Hi there,

I've been with the same woman for almost 8 years, and were were virgins when we met. About 2.5 years ago (in October in 2003), I messed up and received unprotected oral from a friend. Here's what happened since:

November 2003: - about 2 weeks after the encounter I experience intense pain in the testes - foolishly continue to have unprotected sex (other than birth control) with my girfriend

January of 2004 -my girlfrend starts to get monthly yeast infections. She has a history of getting them maybe once every 6 months or so, just not this frequently, or as bad (her thighs had severe rash on them, and it burnt when she urinated, although she also has a brief history of urinary tract infections).

June 2004 (7 months after the oral from the friend) - yeast infections continue, and I confess. We get tested for STD's (chlamydia, gonerrha, syphilis,etc... all except herpes. The girl I got the oral from said she doesn't have it and I believe her, even though she does has a "past"). Everything came back negative. - I'm finally diagnosed with a bacterial infection/prostatitis through an ultrasound. I'm put on doxycycline on and off for about 3-4 months.

July 2004-December 2004 - eventually, my gf is diganosed with a bacterial infection too, and she is given meds which clear it up. Yeast infections cease (finally). In addition to the yeast infections, my girlfriend also complains of being "irritated". Her vaginal area is really red.

January-August 2005 - girlfriend goes from doctor to doctor to find out what is causing her irritation, but to no avail. It eventually subsides on its own for awhile.

October 2005 - irritation returns. She is finally given amitriptyline and it works, as her doctor says that all the different meds she was on in an attempt to cure her yeast infections messed her up and made the nerve endings of her vagina really sensitve.

Januray 2006 - now that the amitriptyline is done, the irritation is back (just not as bad as before). My testes pain (which is more of an "ache" now) has never really gone away either, and it's been 2.5 years. My gf also misses her period. Home pregnancy test is negative.

My questions:

1) from all the doctors I saw (family, STD clinic and urologist) "NGU" never once came up. Would the STD tests have detected NGU (especially the chlamydia and gonerrha tests), even if the doctors didn't think to specifically look for it? Eveything was done through urine samples for me, and by swabs/urine for my gf. It never burned when I urinated, nor did I ever have any discharge. I do find discomfort when I drink caffine, however.

2) we weren't tested for STD's until 7 months after the exposure. Could that have made a difference in anything?

3) If it is NGU - could that be the culprit for the yeast and bacterial infections, and her recently missed period 2.5 years later? What about her redness? Any fear of infertility for either of us?

4) The oral 2.5 years ago is always in the back of our minds. Does it have ANYTHING to do with what she's going through?

Hello,

I am not a doctor and sadly, that is who should be providing these answers for you. Stress is a big factor in women missing periods. So is rapid weight loss, eating and exercise changes...or a change in birth control methods. Take another pregnancy test or two to make sure, they can sometimes be wrong.

Secondly, your obsession with the cheating could be another stress factor that is making your symptoms worse... it is true that the mind controls the body and many symptoms can be invented by the mind through obsession and stress over a particular situation. Same for everyone.

Thirdly, it is extremely rare (despite what most doctors will tell you) to get an STD through oral sex. If she had an oral herpe she could have passed it on to you. You should definitely be tested for that, though, I am sure by now you would have had an outbreak but, not all people that have the virus get lesions so...you shoud get tested any how. If she had a yeast infection in her mouth then she could have passed it on to you.

Ok and lastly, and I am not accusing you of anything. This board is confidential. Did you really, only receive oral sex? Or did you have sex with this girl. This could help you get a lot more answers. It is almost impossible to get a bacterial infection from the mouth... ok, just thought I would throw that out. I don't care either way but, it is important for your doctor to know the truth.

Having a bacterial infection had nothing to do with STD's, it is just something that happens with the different changes that the vagina goes through, and different cultures that are in the enviornment. The vagina is the perfect environment for this to grow and it is very finnicky about changes like, tampons, vitamins, condoms, birth control... so many things could have caused it... Your girls sensitivity to the meds is another thing that worries me... if these were side effects, why was she not warned about them and offered an alternative? Above all, take care of yourself and your immune system.. exercise, eat right and do not partake of drugs and alcohol on a massive scale. All of these things will help your situation. I hope this helps you. Good Luck!

CBU