good luck to you and stay focused - try not to be too hard on yourself. Take each day at a time.
Connie

I understand, my husband and I are almost to your stages, I have been trying to get pregnant for the past year, I am in the begginng stages of trying w/ my gyno, my spouse has had 2 semen tests and they are right below normal, so she has put me on Clomid to see what that will do if not we go to see a specialist. I was wondering since some of you have gone thru my next stages if insurance covers the procedures of seeing if your tubes are blocked and etc. I am sooo wanting a baby I,m 28 and he is 34 and we are very much ready, all of my friends have gotten pregnant the 1st time they tried so I am sooo upset and feel so down. Any suggestions? How many times a month are you having intercourse in trying to conceive?