I am 21 and have been married for 10 months now.

3 weeks ago I was in Boston visiting my family and two days after I had arrived I started to bleed, which was odd to me cause I had just got done with my period the week before. That night I woke up with the most painful cramps, which I never get cause I'm on the patch(Birthcontrol) and the next few days I bled really really heavy...

My gut feeling told me something else was going on and I should contact my doctor..she told me to go take a pregnancy test cause it was likely I was miscarrying....Went ,took it, came out positive..I was in shock!...I had a baby growing inside of me and I didn't even know it..How? 8 weeks!!!!!

I continued to bleed for 13 days...So many confusing feelings went through my mind.. What did I do wrong? How did we get pregnant? We did everything right. We wanted to wait to start our family, but now that I was....in a way teased....I want the real thing....I want a baby now...

Could there be a link with my miscarriage and Rittalin ..Did it kill the baby? Was it the Birthcontrol...only one percent get pregnant on it..I am that 1%?

I have all these questions that I want answered..but I probably will never know...I know when I do get pregnant again I won't take my ADD medicine..What went wrong..I just want some answers....

I am so sorry for your loss! My heart goes out to you.

Unfortunately, you'll never know exactly what caused the miscarriage. When you do decide to try to get pregnant, it would naturally be best to do so off of the ritalin and, of course, you'll be off of hormones.

Again, I'm sorry you had to go through this. God Bless!

Hi prada,
I am also so sorry to hear that. It's almost eerie how similar my experience was. I was also on the b.c. patch, but I took it off on the wrong week because I did not want to get my period while on my honeymoon in Hawaii. Anyway, against formidible odds I got pregnant, which my husband and I were surprised by, but happy. Near the end of my first trimester we discovered that the pregnancy was anembryonic, and I was given the choice to wait for a natural miscarriage or have a D&C done in the hospital. Long story short, but basically I got to do both. Not a fun experience, I know. Especially the emotional impact of it is very difficult.
Ritalin has not been proven safe to take during pregnancy, but the fact is, you were on the patch and should not have gotten pregnant at all, so this is not your fault. You could not have been very far along, changes are the fetus did not implant properly, or perhaps, like me, you had a growing fetal support system with no fetus. So please do not beat yourself up about this, it's hard enough as it is, I know. There are about a million ways for a miscarriage to happen. My doctor says when you look at all of the things that have to come together, it's a miracle anyone has babies at all.
The best thing is to be prepared to become pregnant, and you have plenty of time. I've worked out a system with my doctor and my husband, and I feel not as afraid and in control. You may have been part of that 1%, but remember that the accuracy rate is only for people who take it exactly as directed. That is easier with the patch, since you only have to change once a week, but if it fell off, or you changed it a day late, etc. that accuracy rate falls significantly.
Again, I'm sorry. I know it's hard, but perhaps it just was not meant to be this time.

Thank you both for responding with the sweet words of concern that you did.
Realistically, I know that no one can really give me the answers that I want....there are so many reasons as to why my miscarriage happened...I know that...
Maybe on some subconcious level I keep racking my brain because I want to know, to find out, that it was my fault...maybe it's a control thing...that if I knew what I did wrong, then maybe I could prevent it from happening again...But if it's out of my hands..which most likely it was....then I'm left wondering, continually brooding, feeling lost....

I am an analyzer...and tend to do so too much..

It just helps to write about it...even if there are no replys..

Sylvia, I am sorry for your similar loss...
Take care---Jess