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i am very new at this so please forgive me if i ramble. to get to the point-i am in love with a vicodin/norco addict. I have tried to confide in friends for support but it just ended up in "just leave him". Something i can not do just yet. So I thought I would give this a try. I have never done one of these before so i'm kinda nervous. Here's my story: We have been dating for almost 3 yrs. I found out that he used in the middle of the relationship; which then it did not bug me much b/c he said he only took about 2-4 per day. Then he moved in with me and it seemed to get worse (go figure!!). The only reason i knew it got worse is b/c i handle his bank account, along w/ his responsibilities (ie. car note, insurance, etc.). Slowly but surely his money was depleting. And then he stopped helping me with the bills around the house. So basically I am the only one handling the responsibilities around the house; not to mention trying to raise a child. He finally confessed that he was taking about 15-20 norco a day. I was shocked. Then I blamed myself, thinking I might have caused this. I can tell when he is high because he is short tempered, inconsiderate, and down right hurtful w/ his words. This is not the man I fell in love with. He has made promises that he would try to cut down, but did not keep them. So after about a year of this, I told him I wanted to help him quit (since he wasn't to keen on meetings or rehab just yet). Now I take his checks and dispense his money to his responsibilities, he has to ask for money for the pills, I keep the pills and dispense them accordingly. So far this technique has not really helped-the reason being is he blackmails me to give him pills, we fight when I don't give him 2 instead of 3, and he says i always bust his b***s. The reason I do this is b/c i have seen him detox when he didn't have any and I can't stand it. It has almost gotten to the point where i want to kick him out, but then that means I have given up on him. And there are times when he has told me he would go crazy with out me. I guess you can say I'm hanging on to that. The thing that got me here, it the fact that after paying his bills this month, he hardly had any $$ left to buy me something for christmas. I am to my wits end and feel like there is no where to turn. I will lose either way. If there is any advice out there for me: maybe home detox-anything to save our relationship. I love him so much and want to help him. That's why I'm at a dead end.

I feel for you, thats alsmost my story to a T, except add the fact that I, too, am an addict. My husband and I take 10 a day each, thats 60 a dollars a day. When I was working it wasnt so bad but now that I stay at home with our son, we dont have "play money" as I call it. Or should I have said "Pill Money" Each month we too decide what bill we are going to allow to be late so that we have pill money, forget groceries and gas. My husband is short tempered on them, as to where I feel great and am in a good mood, its when Im coming off that I feel bad. I once dated a guy that said if I love him I would stop taking the pills, it had nothing to do with the love I had for him, I dont love myself enough to stop....obviously. I am showing early signs of Kidney failure, Im only 24. I have already been septic (in 2002) I am always justifying use, thats the addict in me. I just want to tell you that when you approach him, yelling and screaming doesnt work, we just shut those people out and pick out their flaws and throw them in their face, the ones that say that we dont love them if we have to take pills everyday to be around them....their right, you cant care about other people if you dont care about yourself, your body is your temple huh? I, and all the other addicts must have missed that chapter apparently. If you love him and want him to get better, approach him concerningly, be very open, you are dealing with an irrational drug addict ( I know I am one, have been for 9 years) If at first he yells and ignores you, try again, we'll cave in. Best of Luck

Check out suboxone,it will take away all your cravings and withdrawls and let you get your life back on track.........Dave

:wave: Hi Love,
I am a norco addict as well. I am on subutex which is just like suboxone except it does not have the nalaxone in it. Try suboxone.com to find a MD in your area that prescibes it. He does have to want to stop. This is drug has been nothing short of a miracle for me. It takes away all the nasty withdrawl symptoms. I understand you love him and want the best, and I admire you for sticking around. Let me know if I can help. LisaC2 :)

Bless your heart. If there's a child involved...I would act quickly. If he doesn't want to quit, there's nothing you can do. You can choose to live in, and your child will suffer...you can choose to leave or kick him out and you will suffer. So, really it's all up to him, because you lose either way. it's all about him, not you. He needs to make a choice. I say again, if he doesn't want to quit, you can't make him. And everything stays the same or gets worse. You need to make some decisions and see if he's willing to ride along with you. If not, you need to move on. For your child's sake....