Hello all. I am in a state of serious depression here. I am 5'4" and 205-210lbs. I have alot of muscle so I don't have the same build as others the same weight. The thing is, I'm tired tired tired of going clothes shopping and getting all depressed that nothing cute fits on me. It's like the fashion companies think that fat people actually WANT to look like hot air ballons or circus tents or something. I am 24 and I want to look young and hip and I just can't because I am a size 18. I want to be sexy for my husband and wear cute nighties and such but I look ridiculous in stuff like that. Fishnet makes me look like a whale caught in a net! He thought it would be fun to take some nudie pics but when I looked at them I was disgusted with myself. I just don't know what to do. I have no energy, will-power, or drive. I hate excersize and love food. What do I do? I also suffer from bi-polar disorder and am currently in one of my worst funks. When I met my husband I was a hot little size 7-8 and I want to be that again. I just paid 30 dollars for an online diet site and I haven't used it once and it's been 2 weeks. Sorry I am ranting but what do I do? I need help?? :confused:

I just lost 40 pounds at Weight Watchers.. I feel great
Have you ever thought about a program like this?

Your post made me laugh...u have a great sense of humor..its always good when we can laugh at ourselves sometimes. :D
The only way is exercise. Even if you hate it, you just have to do it. Sometimes the best motivator is to be disgusted with yourself, that motivated me. Weight training and cardio. if its hard, start with long walks and light weights on the walks, like 3 lbs. Diets dont work in the long haul, though junk food is a no-no :nono: , once you start cutting it out, eventually you cant eat it. For me, I cut it out, now if I eat junk food, I get sick, cramps, diarreah (sorry for the graphics). It takes time, but you can get back to your former shape!
Good luck to you! :angel:

I have done Weight Watchers before and it worked...I lost 12 lbs. But right now I just don't have the finances for a program like that and I tried it at home but realized that I needed the support of the weekly meetings. I think weighing in in front of people is a big motivator for me. I feel like I have to prove something to others. But without the money I can't do it. So I'm on my own. I don't have any friends who are willing to do it with me. My mom keeps saying she's going to lose weight but then she backs out every time. I have to keep my sense of humor. Otherwise I'd go psycho. :) lol. My plan for now is to cut out fast food and only have 1 serving of soda once a week. Fast food is usually a daily thing for me. Sometimes even 2 meals a day. So I'm going to also eat only 5-6 small home-cooked meals a day. I know I will have to excersize :( . I'll try bike riding and see if I like that or maybe a nice walk 4-5 times a week with my hubby. What kind of health problems can come from being obese?

I hate the gym so I work out at home. Try some workout tapes like the Firm workout series, it shows how to use weights and shows modified moves for beginners. I even have some of Susan Powter's old workout tapes (remember her, "Stop the insanity").
Yes, fast food is a no-no. Can u switch to diet coke? I hated it and eventually switched over and now I love it!
Obesity has all kinds of medical problems, heart disease, diabetes, higher chance of stroke, etc. Not to mention no energy, feeling like u cant do what you once could, feeling older than u are...u are so young, you can definately take control of this.
But look on the bright side, you got a man who loves you. Thats not easy to find! :) Take care!

there is a store called 'Lane Bryant' which sells clothes only for overweight women. They sell undergarments and night clothes as well. They are highly fashionable and attractive in the latest styles. I'm not sure if they'd have a store in your town, I live in Los Angeles so they have a couple stores around town here. It is the perfect shop for overweight women. Maybe they are on the internet (I never checked but maybe)

I try to diet but don't always succeed, when my weight burgeons I have no choice but to shop there as Los Angeles, big city that it is, has very few stores for plus size women. There are a couple other plus size shops in Los Angeles but the clothing isn't designed to hide the bulges like Lane Bryant and still be in style :D

We do have a Lane Bryant here in Topeka. I love there clothes but don't buy them because I always tell myself "Don't buy clothes that fit or you'll never want to lose weight" Isn't that stupid. I am afraid of spending alot of money for clothes my size then losing weight and not being able to wear them. They do have great clothes though. Next time I really need a pair of jeans or a new winter sweater I'm going to go there. :)

We do have a Lane Bryant here in Topeka. I love there clothes but don't buy them because I always tell myself "Don't buy clothes that fit or you'll never want to lose weight" Isn't that stupid. I am afraid of spending alot of money for clothes my size then losing weight and not being able to wear them. They do have great clothes though. Next time I really need a pair of jeans or a new winter sweater I'm going to go there. :)


It's so difficult. You have to know yourself. As doctor Phil says, how is this working for you?

Maybe you should try something else for 6 months. Maybe if you went and bought yourself a couple of outfits that made you feel good about yourself and attractive, it would be easier to lose the weight.

Maybe not.

