hello,

i thought this forum was the most appropriate to post this into........

here it goes...

ok im 23 at the moment and i just feel so lost in life....i dont know what to do with myself or what i want, iv feelings that im not going to amount to anything but yet i so badly want to be successful in something...id have to start from scratch though and feel this would be hard at my age....
i feel so jealous of people who are successfull and are doing what they want to do in life and when i look back i see that i have had chances to make something of myself but i havent taken them which really upsets me.
i dont even have a bad life i have a nice family and a fiance who loves me....
but im not content , its not enough , i feel like i just "exist"
i have read about the quarter life crisis, i think im in it...

i dont even know what to ask you to reply too :confused:

but please reply x

Have you thought about volunteering? For example, every Thanksgiving, I give back to my community by feeding the homeless and hungry. I discover so much of myself when I do this. I donate money to the local food bank and pack food, I bring toys to the orphanages. I also visit the elderlies when I have some free time just to keep them company. Volunteering is such a rewarding deed.

You're probably wondering why I'm suggesting this, perhaps if you would just do it, you'll discover something about yourself you may not know. If not, you'd at least done a good deed.

What are you interested in? Are you interested in computers? Money? Fashion? Travel? Your whole life is ahead of you, don't waste it. Perhaps join the Peace Corp and travel to different countries while helping other people. Just some suggestions.

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Everyone feels like this some of the time ,though it seems to go on forever. Look for something that gets your interest and makes you feel good . like the other reply get your self envolved in something in life of your own choice. :wave:

I know how you feel. You don't just want to be Bob's finance, Martha's daughter or Tiffany's mom. You want to be all of those things and more. People tend to define you by what you do. You need a career.

You need to go back to college and pursue something. Become a nurse, a MRI technician, a cosmotologist, dental hygenist, graphic artist or something. You could look at what your community college offers in two year careers. Or you could pursue a four year one.

Twenty three is not old. There are plenty of people your age and way older who are taking day and night classes. They are just persistent and dedicated to achieve their goal. When you have a goal, you have a purpose.

When you achieve your degree, certificate or whatever, you will be "Jennifer" the radiolology tech who works at the Mayo Clinic.

Many women have gone to college in their forties, fifties and sixties, so don't think that at 23 you are going to stand out in the class.

Many community colleges are open for registration right now. You can even apply for admission on line. The classes are not as expensive as in the universities. Four classes end up costing about $300 in California. Anywhere else is probably a lot cheaper.

Take an evening class if you are working. Go for it, what do you have to lose?

Sounds to me like you're bored with your life. Twenty-three is awfully young to get married too.

As one of the above posters suggested, volunteering is a great way to get out of yourself and be thankful for what you have. It'll give you confidence too.

If I had a chance to be twenty-three again (I'm 56) I would have taken that job in Africa instead of being afraid to do something completely different than all of my friends were doing. If I were twenty-three again, I wouldn't tie myself down to one guy, I'd get myself a degree or some adventure travel and go to work on a cruise ship as the girl who sells the t-shirts.

If I were twenty-three, I would be so thrilled to have a million choices for what to do with my life that I would try at least half of them.

I say stay single until you are happy with yourself. You are so young and have your whole life ahead of you. Find out what it is that YOU want to do....and DO IT......all it takes is the desire..............and you can do anything your little heart desires..........

You sound depressed to me. You said you feel you have waisted your life, hun your life is just beginnig. Talk to your doctor, Gyno, anyone. You have the world by the tail at this age. You can do anything you want still. Exspecially if you have a loving family. Alot of people your age havent yet started college. Get up, get busy, live life. You have only just begun.

If you have a decent education, I would take advantage of it and get a job you're qualified for that really interests you. My mom had a bachelor's from a 4-year college, yet simply became a housewife, which caused numerous problems later on. Of course, the Indian culture was quite different a long time ago, but it's always best to have a continuosly excercising mind. Then maybe you won't feel so depressed, and reduce your risk of Alzheimer's in the old age.

Hey,
Don't worry I get this feeling from time to time myself. I'm 22 and lots of my friends are mid 20's. They are turning 25...They tell me it's normal to feel like life is crap once you turn 22,23 and 24....Once you hit 25 life starts to have reason again.

I know how you feel, its like you feel old and you wanna be successful and you should be getting somewhere now, but you stil feel like you're young and still not settled yet. I say enjoy being a "young 20's" person for now and then when you hit 25 you'll realise what you want from life....

Also, I don't wanna go back to being a teen, I liked being 20...it was a nice age!

Sounds like you're depressed...lots of good meds for that. Here is a very old saying but it's so true...Life is only what you make it. Some things are harder then others. Sit down and write down a list of things you are most interested in and things you are least interested in, then go over it, you may be surprised with what you come up with. Once you find out what it is you really want to do...go after it as if your life depended on it...another old saying...you can be anything you want, have anything you want, but only you can make it happen!

You have received a lot of good suggestions so I won't repeat with new words what you have already been told. I will just tell you that at no matter what age you are, you are going to see people out in the world everyday that are not happy or satisfied, yet they put on the happy face & talk happy. The world just perceives them as contented. Listen to the media regarding famous people, the messes they get themselves into while they are very successfull in many ways. The only thing you will wish for later in life is that you wish you would have done this or that.
Good luck for the future.

I was like that until I reached the age of 39, I am 67 now. I wasted all of those years trying to find my nitch in life. I never found my true place until I went to my knees as a troubled soul and recieved Jesus Christ as my Saviour. NOW I understand why I am living this life and it is so full now that words cannot really explain how I feel about my new relationship with God. It is simply AWSOME, to say the least.
Thanks for listening....... Randy

your whole life is ahead of you ..the other writers had some good suggestions for you .enjoy life live life ,travel sounds so exciting! i wish you the best of luck.