Hi folks,
When in your opinion does the point come that you should have plastic surgery.. I am very unhappy with the way I look (facial wise) and have been thinking about it for a while, wondering how I can finally come to a decision.

Well I don't know if any surgery is available, you see as I say im unhappy with the way I look (society is too) but I can't quite put my finger on it, I know I look very drab and dull and have a very strange profile view but I don't actually know what it is that brings it down, therefore I don't know what it is that could 'fix' me.

Is there a way forward on this or do I have to know specifically what procedure I want when I go in for a consultation or will the consultants advise, basically I would want some professional constructive critisim and then be told what there is to help/remedy strange features. Please share your thoughts on this with me.

Thanks

Dont do anything because "society" compels you. The people you contact out there on a daily basis aren't worth that kind of effort. But if your doing it for yourself you certainly can go see a PS and ask what can be done to improve your appearance.

Dont do anything because "society" compels you. The people you contact out there on a daily basis aren't worth that kind of effort. But if your doing it for yourself you certainly can go see a PS and ask what can be done to improve your appearance.

Thanks for the reply angela, well it is society that has me with no confidence and esteem but I would not be getting PS to please them but more so to restore that lost confidence and esteem. Is this more the right line of thinking.

I didn't think plastic surgeon like to hear the 'what's wrong with me' question when someone wants to know how to improve their appearance.
Thanks again - any more views on this, more than welcome.

I understand completely where your at. My looks are less then avg, to some I'm downright ugly .There were times when I got really down on myself because of the way others felt about my appearence. But then I came to realize that if those same people were loaded on a jumbo jet that crashed into the amazon forest it would have zero effect on my life.I know that sounds a little bent but it's the truth.

Thanks for your feedback angela, its much appreciated. I know what your getting at with the jumbo jet angle, that those people don't matter, but this is more so for myself than other people. I'm pretty certain I'm now going to at least go in for a consultation or two.

If you are considering PS for yourself than by all means go into your consult and explain to the Dr. what you like or don't like about your face... If you have no clue than maybe bring a couple of pictures of faces you do like so the Dr. can get a better idea of the facial features you desire. Please know though that the Dr. can only do so much (ex. I don't think a PS can change the shape of your skull - someone please tell me if I'm wrong)...

You need to be happy with yourself and know that you are going to age and change...and eventually die and that life is short... Let me also ask you this... Do you really find people ugly? I honestly don't. I just look at people and interact and move on. Big noses, small noses, bad skin, small breasts, and on and on really have no bearing in how I treat people because it doesn't matter.I am not good looking myself... but all that really means is that people don't ask me out on dates out of the blue... but once they see that i have confidence REGARDLESS of how I look compared to society's standards then LOOKS are thrown out the window! Get control of yourself! Go outside! Play in the snow! Be happy that you are alive! It can always be worse!

But if you think PS will help you feel more comfortable in your own skin than do it! I wish the best for you!

Ooh how light and gay that view of life but does not take into account the abhorrent nature of mankind.

Thanks a12 for your views, they are appreciated, however I have to totally agree with angela on this one, your view is light and gay and not really in touch with reality, it's like something Jerry Maguire would say about life....

You did make a good point about pictures though, I would really love to look like my other two brothers, (one older one younger), everyone is always saying how alike they are/were (when at a certain age) and there is at least some similiarities between myself and my older brother. So I guess I could bring in pictures of him,

But I wonder if it's more realisitc for me to just ask for an different look (as in improvments as opposed to asking to look more like someone else.

Do you have any close friends whose opinion you trust? I know that I could ask my girlfriend what could be improved on my face and she would tell me without fearing that I'd be mad at her.

Another friend of mine was considering a full face lift and asked me honestly if I thought she needed one. I told her that she really only needed improvement around the eyes. She ended up having her upper lids done and it's made a tremendous improvement in how she looks and how she feels about herself. And she's happy she didn't spend the big bucks to do the entire face.

If you ask a PS how he/she could make you look prettier I feel certain they could tell you. But there are certain (few) facial features that No One can fix. They don't mention that on those tv shows:
one is being wall-eyed. If your eyes are way too far apart they can't fix it.
If one eye is way higher than the other they can't fix that.
if your eyes are too close together you're stuck with them.
I've also never seen anyone with a Huge nose having it changed to tiny. They can make it smaller, though.
PS is slowly giving way to skin care and procedures done in an office. Non-invasive ones. What scares me is when I see wealthy and famous people who look older and even weird like Wayne Newton. No matter how many facelifts he gets he still looks old to me. Very stretched and odd. Elvis' wife Priscilla has eyes that look great; but her mouth? Its stretched to the hilt.
People think that if they spend enough money they can look 25 when they're 75 but they're wrong. I even saw a PS on tv who admitted he had a facelift. Looked like someone was pulling his skin away from his nose. Flattened.
I met a lady in her late fifties; I could tell she had had a facelift. She had absolutely NO double chin at all. I mean, underneath her chin it was straight as a board!! Then her chin was pointy and jutted outward. So it produced a slight "witch" look. But her eyes looked great. She had real thin lips and was wearing red lipstick. I assume she didn't know about lip collagen.

Thanks for your replies everyone, I plan on telling all my friends after an initial consulation what I'm getting done, but I don't think I would actively seek out suggestions from them, I know most of the answers would be 'oh don't be silly your grand' and things like that, which at the time will not be helpful. As I would have made up my mind to get some work done at least.

I think I will just ask the surgeon what can make me better looking, don't think i will be using the word prettier (as am male) :-).

I'm most likely be getting facial liposuction, eyelid surgery and small bit of nose refineminet (nothing major). I wonder though would things particualrly my nose, appear natural.