Almost everybody i know thinks that im the most calm person ever and i would be the last person to get mad. But i never really want to let anyone know im mad, not sure why either.

It gets to points where im so pissed off that i just start punching a door or throwing things, but when nobody is ever around. It got so heated that once i actually cut my upper arm with a knife, just because i was mad. I didnt even want to do this to be honest with you, my mind just controls me when im mad, i ended up getting 13 stitches. I get easily pissed off when im driving, like if somebody does something stupid then i end up acting stupid as well, but not even thinking about it. For little things too, like in my neighborhood someone may run this little stop sign (pretty much everyone does it), and i just get angry about it so i tail them the entire way through the neighborhood. This has happened on tons of occasions, and a few people even mentioned it to me before.

The only thing is that i never inflict my pain on other people, never. Just my anger gets out of hand sometimes. Does anyone know how i could possibly fix this?

Were you allowed to be angry or voice your own opinion when you were growing up?

I guess i wasnt allowed to be angry, and in my current age i find it incredibly frustrating to argue with my parents, even in the friendly debate way. Because no matter what i am wrong, and that just makes me incredibly mad. I guess i just wasnt too angry of a kid when i was younger.

"Almost everybody i know thinks that im the most calm person ever and i would be the last person to get mad. But i never really want to let anyone know im mad, not sure why either."
"I guess i wasnt allowed to be angry, and in my current age i find it incredibly frustrating to argue with my parents, even in the friendly debate way. Because no matter what i am wrong, and that just makes me incredibly mad. I guess i just wasnt too angry of a kid when i was younger."
Your anger now could be surpressed anger from your childhood. Do you remember what your parents would do when you got anger? Did they punish you, or silence you?Can you remember how it mad you feel? Today you are frustrated when you argue with your parents and are always wrong, no matter what, correct? It makes you anger..what else does it make you feel?

Well i was never too angry as a child, here are there, and when i was i cant remember what i did, obviously nothing serious.

But with my parents, its not that im argueing because i hate them or something, its just that i want to get my point across, and they seem to defend their idea to that extreme so that it turns kind of into an arguement, no matter how hard i try not to. The past year was the worst though, sometimes they use this little tag team technique which drives me insane, i ask them something in the nice manner, they say no, i try to defend my answer (calm and cool), and then they start shooting down all of my ideas. After that, we try to maintain a regular debate, they say their part while i wait and listen, then once my turn comes around, they wouldnt even give me eye contact, they would go back to doing what they were doing (eating maybe, watching tv, etc), and then when i said something that probably has a good point, they totally interrupt me and throw in their story while i was still talking.

I have avoided those arguements lately, i just give in because i honestly cant remember the last time i was right. So i havent really tried for a long time.

Almost everybody i know thinks that im the most calm person ever and i would be the last person to get mad. But i never really want to let anyone know im mad, not sure why either.

It gets to points where im so pissed off that i just start punching a door or throwing things, but when nobody is ever around. It got so heated that once i actually cut my upper arm with a knife, just because i was mad. I didnt even want to do this to be honest with you, my mind just controls me when im mad, i ended up getting 13 stitches. I get easily pissed off when im driving, like if somebody does something stupid then i end up acting stupid as well, but not even thinking about it. For little things too, like in my neighborhood someone may run this little stop sign (pretty much everyone does it), and i just get angry about it so i tail them the entire way through the neighborhood. This has happened on tons of occasions, and a few people even mentioned it to me before.

The only thing is that i never inflict my pain on other people, never. Just my anger gets out of hand sometimes. Does anyone know how i could possibly fix this?

Yeah, when you get angry, you need to let it out. You can't just hold it all inside and then let it all out at once later on. That is dangerous. I'm not saying scream at people or hit them or anything..just calmly talk with them about the issue that is bothering you. I used to break things, scream, hits the walls..I would just go nuts when everything got to be too much. Now instead of doing that, if I get angry, I let the person that made me angry know. I don't get as angry as I used to though, I've grown up alot and I just tell myself that it's not worth it to get really pissed off and out of control, I've gotten control over the anger instead of letting it control me. As for the tailgating..that I don't do because it's simply not safe for you or the other driver. I do get road rage once in a while though..just remember that not everyone drives like you do and basically you can't change that, so you just have to deal with it. Being that you see this as a problem, you can work on fixing it, good luck with it.

Alot of the times i dont notice how angry i got until much later, maybe days. On the road it happens a good bit, i just get irritated by tiny little things. Especially when someone does something stupid or not even neccessary, like for example on my way home from school yesterday my lane was going pretty slow, so i was about to switch lanes, i put on my turn signal and this one lady purposely started flooring it just so i dont make it through, so i just cut her off. Then the next few minutes she is tailing me so i keep slamming my brakes so she backs off, if she were to hit me i know pretty much no matter what it would be her fault since she was driving behind me. That i just couldnt help it, i wasnt furious, but i reacted in the wrong aggressive way.

Are you trying to debate 'their rules of the house" or a subject of a different matter? What kind of points are you trying to get across? Give some examples of these debates you've had in the past. Have a good weekend.

These are just ones i can remember.
-Going to go see a movie on a school night (like a 5:00 movie, meaning i would be home before 8:00 anyways)
-Going to a friends house after school on a school night
-Spending the night at my female friend's house (i understand this though)
-Being able to have my black friend over (which is really screwed up in my opinion, we were all born in Poland so there werent as many black people around. But they dont want any of my black friends here. That really pissed me off, this arguement got INCREDIBLY tense and lasted a few weeks)
-School work, how im never right about any of it and its their way or the highway pretty much. Recently i have been out over a week from school because of pneumonia, so you'd assume i have alot of work to makeup. Theres this math test i missed and they are trying to make me take it right now, when im not even sure if i know the material.
-Staying home sick, no matter how sick i am, 90% of the time i have to go to school anyways. I have gone to school with numerous fevers, and my dad wanted to send me back when i had pneumonia after missing 2 days.

Stuff like that, theres much more but i cant remember.

So it seems like you're just debating their rules. Unfortunately, for you, as long as you are under their roof and supporting you, yes, you should follow their rules. I know this is very difficult for young people to understand but when you have children of you're own, you'll understand. It's your parents way of keeping you 'safe'. You're views are legitate, and worth talking about, but it is still their house. Sorry you probably don't like this statement. Have a great week,

I just feel frustrated because its always them talking, and im nice i listen to everything they say, then when my turn comes around to put my 2 cents in, they totally look away (at the TV or at a magazine or something), they interrupt me, mimick me, and so forth.

try approaching your questions or opinions in a different manner. Ask them what they think about something and why. Ask what they would do and why. Make it seem like they are the intelligent ones and your the student but ask in a way to get them to say what you want to hear. Good luck.