hi i have attention deficit disorder...no im not another typical teen who "claims" they have it...or one whos stupid docotor has "diagnosed" them and they use it as an excuse now and are prescribed riddlin and it doesnt have the oposite effect on them it does act like a speed and they still believe they have add...(sorry i rambled i get upset about that) no im not one of them...i was tested prolly like 7 times...to be sure i had it...by all different types of people...so basically its proven fact...i have attention deficit disorder...well before my parents split my dad didnt care wut we did about it...so my mom tried lots of stuff (along with one of my sisters who was also diagnosed with it) she didnt want to go directly on medication with me...so we tried various other things...but eventualy mediction became the best next option...so i started on one...didnt feel well on it...started on another didnt sleep well on it....started on aderall...lost too much weight on it...tried riddlin and the time released version (concerta) and still lost too much weight...well its been a fw years..and i went unmedicated...it was terrible i couldnt finish anything around the house...alway forget stuff my mother asked me to do...and never could focus a home or in class on anything it was severly effecting my grades...but i wanted to control it myself..then i finally gave in shortly after my parents split last year...i decided that i needed to do somehting about it...so i asked my mom to let me be retested...(its been a few years so...) she agreed...and i wanted to go on medication again...well for the past (god only knows how long) we cant get my dad to allow me to take medication...he never cared befor ebut now that he has sign and giv ehis permission..he has control...and now im suffering...just waiting for him...because all he wants to do is try all the alternatives...that i have already tried...when he didnt pay any attention (before my parents spilt) so why should i suffer any longer retrying all these things i already know did not work for me....why do i have to wait???.....someitmes its like i wish i was normal...just a normal person who could get good grades and focus on there work...who could rmemeber to take care of things..to complete chores and stuff at home...i wish it would go away...am i the only one out there who wishes it would dissapear from the face of the earth?

i no this is long im sory..but its been a great comfort writing it...
ur opinions are welcome
if ur one of "those teens" the ones who dont really have it dont reply....i apologize if that is rude ...but you dont have clue what people who really do have it go through

thanks again :D

wow you have a lot of anger inside you. ...coming off a little harsh there. I hope you get help.-Charly

no not really just upset with people pretending to have add...and i was lookin for advice and to se if anyone else has experienced difficulty trying to persuade a parent for medication

You don't sound harsh, you sound frustrated.

Have you sat down with your dad and told him how it makes you feel and how hard you are struggling right now?

You sound like your really reaching out, well I can only tell you what I have been through. I went through exactly what your going through bouncing from one med to another, and to another. Well if you can get your Doctor to prescribe you Strattera, it is like the wonder drug, and I have tried them all. I can finish things around the house, and I dont get frusterated anymore, and I love it, it does not have all the side effects like the others do. you don't lose weight, you don't have a speedy feeling, you just can finish things, it is great. Oh by the way I am in my mid 30's and have adult ADD, and I have live a very simialar life. Just thought I would let you know. Let me know how you do. :wave:

thank you very much...im glad some one other than people who claim i have "anger issues" responded...my therepist and i are trying still to win my father over...i have tryed most medication..sadly including straterra..it didnt have an effect on me...thank you oh so much for responding...its very fustrating having to deal with this..thnak you again! :)

Hey :wave:

My husband at age 7 had a sledding accident, and before that he was a A+ student, and after that he went through the business of "Gee your lazy", Gee your just not applying yourself, "Gee your never going to be anything" Gee......SHUTUP" I am sure he wanted to scream that at his parents. I am sorry to hear that Strattera did not help, how high did they take you? it sounds like you have tried just about everything and it just isn't working. Are you being told you have anger issues? How old are you? I really feel bad, that you have this disease and it sounds like your dad is just disconnected from the family, and doesn't want you on any meds. He needs to read about ADD, and familarize himself with what can happen if ADD is left untreated. :dizzy: :dizzy:It is so unfair to you, to not have the medication that you need, as you can't be comfortable in your skin, at all. Anything I can do for you, please let me know. I am a mother, and I know what your going through as I have it as well. Keep in touch, and I am very proud of you for being so strong. Let me know how your doing,

Sal :wave:

Hey, :wave:

Maybe no one has ever told you this, but you are normal, you have a disease, and it is NOT your fault, and don't ever think that it is. It sounds like I said in my note I just sent you, that your Dad has disconnected himself, as he doesn't want a son on Ritalin or any of "those" kind of drugs. We he needs to realize what can happen if your continued treatment is going to be without drugs. He should be proud that he has a son period, your a blessing, and he needs to be grateful for that as not everybody can have children, and he needs to educate himself, and be there for you. Your a very smart person, and you know how you feel, and you need to tell your therapist to interveen if neccessary. I hope this advice is helpful, and I am not confusing you. Keep in touch.

