Hi, I hope someone can help me!

I *think* i may have herpes but at the time of the first outbreak I was actually recovering from glandular fever and a viral infection in my throat so wasn't having intercourse. I was wondering if its possible I have passed something from my saliva to my genitals? The sores seem to be the same as those described by herpes sufferers, I don't get many, usually 3 with one more dominant than the rest - it is always in the exact same place?

I was/still am in a relationship and am worried my partner will think I'm cheating on him if this turns out to be herpes, because I have never slept with anyone else in my time seeing him? Or is it possible I have got it from him... can you be a silent carrier and not know, how long can it lie dormant in the body?

If anyone can shed some light I'd be most appreciative :)

herpes can break out when you first get it, or any time after, it does not nessasarilly set in right away and many times it wont. being sick, or doing anything else that weakens your immune system, can bring up an outbreak even if youve had it for years, so you could have either gotten it from him recently, or have had it for a long time without showing any symptoms, he shouldnt think you were cheating just from an outbreak, that would just be silly

i hope that helps, good luck~

The only way to know anything for sure is if you and your boyfriend get tested using the IgG type specific HerpeSelect blood test. How long have you been dating and intimate? If it hasn't been long, like a month, your test result may still be negative. If that is the case, then you may still have it, but it hasn't been long enough for your body to produce antibodies and thus show up on a blood test. If that is the case, then your bf may have passed it on to you if his test comes back positive. To know for sure you have it or not you must wait 3 months post exposure to have that same blood test I mentioned above. However, I waited 5 months and still my blood tests are negative. I'm getting tested again soon, at 6 months plus time. About 5% of people take 6 months for antibodies to develop, so I was told by someone else on this site.

Thanks for the replies, and sorry for the delay in my response. I don't have my own computer.

I've been seeing my boyfriend for over a year and I know hes been faithful. I also know he hasn't experienced any of the symptoms etc Could he have it and pass it on without knowing? I thought it was only infectious when the outbreak was active?

Or could I have got it from my last partner? I've only ever had the two. And we were together 3 years.

Thanks!

He most certainly could have it and be what is termed as an Asymptomatic Shedder or a Viral Shedder. I got it from my ex and he had no visible signs at all! He never told me he had herpes as he had not had a break out in a while and he was under the impression ( like a lot of others are ) that you can only transmit it if you have a visible sore...Well I am living proof that the virus can be contracted even if your partner has no signs of it.

Or, you could have contracted it from one of your previous partners, and it has lain dormant or just not shown up as a break out until now. I had the IgG blood test, actually I had 2 of them. The first one showed I had no antibodies ( which meant I was recently exposed ) and then months later I had another one which read that I had boarderline positive for the herpes antibody, which proved that I was now positive for HSV2.

It may be best if you both go for the blood test then there will be no guessing and hopefully he will be open to reading this board and other websites which will teach him all about herpes because the medical profession sure does not teach us enough! take care and good luck with the test.