When I was a young person I thought I would never lie about my age.
As time passed, when someone would think I was younger than I really was, I stopped correcting them by telling them my true age.
After some time I stopped posting my age and profile on my registrations on the internet. Now when I register for something on the internet, I deliberately lie about my age. When I'm asked my age by people out in public, I get embarassed and try not to answer. I realize now, as I'm old enough not to be mistaken for a younger person to start having trouble with lying about my age and getting away with it.
A couple weeks ago I was out in public and someone called me an old person and I heard them. They got embarassed because I gave them a pointed stare. It made me miserable all day. Afterall, how can I constructively sit around and lie about my age if everyone thinks I'm older than I really am :eek:

Reading your post I think I was there and still going through the turning old thing.
It is wonderful when your 50 ish and people think your 40 and you just puff up and say well no actually I am 51 almost proud of it. Then I think my 55th Birthday I saw aging on my face. Suddenly all the spots popped up from all the days loving the sun. Someone asked in a store if I had a Senior card and my daughter started laughing and I went to the car and cried.

My derm says time to look on the inside now for beauty, i cried again and laughed.
I started asking myself am I to old for shorts,to old for this makeup, ect. Is this outfit to young for my age? I see older women walking around looking like they want to be 35 again and I think Gee, I look better then some of them and I am 60 now. :eek:

I have finally accepted I am old, I have wrinkles I can't hide but I still have a nice body if I can hide the legs. I don't care about having a face lift and looking like some of these women do now who we see on TV and they are not who they used to be. Some look good but some are not and I have to say to myself, at least I had my day when I needed it.

My age is annoying to even say now but I say it and I write in on line. What's the difference at this point. They say your as good as you feel, well there are days I feel 35 and days I feel 85 and I hope for the better days.

I think we all have to go through our own thing and getting older and hearing it from someones remark just reinforces what I already know from my mirror. I think it's one of God's ways of hurting us gently when we don't want to open our eyes or tell the truth.

The climb is difficult but once you accept it, age is much easier to deal with as time goes on. But I definitley know how you feel and I wish you all the strength to roar "I am Woman, and I am only 60." :bouncing:

I used to worry about looking older than I am then, I thought about It. The best compliment you can get, when you are older is, "you look good for your age". What kind of compliment is that? Is It a compliment? I'd rather be called an old man.

Hi,

This thread couldn't have come at a better time. Next Friday I'll be 39, what I call a year from 40. I have always looked more youthful than I am, but that is starting to fade. I already have spots on my face from fun in the sun and wrinkles. I feel like any day now, my eyelids are going to cover my eyeballs and I won't be able to see.

Just yesterday I was helping my hubby out by the cars, and accidently caught a close up glimpse of my face in the side mirror of our huge pick up truck. I was horrified at what my face looks like. I've been staying up all night thinking what other people must think of me. People I haven't seen in a while, "wow, she sure has aged". I remember thinking that of my stepmother who I love to death, but I thought it. She's only 12 years older than me.

I am having a very hard time with this getting older thing. I know, everyone goes through it at one time or another.

Sunshine12, your lucky your spots didn't show up until your 50s, you must have wonderful skin. :)

Barkingshark, I don't see anything wrong with fibbing about your age. You would have to keep it realistic, but what's the harm? I talked to a college class the other day about my career and I felt like I was still a college student and how could they think I'm not. I thought I would just fit right in if I was a student, but that's just not the case. I joke that I can't belive people think I'm an adult, oopps, almost 40 is an adult.

I have such a wonderful life, amazing hubby who is 10 years older than me, and we look the same age. I should not have any worries or complaints, but I do. I was always "cute", and now I feel kind of ugly.

Thanks for letting me whine, now I just need some cheese!! :wave:

I have a friend who is 65 and she is from South Korea.
She has had 3 face lifts complete with eye and brow lifts in the past. She recently had her boob implants removed and replaced with body fat and a full tummy tuck and another face lift. She even had her nipples removed and new ones made from skin elsewhere from her body. She had a bout with breast cancer for a while and survived it so she said she did it to feel better. She told me she spent $100,000 on the complete overhaul and that she went to the most expensive doctor to get the best results. When I am next to her I feel like an old crone, although I am younger than her, because she is so young and firm and fresh looking :bouncing:

your korean friend sounds pretty heinous. i can't imagine why someone would willingly change their body that much. aging is just a natural thing, she shouldnt be so self concious.

yes, my korean friend is odd. Her husband is many years younger than her and she fixed herself to the point where he is the one who looks old :D
She looks about 30 years younger than her age because she has had many deep face peels on her face and neck and she keeps her figure trim and perfect. Next to her I look like a fat old slob :D

People in our generation (I'm 46) and those who come after us are lucky in that very slowly...but surely...the media is drifting away from the b.s. that only youth = beauty. We are seeing more and more gray-haired models in magazines and on tv commercials. We need to appreciate who we are...We have earned every little "age spot" and laugh line. I think these things show character. People in my family are younger looking that we really are, but one thing that has helped me is yoga practice and lots of other exercise. I and others notice that people who practice yoga tend to have a youthful glow about them, no matter what their age, weight, etc.
It isn't all about tight skin.

do I lie? well.... at 56 I say I am 50sh, and will be 50sh till 60 or as long as I can get away with it.

we all hate to age, but men "don't age" look at Sean Connery at 73!!!! grrrr!
not fair! :)

OH, men age, they just look better!! It's so not fair!! :)