gel2005
11-14-2005, 11:09 AM
Not sure if this is the right board. My husband and I recently had our first child. She is almost 9 months old. Ever since we first got married we always said that we wanted two kids close together like him and his brother or me and my brother are. We have disscused it alot and both really want another. However sometimes I wonder if I can handle it. My Husband is great and helps out alot. I had the baby blues really bad with my first. I am a stay at home mom and love the time I spend with her. My Aunt told me that I could have a risk of complcations if I get pregnant before my little one is two. My cousin told me I wouldn't be able to do it, because not many kids are as good as hers. i have family that lives close and would love to help, or be in the way. :) I just wanted to see what other people had to say about this.
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tina76
11-14-2005, 01:31 PM
One of my closest friends had two very close together. Their first son was only about 6 months old when she got pregnant again. They made it work. She too was a stay at home Mom. One thing that she did was to get a part time job in the evenings once her husband was home from work. Just to get herself out of the house.
gel2005
11-14-2005, 01:52 PM
Yeah, I get stressed sometimes with just one. It has gotten better now that i help out with the children's programme at our church. I get out of the house while my husband watches our girl. He is great. He tells me to go out if I want when he comes home. Even if it is to the grocery store by myself it helps. Over all I am happy I can be with her.
curiousforever
11-14-2005, 02:13 PM
health risks with having them close together? hmm. wish the doc would have warned me!
my 3 youngest. let's see. I had at one time an 8 yr old, a 2 1/2, a 13 mo old and a newborn. They are all boys. Now they are 14, 8, 6 1/2, and 5 1/2.
Yes, I was sleep deprived. No, I really don't remember much from that couple of years, Yes, it does get better, yes, it was hard, very hard at times, yes, if you don't write down stuff (cute stuff, naughty stuff) when it happens (and I didn't) then you won't remember who actually did it...
The 3 younger ones sometimes fight like cats and dogs at home. But when they are at school-they are best buds.
my 3 youngest. let's see. I had at one time an 8 yr old, a 2 1/2, a 13 mo old and a newborn. They are all boys. Now they are 14, 8, 6 1/2, and 5 1/2.
Yes, I was sleep deprived. No, I really don't remember much from that couple of years, Yes, it does get better, yes, it was hard, very hard at times, yes, if you don't write down stuff (cute stuff, naughty stuff) when it happens (and I didn't) then you won't remember who actually did it...
The 3 younger ones sometimes fight like cats and dogs at home. But when they are at school-they are best buds.
Ekris3
11-16-2005, 06:38 PM
I agree. I had 3 kids under age 3 for a few months. Was (and is) very hard but I'm glad we did it that way. Wasn't really planned so close but that's how it worked out. My kids are now 8, 9, and 10. Was really hard when they were little but alot of fun at the same time. Now it's hard when they are all involved in different activities but fun at the same time! My only regret is that we didn't go for the 4th! After those pregnancies and births so close together I didn't think I could do it again. But would have been nice to have an even number...somebody's always left out.
djl
11-16-2005, 07:09 PM
I had my 2 kids a year apart almost to the day !!!
Yes, it IS work, but I would do it like that agian if I could. It was just like having twins.
As for the possibilities of it causing problems with the pregnancy??? I dont know. I DID have problems with my 2nd pregnancy, but I also had problems with my 1st as well, . Also YEARS ago before TV the Radio and other things peoople could do, they were having kids left and right !! I guess sex was the only activity availabile then...LOL
Hey my Grandmother was a sibling of 8 brothers and sisters and my Great GReat Grandmother had 14 kids!!
Yes, it IS work, but I would do it like that agian if I could. It was just like having twins.
As for the possibilities of it causing problems with the pregnancy??? I dont know. I DID have problems with my 2nd pregnancy, but I also had problems with my 1st as well, . Also YEARS ago before TV the Radio and other things peoople could do, they were having kids left and right !! I guess sex was the only activity availabile then...LOL
Hey my Grandmother was a sibling of 8 brothers and sisters and my Great GReat Grandmother had 14 kids!!
gel2005
11-17-2005, 10:19 AM
Thanks for your imput guys. In my family my mom had 4 kids under the age of five. Now that we are all grown up we are really close and going through the same things. The last one of us is getting married. I think that we will try soon for our second and not pay attention to the negative people. I know it will be hard, but sound like it is worth it!
curiousforever
11-17-2005, 03:07 PM
Don't listen to other people. You and your husband do what you decide is right for you.
Period.
It's your family. Not theirs. As long as you can afford it and you are going to be the people taking care of the children...do what you want.
That really REALLY ticks me off when people butt into things they have no business. It *might* be just out of concern...and if it is, you could say, Thanks for you concern, and leave it at that. But if they are just asking a nosy question-(I got a ton of those with 3 boys and huge pregnant) and I'd snap back "why would you want to know?
Sorry. Getting off on a tangent about butter inners.
Period.
It's your family. Not theirs. As long as you can afford it and you are going to be the people taking care of the children...do what you want.
That really REALLY ticks me off when people butt into things they have no business. It *might* be just out of concern...and if it is, you could say, Thanks for you concern, and leave it at that. But if they are just asking a nosy question-(I got a ton of those with 3 boys and huge pregnant) and I'd snap back "why would you want to know?
Sorry. Getting off on a tangent about butter inners.
gel2005
11-17-2005, 04:01 PM
That is alright, I don't like them either. My husband and really want our kids close in age. I want two and well, he wants three or four, but we have both agreed that we will wait and see how we feel after the second. I love my daughter dearly and feel lucky that we can afford for me to be here with her. My husband and I are working on paying off bills, he works a side job from home so we can. I went off my BC the begining of the week on accident. I forgot to take it for 4 days and my period started. I was going to stop the end of this month anyway. THe side affects were getting to me. I already feel my mood getting better. Not as stressed. So that make me feel better all around.