Sal :wave:

thank you you are sucha great comfort...my name is lauren...im 15 and freshmen in highschool...my father is very disconected from the family but because of his own selfishness (thats a whoooole nother story)...i thank you so much...would you mind if i copied and printed one of your notes..and showed it to him..so he can see...that there are others out there who understand? i bleive he need to learn to think more laterally...and showing him may help...im his last daughter out of three and my other sister has add as well but she is of age and is on medication as well...and he knows it helps her greatly...thank you oh so much...you have no idea how much you have comforted me...anytime im fustrated i believe i shall be rereading all your notes...thank you!

Hey Lauren :wave:

My name is Sally, and I am glad you felt some comfort by my notes. I know exactly how you feel as I have ADD. I have told you my story, and I know how uncomfortable ADD can make you feel. You just don't feel comfortable in your skin, you don't feel normal, you feel like your different. At 15 you have so many other things going on in your life just being a teenager, that this disease is not something you need to deal with, and frankly it is not fair to you, to do so. Who is the parent here? Your young and should be able to depend on your parents for anything, remember unconditional love. This is no different, and I am now a parent, and I am much much older than you, as I am 46, and you really need your medicine. I know your father will probably tell you that I need to butt out, and your not her daughter, the bottom line Lauren is I am not trying to be your parent, I am just telling you what you already know about ADD. Your father like alot of parents think that all ADD medicine is like giving there child speed. and that is the farthest thing from the truth. Only you know how bad you feel, and you must have a tremdeous time in school with ADD, as it is so hard to focus, and with all the other BS in highschool this just isn't what you need. Somebody needs to advocate for you if your father is dead set against. Have you tried to sit him down and tell him how uncomfortable you are, and that you really need to find a medicine that works.

He probably isn't going to like it one bit if you show him anything to do with me saying he is disconnected from the family, as that is hitting him right where it hurts. but darn it someone needs to step in and say something, as this problem really isn't getting managed right. Can you talk to your family doctor ........ alone? or does he come in with you. If you could get to someone that would actually listen to you, maybe your therapist needs to be alittle more forward with your dad. I am sure your father is a wonderful dad, and loves you to death, no one is saying anything bad about him, it is just like most parents today, they are not informed of what these medicines actually do, and they just take what they hear on TV and "MY child isn't going on speed attitude" its not speed. Now ritialan yes, but these new meds arn't and with alittle investigation, he may be surprised at what he finds out. So one needs to step up to the plate here. I feel like your just being told, no and that's that. That sucks! It isn't right, and I feel helpless for you. but keep me posted, and if you want to show him anything go right ahead, but don't be surprised if he doesn't like it one bit. No parent likes to be told by another parent that they arn't doing something right. This isn't a right and wrong issue, and this isn't about him, it is about you,,,,,,, his daughter,,,,,,,needing medicine so she can go on an pursue her dreams. By the way what are they,, do you have any dreams of the future, do you want to share them. I would love to hear them. Keep me posted Lauren as I do care, and anything at all I can do for you please let me know.

Take care
Sally :wave:

thank you again!!! luckly for me at one point i got on concerta without his knowing thanks to me living with my mother majority of the time...the doctor agrees its a great idea but then i had an axiety attack and concerta is know to heighten axiety and stuff so we had to come off of it so he would not find out...but i thank you oh so much for keeping intouch with me. and as for dreams and plans for the future..well...as of now im a reserve world champion morgan horse rider..its my passion ive been riding since i was 8 and showing only 3 years and went to world championships twice..this past season i won reserve world champion out of 21 qualified riders (reserve being second it was just as good as first there) (im not meaning to brag just clarifying the picture of my deep love and passion for the sport) so i believe in the future i want to train as my trainer does...apprentice with him or something...but if it is not meant to be i know i will always have morgan horses in my life but i believe i may want to become a public school teacher...i know thats crazy being such a poor student and hating school with every bone in my body..but that just makes me want to teach more...ive been told many a time im mentally as mature and deep as an adult but i bleive its all BS i always feel stupid in school not to mention public schools are in need of quality teachers...i believe what better path to take??? than to correct the mistakes of my past educators..and haivng add may help me be able to help and connect with students with other obstacles in their way...but thats all in the future...im only a freshmen i try to live in the present as to not get any more depressive over my grades and how ill be lucky to graduate..but again a whoooole nother story...but im am ever so glad you understand and are giving me advice...and i am tkaing it all to heart...i am going to give another attmept at sitting down with my dad...probably in therepy again about medication...i thank you from the bottom of my heart...you are a tremendous help! thank you!!! :) you truly are a guenuinely kind and caring person from what i can :rolleyes: only put together in my mind i thank you endlessly!!

