I was wondering how you guys deal with the suicidal thoughts? I am going to a pyhciatrist Thursday? Will he know what I am talking about?

yep if he/she knows what they are doing. How do I deal with suicidal thoughts? I do my best to focus on the positives in my life, like my wife and son. They are a pain in the butt, my therapist said suicide is a permanent decision to a temporary situation.

all the best

Don't think. That way you can delay things to a time when thinking might actually be helpful - perhaps when there's someone else there to help you work things out. And if you ask how do you not think? Sleep, distract yourself, anything. That's all probably very bad advice and indeed as far as I know, nothing good comes out of not thinking other than delaying things.

not thinking will not solve anything, ever heard of the white polar bear test, somebody says you need to sit in this empty room and not think of a white polar bear for one hour, if you succeed you pass, close to everybody fails.

I have been trying to figure out when the thoughts hit me and how strong they are that day to see if I can find a pattern, keep a journal like this is helpful for you and your doctor. But the best thing to do is try and distract your mind and if you can not get yourself someplace space. My wife knows what it means when I say "I can't be alone right now"

hope this note finds you in a happy place

Try to avoid situations and places that prompt the feelings. I had to quit going in the basement for a while because of thoughts of hanging myself. Got to the point of checking out the space to make sure I could tie a rope and get my head in it etc.

Get help from whatever resources you can, medication, therapy, church. Just don't give in. Break the thought with something else

I am glad someone asked this, because it is embarrassing, and you feel guilty,and if your a Christian, its worst, but I tried it, and God showed me how wanted I was............would not take me !


I want to say, that I never felt like this until Hurricane Katrina, and I am living with family who really don't want me to live exactly with them, and THERE IS NO WHERE TO GO, and it was so traumatizing, and devastating, my diabetes, anxiety is so bad, I finally tried to take my life...I am a single mom w/24 yr daughter....She caught me sleeping, and could not wake me up....She needs my life insurance money I thought, or SHE WILL never RECOVER FROM THIS EVER.......I felt like I was of no use to anyone ...

All I did was end up traumatizing, myself more, traumatized my daughter who now is in therapy worrying about me, who dosent deserve this worry at 24, because she is going through it too, and put allot of police and other medical people to work and was put in a psychiatric unit....which was so lonely...with strangers !

The other person that wrote, it was a permanent decision to a TEMPORARY situation is correct.......THINGS WILL RECOVER.....my family loves me even though I am a pain in the butt, and my daughter told me for Xmas, why wouldn't you want to be my mom, and see my grandkids one day ? I only get one mom........it hurt everybody and I am trying to deal with guilt.....working things out and fighting to live may be harder for me, but why should I punish everyone who loves me and hurt them for a long time ? Hang in there !

You sound like you have good support from a wife, who dosent leave you alone, when you need her.........she would rather have you I am sure.

Merry Xmas,

Hello :wave: I am sorry to hear that you are having trouble with these thoughts , I my self just came out of a bad bat with depresstion about 1 year ago I had thought of taking my life and believe I would have done it if it wasn't for the fact that I had my normal thought telling how wrong it was .
Please don't take the thoughts of taking your own life to lightly, go get help you my have a imblance as I did and now on medication I am doing wonderful and I have not had to many bad thoughts or depresstion since I've been on my meds. Many Blessing to you . If I can help out in any way , I am hear .

Hey Boiler 454, you are not alone. I need to learn to deal with those thoughts as well. I think it is healthy to talk about this in the proper manner, before it becomes a crisis. One of my brothers, a talented actor, tried to kill himself 3 months ago, and we will see him for the first time tomorrow. I'm here to tell you its been hell for our family. One would think that would drive suicide ideation out of my mind, but no, it doesn't. I've been on Prozac for over 4 weeks, with an increase from 10 to 20mg last week. I get scared when I read the potential side effects including increased risk of suicide. Let me be clear, I don't want to kill myself, but in the early morning hours I think that my partner would be better off if I were to die and she could get the life insurance money and pay off the house, and find someone successful. But I know thats ridiculous, would crush her and my family, and wouldn't do anyone any good. Then by the afternoon I calm down and in the evenings I actually feel relaxed. I just feel like I'm in a hopeless situation right now. I have no job, no real prospects at the moment, and we're really struggling financially. I've had one appointment with a therapist, and she said if I say I'm going to hurt myself she has to report it. I'm going to use the "permanent solution to a temporary situation quote" to help me get by. Good luck and keep on posting.