Ok, here is my story. I have always had a bit of a problem with people being 'better' then me. I guess it's not so much someone actually beating me. I play a lot of sports and often get beaten in them, it doesn't bother me at all. I guess it's really that if someone is very loud, dominant, or whatever and think they are the **** and I just don't like them...I like being able to say to myself, with honesty 'Well, atleast I am better looking then them' or 'atleast I could beat them up' .It is when I can't say these things about the person who I don't like that I really begin to have problems, because I feel so inferior. And this stems to things like me going into my shell when around them, and not thinking straight and just being intimidated.

With girls it is kind of a similar thing. I feel I must have something up on every guy in order for them to want to be with me. I must have a better body, must be smarter, more knowledgeable etc. Although I realise that other people will always be better then me in some regards, I like to think I am the overall package. Many people even tell me this. Therefore, I assume they must expect me to be packing a nice dick. And to some extent I think I am. But it is when its soft, I think it looks worse then everyones and is just shocking. I hate it. And I feel I can't show any girl or anyone that I am not in fact the overall package, as I have this part of me is much worse then perfect in its flaccid state. And this holds me back. And I don't know what to do.

I don't think you have a "problem" per say. Self-image can be a strong feeling that sometimes leads to unhealthy habits, thaughts ect. Controling your thaughts on the "bad" points of your own self, self esteem, is what I think this boils down to.

I have a simular problem looking at my own body, when, I've been told many times, "it's not hard to look at", self-image, self-esteem.

Unfortunately I don't know the answere. What I do know, is, when I find someone I truly love, I don't feel "inferior" or "ugly", true love is unconditional. If the other person truly loves you, I wouldn't matter if you had only one testecule ,,,ect. Right? makes sense?

From what i've read, you shouldn't feel inferior at all.

Certain people thrive on finding others who show weaknesses and twists the situation. Like animals, attack the weak. (I hope this makes sense to you.) Unfortunately, if you find yourself in one of those situations, keep in mind, in my opinion, those types of people usualy do have real self-esteem problem and then some. For anyone to "pick" on, one who appears uncomfortable is just plain, well, let's just say, not worth my friendship.

Friendship is like love-unconditional.

ps, as a women- one of my x's had the tiniest little one. You know what I mean. Like, really, really little. I didn't think they came that way ;) (joke), You know what though, I loved that man, he was most certainly able to please me. Point is, don't worry about it. At all. If someone were to "judge" you on a physical attribute that you have no control over, well, I think, you deserve much better.

True love and true friendship is for sure, unconditional.

Everyone has a "thing" about wanting to be better than others, that's somewhat a good thing to feel. Since, the way I see it,,,,makes us all want to better ourselves, through education, excersise ect. Right?