But if you've been in this mode of thought for a long time and not getting anywhere, maybe trying something different might be a good thing to do.

Good luck!

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Hey!, Okay first I think that since you have Bi polar that could lead to you excessive weight gain as I do believe it is a sort or depression. Maybe it causes you to eat more often than you need to and maybe when you do you eat the sweet, comforting foods because they comfort you. But arent the best choices for losing weight. My advice to you is to start out slow and work your way up. Anyone can lose weight but it takes a lot of willpower. Dont be discouraged if you dont lose weight right away. It takes time. I think you should go to a gym and do cardio, start out doing 30 minutes and gradually increase it to 40 minutes and then 60 minutes. Once you reach the full hour of cardio, intensify it. By that I mean, if your doing level 3, increase it to 6,8,10 etc ... Make sure you eat a lot of protein for energy. ex. meats, fish etc. Stay away from foods with a high fat content. Cardio will burn fat and make you lose weight and then do weights to firm and tone up but I wouldnt suggest this yet til you are at the weight you want to be at. And a healthy plan for you to eat would be this: *remember, dont deprive yourself*

Breakfast: Bowl of cereal (counting calories is dumb so have as much as you like in the bowl) but make sure its a healthy cereal like mini wheats, go lean, all bran or shredded wheats. with skim milk. Preferbly half a bowl of that.

Snack: any kind of fruit *banana's are high in sugar so only eat in moderation*

Lunch: Whole wheat bun with veggie burger, some lettuce, tomato, mustard and cucumber. And a glass of orange juice and a few whole wheat crackers.

Snack: Whole sweet pepper or some green leafy vegetable.

Dinner: 2 skinless, boneless chicken breast(do not fry) oil, grease, butter and all that crap just adds calories you dont need. Just put water in the frying pan and cook it in water. Add spices for flavour such as basil. And then with the 2 chicken breasts, have some broccoli and maybe make yourself a garden salad or a fruit salad.

Snack: Nuts(about a handful) only in moderation because although they are really high in nutrients, they are high in calories too. Planters mixed nuts with dried fruit is good. OR smart pop popcorn(light). Theres 170 calories per 8.5 cups and although I hate the number game, Theres very little calories in that. I usually eat the whole bag for a snack because it holds me over for longer.

Hope that helps ... =)

I guareentee a raw food diet mixed with Vegan/vegetarianism is where its at.

Hi Gidget: Isn't it hell. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever truly get to where I want to. My husband encourages me and I still have so far to go. I have three very sexy nightgowns from one of the top people in sexy wear that are not too far from fitting. I know how fat you look when you look at those nudie pictures. Have taken some outselves. But when you and I look into a mirror we see ourselves different. We do not see what everyone else sees. Only you and I know how people look at you when you walk into a room or sit down to eat at a nice eating place. It is real bad. Even sometimes little kids do not like you as much.

I am really doing good but it is such a constant struggle. I can not keep candy in the house for I will eat it. Will power is a word. Doing it is another story. I try and remember nothing tastes as good as being thin. I know this is true. For my husband I feel so much more sexual since I have lost weight and really for a woman this is the name of the game. It is such a struggle but you can do it as I can do it. There is no magic plan. The only magic in dieting is the struggle within yourself to lose weight. You have to really want it. If I can help in any way please reach out. Women helping women. I think that is what this is called. My heart bleds for you as I was there. I am getting out of it now but have lived in the hell where you are.

Do not ever give up.

Hello everyone. Thanks for the replies and the support. I am still working hard at it. Just getting focused and making the commitment. I joined Weight Watchers again. This time with both my mom and hubby so I now have to be accountable. The holidays sure are a killer though and It's waaayyy to cold to do the one physical activity I love and that's biking. So now I am going to start using fun workout videos and the treadmill that I have at my grandmas house. My new incentive is that I want to start TTC for my 1st baby and I know I want to start out with a healthy pregnancy. The only way to do that is to be at a healthy starting weight and eat well. We just had some professional family portraits done for the holidays and they were not bad although I never really noticed that I had lost my chin. haha

Wish me luck on this weight loss adventure and Merry Christmas to all!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck Gidget: You can do it. If I can do it you can. You definately have the right attitude and peer support. DO NOT EVER THINK YOU HAVE IT LICKED. That will be the biggest mistake. Live each day with I hope and pray I will stick with this. It is much easier than saying I WILL and failing. When you feel like you have let yourself down than the first thing you do is head for some great comfort food. It will not be easy but the first 10 pounds or even 5 pounds go to the store and pick up that amount of potatoes and walk around the store with them holding them for the half hour you are there. Before you leave take them back to the Product Department. When you walk away after putting them down you will then know what your body has been carrying. That is a good start.

Merry Christmas to you and yours. Many blessings.