i think my baby is high-need he is 7 1/2 months, he is very sensitive if we would go somewhere & something bothered him he would stop drinking to scream. If i am taking care of my daughter and he wakes up from his nap he screams like he is dying if i don't answer him as soon as he wakes up. there are days he is the most happiest baby but it changes in an instant. we can't go anywhere he screams we couldnt even go to church if music is playing he screams and nothing can soothe him if we tried bottle he would let it gurgle in his mouth and scream. if we go out and anyone tried talking to him he would cry but sometimes he smiles at other people it's only when he is upset he don't want to be bothered by others. sometimes i put him in his room in his crib cause i need a break & he will squeal and be the happiest baby why does he like to be by hisself? There are time he poops and wont cry if i dont smell it on him then there are times he will scream like he is dying and there is nothing wrong he was fed & changed and stuff. he lays on floor and plays then kicks his feet and screams and it's hard on me cause i have a toddler and he doesn't make it easy on me either. he has more screams "tantrums" then my daughter and she is almost 2. it's like he tries to hold his bottle sometimes not always but when he cant cause he holds it and pulls it out of his mouth so i hold his hands and he will get mad and scream it's like he can't have his way. my hubby fed him and went to put his pants on and he screams real loud. he use to get mad cause we go to put his diaper on & he wants to touch hisself & get's mad and lifts his legs to his stomach and then kicks his legs down so we cant put diaper on. anyway i am just venting cause i want to know if anyone else has a child like this? he is 7 1/2 months. does he sound like high-need? i justr don't remember my daughter being like is as i know all kids are different.

Sounds just like my DS. We joke that he has bi-polar disorder. He can go from happy to screaming murder in a spilt-second. He is generally a happy smilley baby but don't piss him off. For example, if we accidently bump his head the slightest bit he screams but if he bumps his own head most times it is no big deal. Or if he was playing and we talk to him and he didn't want to be bothered he screams. He will scream like he is dying if something sudden happens, like if we sneeze (his sneezes are okay), or talk when the house is quiet, or if he hears velcor or anything like it. He crys if he thinks he is being made fun of, as in if you copy a noise he made. Don't ever wake him up and never disturb him while he is eating. He can be so immpossbile and then sometimes you would never know. We took him for his first pictures the other day and smiled and everything and was so perfect. He doesn't like the car and mearly tolerates it. So if we are to do something that sets him off in car, he crys so hard and loud we have to stop and take him out of the car seat and out of the car. So if you see a blue car all of a sudden pull off the road and some red faced person jumps out with a screaming child, it is us. He is only 4 months old and our only child so we are able to jump for his demands. The way we deal with it, is by praising him when he is good and not saying much when he is throwing a fit. We do our best to find out what is bothering him and soothe him but we also talk to him about what happened. I hope someday that will pay off. Did you DS start out this way or was it more gradual?

hey i am so glad to have found someone who is in my shoes. yes he has always been very sensitive from the start how about your DS? We sometimes had to leave church cause he was screaming so bad. then once or twice we went to church & he was fine so go figure :rolleyes: does it ever get to you? i know i have lot's going on cause i have a toddler too and she is gonna need therapy for certain stuff cause she is behind, and he doesn't like when you don't have your eyes on him 24/7. my daughter was just very gentle and a very good baby she would never tell me what she wanted and him he cries no i am sorry screams even if all his needs are met. we were out to the store and i had to take my daughter out of her carseat to change her & he started screaming cause i was taking care of her i guess :rolleyes: it's hard especially since i have 2 and i don't want anymore cause of this experience. I keep telling myself he will get better but he doesn't he now can roll over and fight me when he doesnt want to be changed or wear clothes and is sitting at times except when he wants to be on his belly he is rocking at times like ready to crawl. he kicks his feet real hard on the floor and screams cause i am in kitchen which is connected to our living room. also he has this grunting laugh when i change his poop but other times he will scream cause he pooped but he acts like i am not gonna change him. Have you ever told your pedi about your son? i am not sure if i should tell my pedi...i am afraid when i switch him to cup later on will he have a big tantrum cause he doesnt get his bottle and when he screams sometimes there are no tears just screaming. oh yeah it's ok too when he squeals loud in car & keeps his sister up when she's tired but when he needs his rest and we make any sounds he screams real bad. now he is use to sounds kinda but he use to scream real bad cause i would use my hairdryer or vaccuum cleaner. My mom acts like he doesn't do anything well she don't take care of 2 all day long. she favors her boys though :rolleyes: sorry i am still venting...

btw we joke too that our son has bi-polar too i have said that a few times for the way he acts it sounds too familiar

My son was the exact same way. It started all of a sudden though. He was very calm and quiet for the first 3 months and then all heck broke loose. One day I went downstairs to put the laundry in the dryer. I heard the loudest, shrillest scream ever. I ran as fast as I could up stairs. I though he was hanging from his bouncy seat by his neck the scream was sooo loud. When I ran into the room he looked at me and smiled. From that point on he realized how to get moms attention right away. I called him high need after that. He is now two and is exhausting. I remeber the diaper changing battles. We had to stop using the table becasue he fought me so hard I thought he would fall off. I hope my next is more laid back. I can't imagine going through all that again. I felt your pain. :angel:

