Hi everyone; I could use a little help. I have a 3 year old little girl and she has been going through her terrible 2's since she was about a year. It has gotten worse in the past 3-4 months. She gets very angry and yells and screams at everything. She also throughs a fit(e.g. hitting things and closing her fist and yelling etc...) My husband and I are at our wits end and don't know what to do. Our son was never like this. Can you please give me some suggestions. Thanks. :confused:

Hi!

This sounds like my son when he was 3 (and 4 and 5...) I had trouble keeping him in daycare because he was SO stubborn and angry. He was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder, which is exactly as it sounds. It turns out that this applies to kids that have a very high IQ or sometimes kids w/ADHD. It took a lot of time and PATIENCE, but the key was to provide all kinds of challenges. He didn't want to color or sit at a table, he wanted to figure out how something worked or how long it would take to run around the yard. I also had to spend a lot of time just talking to him or reading or listening to what he wanted to tell me. There were several people (and doctors) that wanted to medicate him, but I absolutely refused. I knew that it would just take time and love - and nerves of steel! He's 13 and we still have some anger management issues, but now he has the tools to figure it out himself. And, he's really really smart. It makes me happy that others get to see the good side of him!

Courage, patience and love; and a firm hand with the boundaries! Good Luck

MOMMY2

HI i have a son that was that way i took him to a Child/Adolescent Psychiatrist,i found out that he was bipoler he was 3 at the time now he is 11 and he is doing great not the same kid as before, he use to go after his sister with a knife use to call everyone names would not listen to noone. in mean while if she dose this and threwing fits sit down put her in front of you on your legs take her arms cross them and hold her tight let her yell and cry but hold her tight in your arms keep telling her that you love her let her fight but don't let go she will soon calm down.one time he was fighting for about a hour but i kept him in the hold kept telling him that we all loved him.but really take her to a Psychiatrist.
CJ

Thanks for all the help i'll keep checking for more responces.

She'll grow out of it, but make sure you aren't making it too easy for her. If there is no consequence then she might feel like she can always get away with it.

If shes really bad, do not give her positive reinforcement. there has to be some motivation not to throw a fit, or at least some way that she will realize its not worth all the fuss when she isnt even going to get what she wants.

I dont think your 3 year old needs any help from doctors or psychiatrists at this point. My brother was like this for a while, but eventually just grew out of it. Shes too young to go get medication or something, I would definately not go to a psychiatrist unless you have a really serious situation (ie, chasing someone with a knife) good luck,

hoyt