ElliB
01-11-2006, 01:28 PM
Hello everyone: :wave:
My husband and I have been married for over four years now and I've never been on BC and I've never gotten pregnant. I've always wanted to be but it's just never happened :confused: . This last year has been especially hard because everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant and they didn't even want to. (I'm sure some of you can relate.) My best friend has had 3 abortions and just got pregnant again!! (she's going to keep it) And his 21 year old sister has had 3. Two she gave up for adoption. Without my faith all of this would be so much harder. :angel:
Anyways, lately I've been really trying but sometimes I "forget" that you have to have sex in order to get pregnant. Well I don't know about you guys but I really don't feel like having sex when all I can think about is having a baby. (Does that make sense?) I was just wondering if any of you feel or have felt the same before?
Thanks and Baby dust to us all!
Elliana
My husband and I have been married for over four years now and I've never been on BC and I've never gotten pregnant. I've always wanted to be but it's just never happened :confused: . This last year has been especially hard because everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant and they didn't even want to. (I'm sure some of you can relate.) My best friend has had 3 abortions and just got pregnant again!! (she's going to keep it) And his 21 year old sister has had 3. Two she gave up for adoption. Without my faith all of this would be so much harder. :angel:
Anyways, lately I've been really trying but sometimes I "forget" that you have to have sex in order to get pregnant. Well I don't know about you guys but I really don't feel like having sex when all I can think about is having a baby. (Does that make sense?) I was just wondering if any of you feel or have felt the same before?
Thanks and Baby dust to us all!
Elliana
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nancy30
01-11-2006, 03:25 PM
I feel the same way. I actually dread having to have sex and am so relieved when ovulation time is over so that I don't have to go again for another month. :( When we have sex, it reminds me of all the infertility stuff.
sammieP
01-11-2006, 05:07 PM
Oh i can relate to that, i find the more we try the more im not in the mood but try to make the effort.
Dh says its unromantic to do in on demand, i find im uop for it after af and before o but not after, the drive seems to go down.
Keep on trying though.
One other thing - if its been 4years have you thought of going to the doctor for further advise? Mine were great when we explained the situation.
Good luck ;)
Dh says its unromantic to do in on demand, i find im uop for it after af and before o but not after, the drive seems to go down.
Keep on trying though.
One other thing - if its been 4years have you thought of going to the doctor for further advise? Mine were great when we explained the situation.
Good luck ;)
chysmom
01-11-2006, 07:05 PM
I can relate since we have started to BD every other day its like sex ugh. But dh and I try different things, like spiceing it up or having more fun with it. We take a bath together or take a shower. Just do little things where neither of us think of why we are having sex.
Hellokitty1973
01-11-2006, 08:53 PM
I can totally relate.. and moreover, I don't want DH to have the impression that the only time I am "interested" is when I am O'ing! It seems to be the common feeling with me the past 2 months.. but I guess he'll take it where he can get it ;)
Good luck with everything and try (and i know it's hard) to not think of it so much when it's time for BD.
Sprinklings of baby dust to everyone :::::::
Good luck with everything and try (and i know it's hard) to not think of it so much when it's time for BD.
Sprinklings of baby dust to everyone :::::::
WhyIsThisMyLife
01-12-2006, 01:09 PM
Have you been to a doctor to see if everything is ok? Four years is a long time and if you are under 35 and have not conceived within a year there could be something going on which is preventing pregnancy.
ElliB
01-13-2006, 04:40 PM
Hello ladies, :wave:
Thank you all for responding. I have been to the doctor and had a HSG done a couple years ago and they said I had a small leak in my right fallopian tube, but for the most part it was normal. The problem was when I started to pursue the fertility issue back then, I had to be hospitalized because of my Epilepsy so I guess I just stopped "trying". I just don't want to hear that something is wrong but i know I have face the facts and just deal with it right? I have an appt at the end of this month so wish me luck! :)
Elliana
Thank you all for responding. I have been to the doctor and had a HSG done a couple years ago and they said I had a small leak in my right fallopian tube, but for the most part it was normal. The problem was when I started to pursue the fertility issue back then, I had to be hospitalized because of my Epilepsy so I guess I just stopped "trying". I just don't want to hear that something is wrong but i know I have face the facts and just deal with it right? I have an appt at the end of this month so wish me luck! :)
Elliana
JustDance
01-16-2006, 04:45 PM
In response to chysmom:
"I can relate since we have started to BD every other day its like sex ugh. But dh and I try different things, like spiceing it up or having more fun with it. We take a bath together or take a shower. Just do little things where neither of us think of why we are having sex."
A great idea, however its difficult, because they say missionary is the best for ttc, and you should lay with your hips elevated for 20 min, after bd, and lubricants create hostile environments for sperm. Sooo, baths & other stuff can be fun, but I don't feel like I'm really doing my best efforts ttc unless it becomes very obvious that that's what we're doing. I think it can be a challenge to keep the romance of it while ttc. New music, candles & scents are good options too. Something different - if you usually hear soft, romance go for something more edgy, or rock or disco or 80's love tunes and cheese it up for fun. :)
"I can relate since we have started to BD every other day its like sex ugh. But dh and I try different things, like spiceing it up or having more fun with it. We take a bath together or take a shower. Just do little things where neither of us think of why we are having sex."
A great idea, however its difficult, because they say missionary is the best for ttc, and you should lay with your hips elevated for 20 min, after bd, and lubricants create hostile environments for sperm. Sooo, baths & other stuff can be fun, but I don't feel like I'm really doing my best efforts ttc unless it becomes very obvious that that's what we're doing. I think it can be a challenge to keep the romance of it while ttc. New music, candles & scents are good options too. Something different - if you usually hear soft, romance go for something more edgy, or rock or disco or 80's love tunes and cheese it up for fun. :)