Momof2kids2005 - so far we don't have diaper changing wars but changing his diaper is a project. He gets very upset if he pees while his diaper is off. So we have to move fast. He doesn't mind getting his dirty diapers changed. However, we have to completely undress him to clean him up other wise he manages to get it all over. I guess the wars are coming. He was born this way. In the hospital if people would touch him or pick him up when he was sleeping he would be inconsolible. I hated having visitors. And then when the nurse took my blood pressure he would freak due to the velcro. Some times he is a little angel in the store and other times you have to rush out of there. I never go out by myself, DH always has to go with. I want to get out so bad but I just don't dare. You are brave taking 2 out. I also I worried if I have more they may be like this. I just have him so more would be nice but, 2 like this!! . . . No Way!! I never talked to the Dr about him. I feel bad always talking bad about him in front of him. But he is so night and day. When you are all ready to talk to some one about him, he turns into a perfect angel. Were you ever able to cuddle your DS? I can never really cuddle him. In the morning he will sit on my lap but don't try to hold him close or kiss him. I feel like we walk on broken glass trying to make sure we don't set him off. And about half the time it is not like he cries he screams. If he doesn't get the bottle in his mouth fast enough he just yells. The yelling really gets under my skin. But I love him so much and that makes it so hard.

well as far as my son sometimes he would fall asleep on me but other times when he would scream i had to put him somewhere i got so much anxiety and my hands would even shake so i would put him down & he would scream & scream. wow did the nurses say anything about him being upset a lot in the hospital? i know in hospital he was taking a fit cause he needed his bottle when he just ate & nurses said they think they are hungry then they spit it all back up but i insisted on the bottle cause i was getting angry cause he was acting up real bad, and he pooped with every feeding sometimes twice a feeding. now he doesnt poop as much. anyway i read that at his age if he cries you can go rub his back or whatever but not to pick him up well the whole neigborhood hears him if we don't do what he wants right then and sometimes you can't guess what is wrong when u did everything for him. oh yeah well when i take the kids out they stay in car with my hubby & we take turns going in the store i don't make that mistake anymore LOL or i go myself...he acts all nice in front of my mom & everyone then they leave and he's back to mr. miserable and i would laugh in the store he would do same thing sometimes but now he will cry if he is upset. we have to take my daughter for tests too thurs and we have to take him sometimes i think i want to leave him with grandma LOL

The nurses never said anything. They believe in CIO, because there were babies in the nursery that cried all night. I had DS by me but I could hear the babies in the nursery all night long. I couldn't believe parents could do that.

Oh have I been there....my DD was born a screamer..She is 22 months old now and I have just now started to enjoy her...That is so terrible to say..I have 4 children and my other 3 were never like this..She hated the car also..I mean I would never leave with her unless my hubby was with me, and we had to hold her..I have tried to let her CIO and she doesn't stop, all she would do is vomit she would be crying so hard..These past 2 months have been a god send, she has gotten so much better in the car and around the house..Don't get me wrong she play's,laughs, but it is all about her....If her brother and sister's do something she doesn't like it just pisses her off..And she will scream...So, hopefully it will get better for y'all like it has for me....I can actually sit back now and think, gosh am I glad ,Those day's are hopefully over with...Best of luck ladies, I really feel for ya...Ralinda

Oh, DS is the same way, and never used to be. He is now 5 months, and we joke about being bi-polar too. If he can't get a toy in his mouth- he screams. If I put him in his crib for 1 minute, he screams, and when I walk in the room, he smiles at me. I have actually taped this, because noone would believe me. Now he fusses while nursing, and last nigh he would not eat dinner. He's also a terrible sleeper, are any of your angels? But here's the kicker, when we're out, he's the best. He loves being out of the house!

Ralinda30 - DS does the same thing if we let him CIO. He will scream till he is sweating and then will gag till he throws up.


dizzygirl - DS is a horrible sleeper. Some nights he goes 5 hrs, but most nights it is every 3-4 hrs. He is an angel when outside or at the mall where he can watch people.

sometimes i let him cry it out well i put him in his crib/safe place to cry cause i feel like i am gonna lose it so he will scream so bad that he gags, but his moods changes then he is happy so i am like what is going on LOL

as far as him sleeping he use to go to bed around 9p.m. or so and wake up at 10a.m. now he thinks he has to go to bed super early we try to keep him up a little cause he wakes up real early but hey at least he sleeps all night that is a plus!!

get this ladies my hubby is home & he is an angel but yesterday he's acting up real bad just for me :eek:

My DS was the same way. As long as he had someones undivided attention, he was fine. The minute I tried to put him down to get something done, he'd scream until he was purple. This started at birth. At 2, he still requires tons of attention. He tends to act out if I'm on the phone or playing with my DD or doing something else that doesn't give him all my attention.

We always joked that he went from zero to pissed in 3 seconds flat. LOL. You couldn't get his food to him fast enough, and he hated sleep and fought it all the time. He hated the swing, carseat, bouncer, and anything else that usually soothes babies. The only thing that soothed him was picking him up. Then it was like turning off a switch.

I don't believe in CIO until about 7 months or later, really. I found that you have to do what you have to do to keep yourself sane and the baby quiet. Of course, there would be times when I would be so frustrated I had to put him in his crib and walk outside for a few minutes to keep from going over the edge. Don't ever feel guilty if you need to do that. It's better for you and baby if you keep your cool.