Hey, never stop dreaming, and your absolutly right about being a teacher, When I was in college I really hated english, so I knew I had to worked twice as hard at it, and I graduated Valedictorian, so I am alot like you. I am pleased to hear you have a wonderful hobbie, and your very smart to focus on that as well, What a wonderful field to get into. I love horses as well, My friend well actually he is my husbands friend and he has 3 horses, 1 blue eyed palamino, 1 paint, and 1 foal, he was just born off the palamino. He is an alcoholic and real irresponsible, and I really feel for his animals as he just doesn't care about himself, let alone his animals. You have a real love for the field, and you just keep focusing on the good, and don't worry about the bad, and try not to dwell on school, as hopefully with new med's that will all change. I really do wish you the best, and please don't be a stranger, as I would love to hear how your doing.

Take care honey,

Sal :bouncing:

Hi,

My heart goes out to you! I would really sit down and speak with your father, if that doesn't work, is there a guidance councelor in school that you can speak with that could speak with your father. Medication (ADDERALL) has made all the difference in my son's life, but for some people there are behavioral excercises that work along with speaking to a good councelor. I hope everything works out for you, I can sense and understand your frustration and anger.

Ellkap

i go ot a therepist already and with him sometimes...were still working on it..im hopin gill get on it soon....finals are comming up this week..everyones studying...but w/e i dont care much anymore...i had a long week...i couldnt focus at all...i started gettin all dperessive just the thot of everyone passin and me failin just sucks...i havent been able to ride in a while thats not helping..not 2 mention other stresses going down in my life...focusin seemed even harder...im not surprised im depresive agian lol it comes with add sumtimes i hear...but why should we have to suffer...just sucks i guess...but kinda made sum dumb mistakes this week...w/e i need to stop complaining...btw that sux for that guys horses i hope there all right...i own a morgan bay no markings...hes an english huntseat horse and im lookin into buyin a saddle seat horse so who knows....thanks again!!!

Think positive, I know how hard it is to focus, and get through school, as when I did it, there was no medicine, the teahers just thought I was lazy, and did not apply myself, I don't know how many psych. people I talk to. Talk about a stressful situation, as the other kids new I was talking to the "crazy doctor". But honey, try and relax, take a long bubble bath, and put on some music, that is soothing, and light some candles and just let it go, I know this probably won't help that much, but it will help you feel better about yourself, so hopefully some thing will give here pretty soon. Is there a med you have not been on? What are they going to try you on next?

Good Luck and try and relax, and you are worth it, and don't ever think that your not. No matter how much it takes your worth it, so don't ever think that because of me, or I wish this or that, we all wish, but wish big, dream and dream alot, but dream big. Because your worth it. Keep me posted please, and let me know how your doing in school. I see someone recommended on here that maybe you talk to your guidance consulor, that's is pretty good advice. Were is your mom, I never here you speak of her?

You know I am here if you need me, so please don't be a stranger.

Take Care

sal :wave: :wave:

Lauren, Have you tried writing a letter to your dad asking him to sign the permission form, telling him your reasons for wanting to try the medication again? If you do write such a letter, try to make him understand that it's what you want, and I would suggest not mentioning your mom in the letter...or he might get distracted ;) from the point of the letter.

The grades you get your sophomore and junior years are the first ones colleges seriously look at when you apply. But if you try the medication, and if it works for you, you still have the opportunity to show tremendous improvement.

I've tried nearly every medication out there, and they have all been either ineffective or have given me reactions. Now I take Adderall and Ritalin in small doses with other pills to counter-act the side effects. But I'm an over-the-hill adult. I can see why your dad might be concerned about you trying medication again. For people like you and like me, it's not so simple as taking one medication.

If/when you write or talk to your dad, tell him you love him. I say this speaking as a divorced mom with 3 grown daughters. Like my wonderful father is fond of saying, "You get more flies with honey than vinegar." I'm not sure why anyone would want flies, but the idea is that you are more likely to win your father over to your way of seeing things if you are nice to him.

By the way, I didn't notice any anger issues in your posts. But then I don't always notice that. ;)